Mike, some of us are old enough to have lived through the abuses in the old tridentine liturgy. Perhaps these have been corrected over the years, It was enough for me never to go back.
With patience and time, any of the abuses that were prevalent during the period allowed for experimentation in the OF will disappear. Many already have.

All of the liturgies I attend have been beautifully celebrated, with a few minor exceptions that I would not label as an “gravissima” abuse.
What people label as abuse is often their personal dislike for practices lawfully allowed by the Church. Since it is foreign to their minds, because they cannot equate them with the TLM of old, they perceive these permissions as evil, abusive, wrongfully allowed, etc.
The internet doesn’t help, either. Having instant access to air their complaints, it is almost like a plague infecting anyone who reads them, if they do not have access to the true teachings of the Church. If I were to ask anyone in my diocese their opinions of the TLM, I would most likely hear, “what’s TLM?”