To be Weds and Newly Weds

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rofl, I wonder if you were in our class?

anyways looks like we are going to finish this lame thing they sell as a class, our last class is this upcoming Saturday.
I am not going to take a pea shooter as I was told if i did the wedding would be off rofl…

so i just figure I will go again this weekend,maybe get drunk before hand, and try to tough it out without assaulting the host couple when they start treating us like 3 yr olds again.
Gonna be hard though made it the first class and I have never let my own Father talk that way to me.cant believe i am going to subject myself to it again…

wish me luck, dont pray please the class is not worthy of a prayer its to rediculous and humiliating I would even go as far as to say its fraudulent by its advertising.

Oh and K: sorry bud the glass got filled up in the first 2 mins of last class and I refuse to empty it for the second, this class should be outlawed just on the basis of stupidity,
I would say theft of the fees we paid but that would probably get me kicked off this forum…
 
Vluvski,
I dug out my music list for you…got married in August:
Prelude …up to your discretion, would like Ave Maria instrumental included
Processional …Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring
Gloria …Glory to God in the Highest, Sing Glory to God….
Responsorial Psalm …You are Near (454 mmi)
Alleluia …Celtic Alleluia (379 mmi)
Offertory …Come to the Water (618)
Holy Holy …Not sure where the music for this one is it may be in Daily Missal
Lord’s Prayer …(874 mmi)
Sign of Peace …Peace (481 mmi)
Flowers to Mothers …Instrumental Ave Maria
Lamb of God …(896 mmi)
Communion …Table of Plenty (301 mmi)
Flowers for Holy Family …Hail Mary Gentle Woman (700 mmi)
Recessional …Ode to Joy (536 mmi)

mmi is Music Missal Issue
 
Well, our class was over 9 years ago, so I don’t recall all the details. We did the weekend retreat, so we were essentially locked in all weekend. I remember thinking I enjoyed the sessions with our sponser couple more, where we did that multiple chioce test and talked about the answers. Until then we had never even thought about if we were going to have joint checkbooks, or some of the basics like that.

The weekend was ok, some good, some bad. Nothing heretical that I can recall, but nothing spectacular either. The thing I remember most was when husband of the younger lead couple shared how he would go home Sunday evening and his wife would say something like, “I haven’t gotten to spend any time with you.” To which he’d reply, “We just spent the entire weekend locked up together at the retreat!” But then he went on to say that he has learned his wife needs more 1 on 1 time, and that spending a weekend together with other people wasn’t the same to her, so he would make the effort to do something (he actually said a wrestling/tickleing session) with her that evening to make her feel better. Even though from his point of veiw he’d just spent 48 hours with her. I thought that was totally cool, and nudged my then-fiance as that sounds exactly like me. The point was that we all have different needs and views and how a loving couple will try to understand and accomdate the other person. Even if it is foreign to their own nature.

It would be nice to assume any inteligent loving couple would just know that, but the divorce rate in this country shows we have to cover these basics.
 
**I envy you people. You get to learn all these wonderful things, even if they’re not directly related to marriage. The way my life was, this stuff is never taught. All my grandma would do is give me a bottle of dish soap, a rag, and run the warm water, and point the dishes out to me and tell me to “wash the dishes”. No instruction as to how. I’ve had many crying moments where I was told to do something but had no idea how and had no instruction whatsoever.

I didn’t even realise what sex was until I got engaged. All from the first questions my fiance had about what I knew about the topic. Needless to say, he’s all in the know and I’m all in the clueless. I tried looking everywhere in the library for a textbook on sex. No luck. I’ve even looked it up in the Bible. I don’t see much in the way of instruction other than laying in the same bed as the spouse and being nude together.

You take so much for granted while I and perhaps others have to learn so many basic things that negligent families don’t teach. They thought my schools would teach me this stuff. They didn’t and I told them so. Yet they thought it’d be better if I learned by experience. That doesn’t work with me. I learn by copying, not experiencing.

I’m looking forward to having a Traditional Roman Catholic Wedding Mass, with a really modest $20 (eep! That’s a lot for me!) wedding dress and a modest nontransparent veil to cover my hair. From then on, I’ll be wearing a veil to Masses and Adoration, not just obeying God and my husband. [sighs happily] Christ, you’re so wonderful. Please hide me in Your wounds, for I blush at the happiness to come.
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Well I lived thru the last and final class, what a severe waste of good trees filling the books they use, and such a waste of other resources used gas,electricity,oxygen, the list goes on and on. the absolute best part of the class was no doubt walking out when it was over but i also have one good memorable part as well, we got to fill out evaluations of what we thought of this class.🙂 even though i am sure they will not bother to send mine to the dictatorships headquarters. they even got thier last humiliation in before allowing us to leave by making us all stand in a circle, then light a candle, and repeat some promise they congered up to each other, of course i am not the participating person when i do not know anyone else there NOR would i want to know them now so i just stood there.

the parts we thought might be interesting about the second class turned out to be so bogus it wasnt even funny, there was a chapter called finances we thought hey they might give us some tips etc but nope was merely an hour long chapter devoted to telling you over and over again how before you even feed yourselves and kids that you need to pop off 10% for the church.
over and over again…bet we heard that at least 35 times during that chapter,well after this class.I will donate to salvation army and other charities they got me for a lot of money over this class between expenses and costs etc.

I wouldnt want my worst enemy having to go thru this class.
But at least I now know what hell is exactly like,
and believe me I feel so sorry for the people stuck for eternity in this class, ITS THAT BAD…

well hopefully no human ever has to be forced to attend this class again. I would rather be skinned alive or burned at a stake than to attend this class again…

My griping is now ended over this thing they call a class 😉

have a good one
John
 
i’m pretty lucky. we’re getting married in one of the few parishes that celebrates the mass according to vatican II and also the tridentine mass. so we will have the normative mass in almost all latin, ad orientem, and with gregorian chant and altar rail. i feel extremely fortunate because i love traditional liturgies.

before mass i would like to have the priest sprinkle the congregation according to that rite with the tune of *asperges me *but i don’t think it’s allowed outside of sunday mass.
 
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