To obey or not to obey?

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Hi!

One of my Godparents would like to meet up with me, but my parents actually forbade me from communicating or meeting up with him.

I have another Godparent but they are also not happy that I contact her. Anyway, my first Godparent has the spiritual knowledge and wisdom I require because I am having a turbulent period in my life now. Can’t continue on my own. And my parents are not really concerned about this problem.

My parents also don’t allow me to trust in my friends in school. I know that they do this because they’re very afraid that I will complain to other people about them, but I won’t complain.

It is already very bad because firstly, I am 20 and secondly, I am living in a state of constant fear of communicating to people that I know.

Please advise. Much appreciated.

Thank you
 
Why in the world would your parents not want you to talk to your Godparents? And why do they think you’ll complain to friends (or anyone else) about them? I get not trusting friends- not because of what my kids would say about ME, but because there are “good” friends who do the right thing are are good influences, and “bad” friends who will lead my kids down the wrong path with bad behavior.
Why are you AFRAID to talk to anyone? This makes no sense to me. Please explain!
 
This is because they think that their reputation will be destroyed because if I talk to my Godparents about my problems and stuffs going on in life, they take it that I don’t trust them and that they failed.

I don’t know why they are so afraid i’d complain to my friends about them…At one point, they thought I complained about them so they told someone a lot of bad things about me 😦

I am afraid of talking to anyone because my parents spy on me many times. And want to know what I am talking about
 
Here’s my advice - sorry if it sound harsh…

If you are 20 years old, then you are an adult and you should start acting like one.

Get a job, get a place of your own and start living your life on your own terms.
 
Have you told them that you just need a trusted person to talk to who is not your parent? That all people need someone to talk to?
Maybe if you asked to be counselled by a trusted priest, they’d be good with that? And you would be good with that, too?
 
Then that’s not right. You need to do what YOU need to do- you’re 20 years old; a young adult. If they don’t like you talking to a PRIEST, then that’s THEIR problem; not yours.

Are you financially dependent on your parents? If so, cut yourself loose. If you live with them, find friends to room with so you can split costs, if you have a job that doesn’t pay well. It’s not easy but you CAN and IMO you MUST.

When I graduated from college, I couldn’t WAIT to move out on my own- and I had/have a great relationship with my parents. It was a rite of passage- becoming self sufficient. There seems to be a mindset of young adults these day who do not want to be on their own. I don’t get that at all.
 
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Heck, no!!!

Honoring your parents does not mean you have to do everything they say; especially if it’s unreasonable…and them not wanting you to talk to a PRIEST is most definitely unreasonable!!!
 
They have tried to cut off my contact with my Godparent (the one who is a priest) by making me delete his number, making me not go for his events, and not letting me see him after mass.
 
they say I should only contact him when it’s an emergency. They say it’s disturbing a busy priest
 
You’re 20 years old, you can make these types of decisions for yourself … contact your Godparents if you want to.
 
I hate to say this, but your parent’s behavior is controlling and manipulative. You need to move out as soon as possible. Unless your Godfather tells YOU not to call you so much, or that he’s really busy, then you’re not.
It’s none of your parent’s business whether you talk to him.
How do they “make” you delete his number? Do they pay for your cell phone? If so- get another one; a “go-phone” that requires no contract and you can control it.

Do you have a job? Friends who you can live with and pay rent with?
 
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Oh no, my parents told me that if I contact my Godfather, they’ll call him and tell him to not call me my Goddaughter anymore.
 
You can’t change reality … reality is you are his Goddaughter and as long as he is okay with talking to you that is all that matters.
 
So he won’t do what my parents say if they call him about it? But I am only afraid he’d do that because of the fourth commandment.
 
@melvfe: Do you have a job? A way to move out with friends or family to get out from under their control? You’ve not answered those questions I’ve been asking.
 
I am still studying in uni. And I am physically disabled so it’s impossible to move away from my house.
 
Nobody I know wants to take care of me. Because they don’t know how to handle me. Only my parents know how to.
 
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