Well, I do know a woman (who is on this forum actually) whose life was in danger, and she had to have an abortion as a result, or she would die. Her priest and bishop both told her she had no other choice. It’s not really for us laypeople to decide. When Catholics go to their priest or bishop for advice or counsel, it’s in their capable hands. They have ALL the information particular to each person, that we don’t have. They know all the questions to ask, and look for particular answers.
I would think that a person was contrite, otherwise, why would they present themselves for confession? Why would they want absolution if they weren’t contrite? It is very possible to have sorrow for something you have done, even if you chose to do it believing it was the only option you had.
Remember, these aren’t abortions on demand that we’re discussing. These are abortions that are being done because the woman has been told that continuing the pregnancy will end her life. I can’t even imagine how sorrowful these women are. And scared.