Government’s job was
never to educate us or provide healthcare. Government’s job is to protect FREEDOM. It is not Government’s business where I choose to send my children for school, or where we get our medical care. PERIOD.
The United States was/is unique in its attempt to form a universal public education system. The strong belief, which I happen to agree with, is that self rule requires informed citizens.
All my children but one went through Catholic school up through high school, but I never felt ‘cheated’ that I was paying taxes for public education while then paying for private education.
My son, who is severely disabled, was unfortunate to be born in a less enlightened time. We were fortunately in that we had the means to pay for treatments and services. It would have been easy to leave it at that. Just because we could afford, say $100,000 a year for his care, does not mean that it was/is easy. We were adament about home care when institutionalization was the norm, and also have been adament that he have opportunitites to belong to the community.
But always in the back of our minds has been the thought, what if we were as poor now and when I was growing up? What about those other children. So we have spent a lot of time and money pushing and supporting things like IDEA. I am not proposing that the system is perfect, it is not. But it has been a tremendous step forward. Community based care is significantly cheaper for society as a whole, and offers dramatically better quality of life for many of the disabled. The principle problem is that it is only partially funded, which creates a unfair burden on school districts for what is a societal medical/care for our weakest members, issue.
I also have been a big proponent of the ADA, primarily because of my experiences in Vietnam, and then remaining involved with injured vets since. And I’ve pushed and pushed for everything from mass transit reform to social security waivers. Rather it is my wheel chair vet neighbor, or the developmentally disabled people I employ as messengers and custodians, my experience is that these people want to work, they want to be productive, and they want feel like they are contributing to the greater good.
With no disregard to your pain, try to hear what you are saying through my ears. You are saying, if you just didn’t have to pay taxes, you’d have enough to get by. The implication seems to be, why should I help people with less? I get more, why can’t they?
Now, the reality is that only a very small percentage of your taxes goes to other families dealing with disabilities or medical problems. But let’s ignore that. How would it sound if I said - what’s your problem? Just make a lot more money - I started in a house with no indoor plumbing and I paid for my son’s care out of my pocket while paying massive taxes…
A fair number of people on these forums don’t have any problem with that sort of thinking. The logic is, I am wealthy because I deserve it, it’s mine, I earned it… But I do have a problem with it. If I had just the slightest change, say being born black in Baltimore, there is an excellent chance I would be in a very different place today.
Now, consider your daughter. I don’t know the circumstances, but I am pretty certain that neither your or your spouse legitimately plans on living forever. What are the chances that she will be Bill Gates? What are the chances that you will be able to leave a massive trust fund to care for her? (No disrepspect, but if taxes are constraining your obtaining care, it seems reasonable to assume, that like many families, you are just keeping your head above water.)
I feel, strongly, that people like your daughter are equal children of God. The fact that they may lead unconventional lives does not mean that they cannot be worthwhile human beings. In fact, the standards we normally measure ourselves by are pretty worthless. I wish I had half the courage of many of the disabled individuals I know.
And I also think that a society is best judged by how it treats its weakest members. We ‘haves’ always get an easy ride. Think about it, in threads here I’ve had people wail about the estate tax as a grave injustice - even though most will never pay it. I may pay it (it is phasing out now, but we’ll see), and don’t have a problem at all. A couple like us is exempted millions, and you can tax shelter quite a bit more. Gift laws let us move what would be serious wealth by most American’s standards while we are still kicking. And, in the end, it ends up being mostly a tax on unrealized capitol gains. The estate tax didn’t seem to stop Paris Hilton from having a wealthy, shallow (at least so far) life, but let’s ring our hands.
On the flip side, I know a nice young man named R.H. He gets up at 4:00 am because it takes hours for him to ride the bus to work. He bags groceries at a super market. He is physically and mentally disabled, so he has to limit his hours lest he loses his social security benefits (his medical costs remain significant). He hates sitting around, so he volunteers the other days each week at the homeless shelter about 10 miles from my house - and we’re worried about Paris Hilton’s inheritance situation.
So, while I am sorry about your situation, and I respect your thoughts about a laisse fair society, I just can’t fathom the idea that in the wealthiest nation on earth - in all of human history, we have children going to bed hungry, disabled vets wihtout homes, and people like R.H., who we try to rob of a sense of self worth even as we just allow him to live at roughly the poverty line.