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Why not instead a list with the heading " Ten reasons for a person to treat another with dignity, compassion and charity"?
Why not instead a list with the heading " Ten reasons for a person to treat another with dignity, compassion and charity"?
This stuff is common sense. Some women simply want to flaunt what they have.I totally agree that BOTH men and women need to dress modestly and I also agree that men are responsible for their own thoughts, but as mature adult women we know what men look for and at (if we didnāt all the soft pornography in advertising etc would soon tell us) and if we know that and if we knowingly choose to show too much, surely we know we are sinning.
Innocence is obviouly an excuse in the very young but surely by the time a girl is developed to the point that she is of interest to normal, even adolesent males she is old enough to have the facts explained to her (ideally) by her mother or father.
What I can never understand is why society seems to tollerate lower standards of modesty in younger women on the āif youāve got it show itā principle. So for example skirts aimed at teanagers and women in their early twenties arre always shorter, tops more skimpy. I know they have beautiful young bodies (after three children Iām very jealous !) which men love to look at but surely that is precisely why they should be more careful how they dress ? They are cirtainly more likely to be viewed lustfully.
My daughter is only a baby but I hope I have the strength of will to teach her that.
Uh-huh, yes and guys like me wear hoodies because weāre off to stalk somebody.This stuff is common sense. Some women simply want to flaunt what they have.
Uh-huh, yes and guys like me wear hoodies because weāre off to stalk somebody.
Everyone, lock up your daughters!Uh-huh, yes and guys like me wear hoodies because weāre off to stalk somebody.
Itās especially worst when said assumption is based solely on looks no?I learned a while ago that assuming things rarely achieves anything good.
Shh! Quiet, I hear a Hunterā¦Everyone, lock up your daughters!
Dear Walking_Home,
Yeaābut instead of putting a band-aide on the situationāwe need to look inward and purify the darkness out of our hearts. That way we wonāt be so affected --by what a person wears.
You can only either tell people what to wear and grow lazy and dependent on such enslavement or you could start cutting off the training wheels and grow up into a someone who no longer cares of whatās outside as much as he/she cares about whatās inside.Given our innate sinfulness and evil desire, there is a two-way responsibility. We must bring our sinful and base passions into subjection by self-denial and rigorous discipline - āpurify the darkness out of our heartsā, but others must also be considerate as to their choice of apparel, so as not to unecessarily enflame passions and be the occasion of temptation in others - āthat way we wonāt be so affectedāby what a person wearsā.
Please donāt judge and make false assumptions and accusations.When it comes to modesty, I think both men and women need to work on it. Women really have no reason to show as much skin as they do sometimes - besides to attract someone sexually - and men need to learn to take control of their own thoughts.
Do you just remove all the liquor without treating the underlying psychological/emotional problems that led to it in the first place? **Do you expect the person to change themselves successfully and become masters over their illness while theyāre locked in a liquor store?
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Of course not!
Going outside on a hot day and seeing women wearing standard, 21st century summer clothes doesnāt compare to being locked in a liquor store. Neither does going to the beach and seeing women in bathing suits. Locking them in a liquor store would be more comparable to locking them in a strip club or porn shop. Of course, no one here is suggesting we do that.:twocents:
I too, find it rather interesting that there are infinitely more threads on this forum advising women on what to wear, than there are advising men to treat all women with respect regardless of where she came from, what she does, what she wears, and what she looks like.Why not instead a list with the heading " Ten reasons for a person to treat another with dignity, compassion and charity"?
So a man isnāt allowed to look and admire a pretty girlās figure??What I can never understand is why society seems to tollerate lower standards of modesty in younger women on the āif youāve got it show itā principle. So for example skirts aimed at teanagers and women in their early twenties arre always shorter, tops more skimpy. I know they have beautiful young bodies (after three children Iām very jealous !) which men love to look at but surely that is precisely why they should be more careful how they dress ? They are cirtainly more likely to be viewed lustfully.
Lost Wanderer, you remind me of my husband when you speak this way.
Thank you for saying this, and for all your posts on this thread (as I have followed them). I think men like you come off as infinitely more respectful of women than those who expect us to cover ourselves to their particular standards in order to gain their respect. Thank you for being a REAL man and standing up and urging other men to take some responsibility.
Dear Paxvobis,Portrait had references from Sacred Scripture to back up his point of view. You had but one misinterpreted and out of context verse.
Okay, the Church as a whole has never defined a dress code. But Iāve read some (or heard it in a homily) that the Pope has issued a minimum standard of dress for women.
Catechism 2552: āModesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires ones choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.ā
If you donāt think that some of the styles of dress I have seen in public are not ādiscreetā and do not provide āevident risk of unhealthy curiosity,ā than we live in two different worlds indeed.
Iām not saying that women should only wear long dresses or dress like Muslims. Pants are fine. I donāt mind if they donāt wear head coverings in Church. But come on now, some people out there do dress way too revealing. I think we all know what Iām talking about. And yes, some of it is sinful! Simple as that! I donāt mean to be condescending. But if youāre going to mount a case that the Catholic Church does not view the choice of clothing as having to do with modesty, than youāre wrong. And donāt trust me. Trust the Catechism, trust Sacred Tradition.
Anyway, in the end, I donāt think you can convince me of your view, and I donāt think I can convince you of my view. I think weāre just gonna have to agree to disagree on this.
Dear Paxvobis,
Cordial greetings and a very good day. Jolly good posts, old chap - keep up the good work.
Those Catholic women who recalcitrantly refuse to submit to our Churchās teaching respecting modest attire, ought to remember that modesty in a woman is a sign that Jesus Christ dwells within her heart. It is a sweet perfume of edification which she is called upon to diffuse. Todayās seductive fashions such as, for example, mini-skirts and brassiair that accentuate the breasts, dishonour and corrupt a Catholic woman and are a sad sign of the sexualisation of Western culture. The aim of such tarty clothing is to seduce and arouse concupiscence, to the detriment of the souls spiritual beauty, which is surely the true goal of our lives.
What is very apparent as one reads some of the posts on this current thread, is the phenomenal impact of the moral revolution of the sixties, which set in train changes which have totally transformed the Western world altogether, changes, I will hasten to add, which have anything but advanced the cause of civilisation. Moreover, it is an undeniable fact that seductive styles of clothing, especially for young women, have played a vital part in the moral and cultural deterioration that we now witness all around us. However, what is so lamentable is that this godless and anti-Christian outlook has penetrated the walls of Holy Mother Church itself, especially in the wake of Vatican II and its new openness to the world. Thus you now have a whole new generation of neo-Catholic orthodox types who are seemingly quite happy to walk and in hand with the world, especially when it comes to such things as choice of clothing, the arts and literature. Indeed, the line of demarcation between Catholic and non-Catholic is gradually fading away, with those who indentify themselves as Catholic to often living like those who have long ago renounced this title. Women attend Holy Mass in the same shameful attire as women who never darken the doors of a church; they listen to the same unwholesome sensory material like rock/pop music and often watch the same unsavoury TV programmes and films as their pagan neighbours. However, I am deviating slightly from the topic under review, but it is, I think, nor wholly irrelevant to the present discussion.
Some insightful preacher once said in a homily on Christian modesty, āMen are lost through women and they are saved through women. By their vanity they will make a man fall; by their modesty, they will save him. The world of morality oscillates between Mary and Eve. As long as modesty is not practiced, the world will not rise from its decadenceā.
Contrary to what has been said, the text in I Samuel 16: 7 cannot be wrested from its context to support and defend the donning of immodest styles of attire. There is a definite distinction to be drawn between physical features, over which one has no control (for example in the context of the Samuel passage, countenance and height v. 6) and oneās choice of clothing. In the case of physical features one simply does not have any choice, thus, for example, a short man cannot help being short and a facially ugly woman cannot help being facially ugly. They were simply born that way. However, we do have a choice when it comes wearing or not wearing seductive clothing unbefitting a profession of godliness, and the Pauline passage over in I Timothy 2: 9 declares that that is so. Therefore, a Catholic woman who disobediently chooses to wear immodest fashions invites censure from from her fellow Catholics for trespassing the boundaries of decency and propriety. This interpetation is surely so obvious that even a blind man on a galloping horse could see it, unless, of course, he was desperate to uphold some particular theory at all costs.
God bless.
Warmest good wishes,
Portrait
Pax
Dear Elven Maid,Back to the original postā¦
*10 - Modesty reflects an understanding of who a woman truly is.
Modesty starts inside a personās heart and mind. Who am I? Why do I exist? If a woman answers she is a beautiful daughter of God, then modesty will naturally follow.
9 - Modesty isnāt about dressing in unattractive clothes as some think it is.
There are too many options in clothing to not give modesty a try. Yes, it might not be the first thing on the rack you go shopping for, but it is worth finding clothing that brings out a womanās beauty without revealing too much.
8 - Modesty attracts the kind of guys you ought to want to attract.
If a woman is afraid that she must turn a manās eye by dressing immodestly, then she should ask herself just what kind of guy does she want to attract?
7 - Mary dressed modestly.
Truly there is no more beautiful woman who ever lived than Mary. Why wouldnāt any woman want to be more like her?
6 - It helps protect women.
A woman can still dress to be beautiful, but the mystery of a womanās body is protected from being used. Modesty provides a needed defense against usage.
5 - It sets a good example for others.
Young girls and teens need good examples of beautiful women who are modest. The attacks of immodest are Legion and we need a good counter-example.
4 - Women are worthy of respect.
Respect can be easily lost when a woman tries to promote herself by being immodest.
3 - It helps your brothers to avoid lust.
Women would be shocked if they were to enter the head of the average modern young man in a crowded room of immodest women. This isnāt to blame an immodestly dressed woman for a manās sin of lust. But, men today need all the help they can get to fight lust and sin. Wonāt you help them?
2 - It shows true beauty.
A womanāt true beauty comes from her dignity of being made in Godās image. If any woman wants to truly reflect Godās beauty, it starts with modesty.
1 - It is a virtue.
Modesty is a virtue that helps control behavior so we do not excite the sexuality of another. It is also a fruit of the Holy Spirit. All of us could use more virtue in our lives.*
I believe these reasons are valid.
I love mini skirts. I must be corrupted.Todayās seductive fashions such as, for example, mini-skirts and brassiair that accentuate the breasts, dishonour and corrupt a Catholic woman and are a sad sign of the sexualisation of Western culture. The aim of such tarty clothing is to seduce and arouse concupiscence, to the detriment of the souls spiritual beauty, which is surely the true goal of our lives.
I love mini skirts. I must be corrupted.
And yes, I am glad you are able read my mind and know EXACTLY why I wear mini skirts, and thus proceed to make judgements on me based on mere assumptions.
What is also sad about this whole thing is that some forget that it is possible to admire the beauty/looks of a man or a woman without having lustful thoughts. We are told that men however are in essence so weak that they cannot control themselves at the sight of the bare skin of a woman. Then there are those who decide how much bare skin is permissable. Since references have been made to admonishments made in 1921, I assume Victorian dress would be acceptable, specifically the kind worn by Queen Victoria after the death of her husband.