I’m not offended at all. I thank you for the kind words. I believe my brothers may disagree with you on “gentle”, especially those in formation.

I’m a stickler for law and for preserving the Franciscan tradition.
What you perceive of naive may be a different way of approaching the world I can’t recall who the bishop was. I read this about five years ago. There was a bishop who made a on month retreat at one of our houses. He later wrote that when he first arrived, his impression was that we were “not in the real world.” He said that after a month, it was he and the secular Catholics who were not in the real world. He pointed to the friars’ world and the world of monks and cloistered nuns. His comment was, “This world is as real as it’s ever going to get.”
I mention the experience of this bishop, because often we get this feedback. We’re naive. We don’t live in the real world. We out of touch with the laity and other things like this. I think the reason that we may give that impression is because we have been formed to maintain total inner silence. What is happening in the world cannot be allowed to enter our mind or our space, because it distracts from the more important, which is contemplating God’s presence in the here and now.
We’re also trained to be very disciplined. Discipline means not to react to crisis and to problems. One looks and sees where one can do some good. What is out of one’s reach, one trusts that God will send the right person or people to deal with it.
I always tell the brothers that even though Jesus put the Pharisees in their place a few times, we’re not Jesus. We’re as sinful or perhaps more than the Pharisees. Christ lives in every human being, even the most sinful. I tell them never to say to a person or say anything about a person that one would not say to Jesus or about Jesus. At the end of the day, every human being is superior to us. If we were not wretched, we would not be in religious life. We would have no need to live a life of penance.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, FFV