Tribunal Unfair

[yessisan]

Thanks, you are absolutely right. It is just discouraging to have to wait 3 1/2 years for the annulment and then have to wait longer. I feel like a dog jumping through hoops but getting no reward for it.

If you already waited this long, waiting a bit more shouldn’t hurt you. The Tribunal wants what is best for you and your wife, they just want to make sure you are in the correct path. Nothing more to it.

 

[masondoggy]

The questions the counselor asks are the same the priest asked. Again, although I will always feel the Tribunal is WRONG, I am going to continue to go to counseling, but only to satisfy them. I am completely satisfied that I no longer have these issues. I am happier right now then I have ever been in my life. My current marriage is great. My wife is wonderful. My life is wonderful.

See, the thing is that even though you feel that you no longer have issues that would prevent you from entering a valid marriage, the Church does not know that for sure. It is the Church’s DUTY to make sure of this. And the only way they can do that is to send you to a counselor to make sure. It’s not meant to make things more difficult for you or cause you grief. It’s the Church doing what her job is…and that is making sure that her children are receiving valid sacraments.

If you truly are over your past and it’s not an issue, then no harm should come by seeing this counselor. Just get it over with and move on.

 

[KCT]

Thanks, you are absolutely right. It is just discouraging to have to wait 3 1/2 years for the annulment and then have to wait longer. I feel like a dog jumping through hoops but getting no reward for it.

Sorry for your situation. Maybe the reward is grace. —KCT

 

[agapewolf]

I am happier right now then I have ever been in my life. My current marriage is great. My wife is wonderful. My life is wonderful.

Except the fact that you current marriage is invalid… which doesn’t really make it great. The way things appear to be isn’t necessarily how things are… (the physical world vs the spiritual world).

And does this mean you are living as brother and sister so you can receive the sacraments? If you are…good for the integrity, but that doesn’t sound like a great marriage either.

Or are you living as husband and wife, in a non-valid marriage, and staying away from the sacraments? Thats not such a great life either.

I hope you view my comments as simply a different perspective of reality. You may get along great with your wife, have a good life etc, but the reality is is that there is a HUGE spiritual issue here keeping you from complete union with the church, or each other.