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Bookcat
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Here avemariasingles.com/
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tafan
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Completely disagree with this advice. 21 is plenty old enough to start looking for a spouse. But, and its a big but, I do think very long term relationships/engagements are a bad idea. The OP is going to medical school, he just needs to be ready to be married during medical school, not the easiest thing in the world, but not that bad either. Lots of people get married when their lives are quite busy, that’s how life works out.
I will agree with the Ave Maria Singles website recommendation, it is very good.
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randomuser
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Dating web sites, to point out the obvious, divert money away from Catholic dioceses and parishes to for-profit companies. It’s not the job of any Catholic parish or diocese to find anyone a spouse, but if marriage is a sacrament then the logical supposition is that said Catholic resources in local, brick-and-mortar churches would not be wholly indifferent to that. It’s money going AWAY from Catholic churches that could go TO those churches if they could simply recognize the value Catholic singles bring to church.
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DeniseNY
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What parish activities are you currently involved in? Have you suggested a singles event to your pastor?So, now the role of Catholic churches to foster the needs of singles and to discern marriage has been outsourced? Brilliant. Why can’t I find a practicing Catholic wife at…oh, I don’t know, at church? It boggles my mind why so many Catholic parishes and dioceses leave so much money on the table (to be frank about it) when Protestant/Evangelical churches are WAY ahead of the curve on this point.
And here’s the ironic part: the very people who complain about growing Muslim births and growing Muslim populations are the same ones who think when someone asks about more (any) ministries for Catholic singles, we’re accusing of wanting to be “entertained” in church or wanting the Church to find us a wife. Amazing.
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HelenRose
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Begin praying for your wife to be. Pray for her safety. Pray for her happiness. And most of pray that you will recognize her when you find her. Let God pick the time and the place. Leave your heart open but prepare yourself to be a good husband.Hi everyone,
I’m currently a college student (21 years old) that’s on track to becoming a doctor. I’ve been a practicing Catholic my entire life and I feel like the vocation of marriage is what I should be pursuing. The problem is, I have trouble meeting practicing Catholic women. I’m friends with quite a few cultural Catholics that I could easily date, but I feel like that could lead me down the path of sin.
Whenever I attend mass, it’s also hard to meet people. Usually everyone runs out right after the mass ends. There’s a youth group in the parish I attend, but it’s mostly filled with younger teenagers (13-17 years old).
What should I do? Are there any prayers specific for finding a spouse?
Thank you and God bless.
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Norseman82
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Witamy. Judging from your screen name, I take it you are Polish? If so, are you in Poland or the US? If you are in the US and are in the Chicago area, have you been to Holy Trinity Polish Mission on Noble and Division? I know they used to have a decent group of young adults. Also, Quo Vadis at St. John Cantius or the St. Mary of the Angels group.Hi everyone,
I’m currently a college student (21 years old) that’s on track to becoming a doctor. I’ve been a practicing Catholic my entire life and I feel like the vocation of marriage is what I should be pursuing. The problem is, I have trouble meeting practicing Catholic women. I’m friends with quite a few cultural Catholics that I could easily date, but I feel like that could lead me down the path of sin.
Whenever I attend mass, it’s also hard to meet people. Usually everyone runs out right after the mass ends. There’s a youth group in the parish I attend, but it’s mostly filled with younger teenagers (13-17 years old).
What should I do? Are there any prayers specific for finding a spouse?
Thank you and God bless.
Is your school Catholic or not? If not, I would repeat the suggestion to try the Newman Center (UIC has a good one, if that is where you are attending).
Another thing: are there any Polish student groups? Hopefully there will be some ladies there that have not been corrupted by secular morality.
Another possibility: National Catholic Singles Conference in Pittsburgh May 19-21 if you are close to there.: nationalcatholicsingles.com/ .
ETA: Once you get into medical school, if you attend a Polish parish or one with a Polish Mass, somehow let the word spread that you are in medical school, that may get a few mothers to encourage their daughters to take notice of you (hey, these days you need to try to reach every potential corner - like fracking aims to extract every possible drop of oil and gas from underground).
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angelic06
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I don’t mean to be rude here, but much of the advice is insulting and patronizing, I think, to the OP, namely about the part telling him how hard med school, etc., will be.
As a college student, he is an adult. Let him make the call as to when to marry. As an aside, I know many doctors, both men and women, who married at various stages, including undergraduate, medical school, residency, etc. I am quite sure the OP knows the challenges ahead. (For the record, I am a 33 year old man.)
Please stick to the topic at hand, namely about finding practicing Catholic women, not about disuading him from dating.
As a college student, he is an adult. Let him make the call as to when to marry. As an aside, I know many doctors, both men and women, who married at various stages, including undergraduate, medical school, residency, etc. I am quite sure the OP knows the challenges ahead. (For the record, I am a 33 year old man.)
Please stick to the topic at hand, namely about finding practicing Catholic women, not about disuading him from dating.
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Xantippe
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Well, he’s having trouble finding practicing Catholic women. It’s not like he’s surrounded by them, and we’re telling him not to take any of them out to coffee.
If somebody fabulous turns up, he should ask her out, but there is some point to mentioning that his circumstances are going to be changing a lot over the next several years, so that whatever his situation is now, things are going to be a lot different in 1-4 years.
For example, once he has a bit more disposable income, long distance internet dating will be a lot more feasible than it would be as a student with a total net worth of three packs of ramen.
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Midwest88
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Tell me about it. - __ -
Yes, I’m married and a student. It’s certainly not impossible.
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Hoosier_Daddy
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I agree. But in defense of others I think some around here can get used to the phenomenon of thread after thread of people flat out panicking about not finding a mate. So the advice can be to relax, focus on your life and things will work out. But that isn’t the case here. A poster who knows his vocation, wishes for advice on finding a good Catholic wife. So advice on how to do that should be helpful. We expect him to work on a medical degree but don’t think he is capable of discerning a partner!?
That’s wrong thinking. My wife was 19 and in college when we got married.
Anecdotal, sure. But doctors, priests, soldiers etc make life long decisions this young.
Give the man credit!
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Walking_Home
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Hi everyone,
I’m currently a college student (21 years old) that’s on track to becoming a doctor. I’ve been a practicing Catholic my entire life and I feel like the vocation of marriage is what I should be pursuing. The problem is, I have trouble meeting practicing Catholic women. I’m friends with quite a few cultural Catholics that I could easily date, but I feel like that could lead me down the path of sin.
Whenever I attend mass, it’s also hard to meet people. Usually everyone runs out right after the mass ends. There’s a youth group in the parish I attend, but it’s mostly filled with younger teenagers (13-17 years old).
What should I do? Are there any prayers specific for finding a spouse?
Thank you and God bless.
Six months ago – you felt your calling was the priesthood. Now you are looking for a wife. I’d say concentrate on your studies and give it time to see where God leads you.
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PseuTonym
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The opposite is more likely: he’s ready to meet women, but not ready to commit to an occupation requiring an enormous amount of education. Plenty of people get married, even though they don’t have degrees. People who cannot read or write get married.
Maybe he should spend a couple of years working part-time, and trying to become friends with women who are already working in related areas: medical doctor, nurse, paramedic, veterinary technician, etc. Then he can ask about their work, and maybe look at the textbooks that they used in school. After all, a woman who isn’t Catholic might know some woman who is Catholic, and might eventually arrange a time and place for the crowd of three to talk.
Another idea is to focus on bee health instead of human health. After all, if we want to continue eating, then we need pollinators. Bee health is a more specialized area, so it’s probably less competitive than medical school. It might require getting into the field and providing some kind of paid or unpaid help to beekeepers in order to get direct access to samples and facts on the ground.
related news:
WINTERSVILLE — Bee populations across the country are facing survival threats, and one Ohio species, the rusty patched bumble bee, has recently been listed as federally endangered.
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The rusty patched bumble bee once was common throughout Ohio. The species occupied a variety of habitats, including prairies, woodlands, marshes, agricultural landscapes, residential parks and gardens.
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According to the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service, bumble bees are not only important pollinators of crops and necessary for native wildflower reproduction, but also for creating seeds and fruits that feed wildlife.
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tafan
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That has got to be one of the most confusing posts of all time. 
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willymonfrete
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Try indian orphanage game.at catholic orphanages some of the girls are looking to get married,you can fill in apllicationa nd send it to them and they will review your situation and then you can meet a woman and if she likes you,you will have a catholic wife.Hi everyone,
I’m currently a college student (21 years old) that’s on track to becoming a doctor. I’ve been a practicing Catholic my entire life and I feel like the vocation of marriage is what I should be pursuing. The problem is, I have trouble meeting practicing Catholic women. I’m friends with quite a few cultural Catholics that I could easily date, but I feel like that could lead me down the path of sin.
Whenever I attend mass, it’s also hard to meet people. Usually everyone runs out right after the mass ends. There’s a youth group in the parish I attend, but it’s mostly filled with younger teenagers (13-17 years old).
What should I do? Are there any prayers specific for finding a spouse?
Thank you and God bless.
I agree its impossible to meet women at church,since they all leave when mass is over and they dont stick around to talk with people.
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Hoosier_Daddy
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Now it’s in the running for second place.That has got to be one of the most confusing posts of all time.
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Norseman82
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http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-isW2dGUbnhw/UNvEcYS679I/AAAAAAAAAnQ/zpVJ3ogylcU/s1600/pope_facepalm.jpg
Filling out an application? You make it sound like adopting a border collie…
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Sarcelle
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Is there a difference?
I get a lot of spam email telling me about the large numbers of Russian and Ukrainian women who are available as mail order brides. If I am not getting those Russian mail order bride emails, I am getting the Latina and Asian mail order bride emails. Anyway, I am not a man so I wonder why I get these emails as I have never been on dating sites or mail order bride sites.
I wonder how many men actually use these mail order bride services.
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ImmaCatholic
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I’m in the same situation as you, except I’m a girl and I’m on track to becoming a pharmacist instead .
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Do you live alone or with your parents? I am lucky enough to have both of my parents together and they have given me everything. My parents are from eastern Europe and I was raised in a very close knit household, both here in the U.S. and abroad. Sometimes I feel like I want to leave and get married, but then I remember that I will never get to have these exact memories and experiences again. When you're married, you're with your spouse the whole time and while this is great too, you will never get to really *live* with your nuclear family again, you know? So cherish the time that you have now!
You're young and you have time, so don't stress! Good luck and God bless you :)
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Norseman82
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Is anyone else thinking the same thing I’m thinking?I’m in the same situation as you, except I’m a girl and I’m on track to becoming a pharmacist instead
Code:Do you live alone or with your parents? I am lucky enough to have both of my parents together and they have given me everything. My parents are from eastern Europe and I was raised in a very close knit household, both here in the U.S. and abroad. Sometimes I feel like I want to leave and get married, but then I remember that I will never get to have these exact memories and experiences again. When you're married, you're with your spouse the whole time and while this is great too, you will never get to really *live* with your nuclear family again, you know? So cherish the time that you have now! You're young and you have time, so don't stress! Good luck and God bless you :)
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