Good comments on this thread.
What puzzles me is that all the men in my life DO make a really good wage, a wage that would allow a wife to stay home with children if the family agrees that this is what they want.
My husband, my brother, my brother-in-laws (2), my cousins and cousins-in-law, my son-in-law, my other daughter’s “boyfriend” (not really, but they spend time together)–they all make a good wage. About half work at “desk” jobs, and the other half are in “physical” jobs.
Of course, we are all white, and that has given our families advantages in the past (and some say those advantages are still there).
But there are plenty of white men who are chronically unemployed, or who are employed but don’t earn a high enough wage to have a one-paycheck family.
Only one of our family members lives “high” (huge home in Chicago area, several trips a year to exotic vacation destinations, etc.). But he’s a lawyer and an electrical engineer, and he spent about 12 years in college and grad school and law school to get to where he is. It certainly didn’t fall into his lap.
One of our family members doesn’t live high, but he owns over 40 properties including a farm. They were inherited, but he has no trouble keeping them up.
The rest of us live pretty simply in smallish, older homes, drive older cars, and generally take vacations to visit each other rather than flying to a recreational destination. We do fine, and our expanding waistlines demonstrate that we have plenty to eat! Not sure what retirement will bring, though.
So what makes our family males succeed in their choice of jobs, while others struggle? I think it would be good for social scientists to study people like us and see why we are doing OK while so many others languish here in the U.S. Interestingly, all of these family members, both the lawyer and the farmer and all the rest, with only one exception, voted for Pres. Trump. None of us agree with much of anything the Democratic Party supports. Is that a factor?
Like I said, an interesting study. Rather than putting in so many study hours on those who do NOT succeed, or on those who succeed beyond their wildest dreams, why not study the regular guy who is doing OK?