The fact that you were concerned enough to ask the question is enough for me to be concerned. I think you should trust your intuition, and be very careful when your uncle is around, and don’t allow him to be alone with your son. You don’t have to make a big deal of it, and you don’t have to say anything specific to your uncle. But do be on the alert.My uncle came to stay for awhile. He is my favorite uncle. I have a 2 yr. old son. I am very weary of guys since as a child I have been molested and now as a parent. I never let my son out of my sight basics shadowing him. I have noticed things but do not know what to think of it. My uncle often runs his fingers through my sons hair and a couple of times blew on his neck for play but the oddest thing is my uncle was sitting on the couch and my son goes over and puts his hands on my uncles legs and my uncle names like legs yes those are legs than my son goes upward and places his hand on my uncles private parts. I figured ok he is a baby Crouse etc. well the more odd part is my uncle did not say anything like no don’t put hands there etc. I seen this and said no get your hand off of there. Then my son put his hand on my uncles belly and then my uncle said belly like continued listing the body parts. I just don’t know what to think since it did not happened the opposite was than that would be molestation. I know it is not my son to blame. Why didn’t my uncle say anything? Should I be concerned other am I just overreacting?
:tiphat:I don’t know why, but this thread title makes me think of the song “Me and My Uncle” by the Grateful Dead. Now I have that song stuck in my head. OK, carry on…
My grandfather was born in the 1932 and he still was affectionate with his children, nephews, nieces, and grandchildren. Maybe a little more rough and tumble with the boys, but I’m sure he blew on their necks every now and then.My dad’s generation (born in the 1930s). It was very sad, when he went to work, I got a hug and a kiss, my brother got a handshake.
I agree and disagree. The OP has every right to be vigilant of her son BUT she needs to be careful that she doesn’t let her childhood experiences color her son’s interactions with men – how is he going to learn to be a man? When you go through an experience like the OP had, it’s very easy to see sexual interest at every corner, so to speak. I think maybe she needs some counseling/guidance from someone trusted so that she allows normal man/boy interaction but can still keep her vigilance to protect her son.The fact that you were concerned enough to ask the question is enough for me to be concerned. I think you should trust your intuition, and be very careful when your uncle is around, and don’t allow him to be alone with your son. You don’t have to make a big deal of it, and you don’t have to say anything specific to your uncle. But do be on the alert.