It’s not much different than me going along with my wife and kids to some puppet show at the local library, when I can think of a zillion things I’d rather be doing. But, my wife likes it that I go along, even when I’m not in the mood. And I almost always enjoy it anyways.
It’s waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay different.
Please do not use the analogy you mentioned above in comparing the martial embrace to family functions. Apples and oranges there, sorry.
OK, lets discuss those differences. One is about sex, the other one isn’t. But that’s the whole idea of analogy, to use something slightly different to illustrate the similarities.
The other big difference in my analogy; it is the husband who is doing something he doesn’t particularly care for. Apparently is is acceptable for a woman to expect self-sacrifice from her husband, but how dare a husband expect self-sacrifice from his wife?
Beyond that, I don’t see enough of a different to make the analogy not worthwhile.
Perhaps it is the level of self-sacrifice. It is riskier for a woman to be physically intimate because of the rigors of pregnancy. But that is just a difference in magnitude.
I could draw an analogy that my wife sleeps more soundly when I’m also in the house, as opposed to overnight business trip. She is enjoying a benefit because she knows that if there ever is an intruder, he will have to step over my dead body to harm her or the children. If she weren’t in the house, I could take measures to protect my life instead. She enjoys a benefit of my “potential” self sacrifice. Frankly, if a guy is coming in the window, I would rather be heading out the door. But I made a promise to love someone else more than I love myself. But I’m sure you’ll find this analogy way different too.
Because it’s good - period. When a couple is married, and they share the intimate embrace they are doing something good. Even if one or the other, or even both aren’t particularly in the mood.
Because it strengthens the marriage.
Because it gives us children.
Because it builds unity.
Because “having sex” with anyone else who DOES want to would be a mortal sin.
What you have described above, while true, can only be seen as using your spouse if they are not a willing participant.
Well, if it’s true then it’s true. If that’s the case, then no, that is not the
only way to interpret it.
Because “having sex” with anyone else who DOES want to would be a mortal sin.
huh?
Are you saying If he doesn’t get it from me, he’ll get it elsewhere?
Not really. Are you saying that you expect a husband to be man enough to master his urges, but you on the other hand do not have to be woman enough to deserve him?
This attitude really peeves me. Some women are so keen on their right to a pure husband, but they bloody-well don’t want to lift a finger to help him out with his struggles.
