When I was in my late 20s I was in a relationship with a man whom I really loved (or thought I did, and turned out for all the wrong reasons). I ended the relationship because his behaviors were unacceptable. For months, I was actually in a state of emotional turmoil. I kept thinking of a date, arbitrary one I chose, when the intense pain would be no more or at least be minimized. That date came. That pain was minimized. Three years later I had the opportunity to “renew” this relationship. I couldn’t wait to get out of that guy’s company. LOL.
Unrequited love? The ultimate example would be Jesus who loved this world but the world hated him and many continue to hate him (Freedom from Religion Foundation and ACLU for instance)
Maybe this person who dumped you might not be a person who would lead you to heaven if you stayed with him/her. That is really the most important thing with any relationship, whether romantic, friendship or whatever.I don’t know if this would work for you, but I have used this rationalization in the past.
Think about every negative trait/quality of that person. Then, tell yourself you are not missing out on as much as seems so. This is a good way of tricking your mind out of the sadness.
And, prayer for God to bring you the person that He wants for you. Apparently, this ‘non-interested guyfriend’ of yours, is not the ‘one’ God wants for you.
Lord, I offer you this day with gratitude and praise. You know my heart’s desires and my longing to be with someone who would love me, and in turn, I could love with my whole being. Despite my own choice, I dedicate my heart to you Lord and I affirm that to be pleasing to you is my life goal. I surrender to you my heart and I offer it to you in full submission, obedience and trust that you will give me that person who will help me fulfill my purpose in life which is to be Christ-like. Lead me towards that person Lord, and bestow on me the grace of the Holy Spirit so that as I walk towards that path that leads me to the right person, I will be molded into someone who is also capable of leading him towards a life with you at its center. I pray this with humility and acceptance that your will is sovereign, and with full, child-like trust that you will take care of me so that ultimately I will be led towards you and your Kingdom. Amen.
And I found this blog which is similar to your situation, you are not alone:
christian-dating-service-plus.com/blog/unrequited-love.html/comment-page-1#comment-87576
Blessings to you! Offer your suffering up to God for someone else that needs help, doing this makes me feel better as well.
Let him go you’ll be much happier and if a guy isn’t into you he never will be so spare yourself the agony.
My advice is to not depend on any one person’s feelings as a means for your happiness. Your heart is restless until it rests in God. If you depend on God and make it known to Him that you desire to find your soulmate or to have a family, it will happen if Jesus remains the focal point, the pinnacle of your own love. Love God interestedly and love others disinterestedly, that is appreciate each person because they are who they are and you will have peace of heart and mind, because ultimately we are all individual proofs of God.
I am a unmarried man in my mid twenties. Unrequited love is part of the story of my life
I have been in your situation with women many times. One thing I have learned about it all is that time heals. You get over people. There is nothing we can do about it when you like someone and they don’t feel the same way about you. The only option is to get over them.
But I know my Lord understands. Time will heal. Same with you! Tell our Lord how you feel. Know that you are not alone in the way you feel and give it time. God bless. the only reason why u must be stayin in contact with her is because you care for her alot and the same case is with me. but down the line if i will keep in touch with him i dont really knw for sure. even if i do i will have to maintain a distance. Its been a week i havent spoken to him and im missing him alot already.I am a unmarried man in my mid twenties. Unrequited love is part of the story of my life
I still think about times in the past where I liked someone who did not feel the same about me. Although I am completely over the person, the memory can still hurt. Especially since I feel this way right now about a woman. I think about her a lot but I try to cut myself off when I can. I am not really in contact with this woman at this time. I contact her every couple months or so just to say hi but I think that should stop because staying in contact with her is obviously more important to me than it is to her.
I pray, I tell our Lord how I feel when I would like to tell someone how I feel but I wont talk about these things with other people. Not even friends. I am too macho to talk about my hurt feelings
thanks for the blog … ive been trying to do what u have told me to do.I don’t know if this would work for you, but I have used this rationalization in the past.
Think about every negative trait/quality of that person. Then, tell yourself you are not missing out on as much as seems so. This is a good way of tricking your mind out of the sadness.
And, prayer for God to bring you the person that He wants for you. Apparently, this ‘non-interested guyfriend’ of yours, is not the ‘one’ God wants for you.
Lord, I offer you this day with gratitude and praise. You know my heart’s desires and my longing to be with someone who would love me, and in turn, I could love with my whole being. Despite my own choice, I dedicate my heart to you Lord and I affirm that to be pleasing to you is my life goal. I surrender to you my heart and I offer it to you in full submission, obedience and trust that you will give me that person who will help me fulfill my purpose in life which is to be Christ-like. Lead me towards that person Lord, and bestow on me the grace of the Holy Spirit so that as I walk towards that path that leads me to the right person, I will be molded into someone who is also capable of leading him towards a life with you at its center. I pray this with humility and acceptance that your will is sovereign, and with full, child-like trust that you will take care of me so that ultimately I will be led towards you and your Kingdom. Amen.
And I found this blog which is similar to your situation, you are not alone:
christian-dating-service-plus.com/blog/unrequited-love.html/comment-page-1#comment-87576
Blessings to you! Offer your suffering up to God for someone else that needs help, doing this makes me feel better as well.
That’s what Mary said: “Do whatever he tells you!”
I’m probably not the best person to give out advice on this topic, but I’m sort of in this situation right now. I like a guy but haven’t told him, he likes someone else but hasn’t told her, and she’s in a relationship already. We’re both totally smitten with our respective crushes, but we don’t want to be jerks… So we’re just waiting right now, hoping that something will change.
I don’t know if this applies to you, but when I was young, I used to tend to ‘idealise’ people (and things and conversely, could ‘demonise’ people and things as well.)
One person I used to know defined depression as “feeling lower than a snake’s belly in a wagon-rut”.
Tennyson combined some of the highest language mastery with depression in a life-long struggle.
I heard that Mother Teresa experienced a depression that lasted most of her life. Interesting to know how she ever got anything done!
