Update #3 re: Alcoholic Husband

[tinamn]

My husband got a lawyer for the hearing, so they asked for a continuance, which basically means the OFP is in place now for another month. He tried to pass a letter to me; the judge said no since it would violate the order. Since that time, he created a new email account and emailed the letter to my sister, who then forwarded it to me.

He also used my credit card account (he is an authorized user, but he has his own personal card) to pay for his lawyer - this in effect maxed out my card. I found this out at the same time that I found out he had removed a significant amount of money from the bank account (I had already removed some myself, to make a new account so I could protect myself and have money to pay bills/feed kids).

He’s been badgering my parents and my sister ever since, trying to find out what I’m doing, if I’m filing for divorce, if I’ll give him another change, etc etc etc. All of this is a violation of the order, but I don’t really want him in jail/losing his job. I’ve been instructed that any further communication has to be reported… and I will do that.

I did just get a call from the daycare, he called to say he was coming to visit. She told him he couldn’t and I hope that is the end of it. I don’t believe that is a violation of the order, so there’s nothing I can do about it. I did call to warn the school just in case.

 

[Catholic1954]

My husband got a lawyer for the hearing, so they asked for a continuance, which basically means the OFP is in place now for another month. He tried to pass a letter to me; the judge said no since it would violate the order. Since that time, he created a new email account and emailed the letter to my sister, who then forwarded it to me.

He also used my credit card account (he is an authorized user, but he has his own personal card) to pay for his lawyer - this in effect maxed out my card. I found this out at the same time that I found out he had removed a significant amount of money from the bank account (I had already removed some myself, to make a new account so I could protect myself and have money to pay bills/feed kids).

He’s been badgering my parents and my sister ever since, trying to find out what I’m doing, if I’m filing for divorce, if I’ll give him another change, etc etc etc. All of this is a violation of the order, but I don’t really want him in jail/losing his job. I’ve been instructed that any further communication has to be reported… and I will do that.

I did just get a call from the daycare, he called to say he was coming to visit. She told him he couldn’t and I hope that is the end of it. I don’t believe that is a violation of the order, so there’s nothing I can do about it. I did call to warn the school just in case.

You should consider closing all accounts that he has access to and ask your family to ignore any future communication from him. He sounds highly manipulative.

 

[AClaire11]

My husband got a lawyer for the hearing, so they asked for a continuance, which basically means the OFP is in place now for another month. He tried to pass a letter to me; the judge said no since it would violate the order. Since that time, he created a new email account and emailed the letter to my sister, who then forwarded it to me.

He also used my credit card account (he is an authorized user, but he has his own personal card) to pay for his lawyer - this in effect maxed out my card. I found this out at the same time that I found out he had removed a significant amount of money from the bank account (I had already removed some myself, to make a new account so I could protect myself and have money to pay bills/feed kids).

He’s been badgering my parents and my sister ever since, trying to find out what I’m doing, if I’m filing for divorce, if I’ll give him another change, etc etc etc. All of this is a violation of the order, but I don’t really want him in jail/losing his job. I’ve been instructed that any further communication has to be reported… and I will do that.

I did just get a call from the daycare, he called to say he was coming to visit. She told him he couldn’t and I hope that is the end of it. I don’t believe that is a violation of the order, so there’s nothing I can do about it. I did call to warn the school just in case.

If he is violating the order, you need to report it.

 

[Irishmom2]

My husband got a lawyer for the hearing, so they asked for a continuance, which basically means the OFP is in place now for another month. He tried to pass a letter to me; the judge said no since it would violate the order. Since that time, he created a new email account and emailed the letter to my sister, who then forwarded it to me. Your sister needs to stop helping him by passing things on.

He also used my credit card account (he is an authorized user, but he has his own personal card) to pay for his lawyer - this in effect maxed out my card.Cancel that card and get a new one in your name only. I found this out at the same time that I found out he had removed a significant amount of money from the bank account (I had already removed some myself, to make a new account so I could protect myself and have money to pay bills/feed kids).

He’s been badgering my parents and my sister ever since, I hope that by now they have blocked his number and if he uses someone else’s phone that they just hang up on him. trying to find out what I’m doing, if I’m filing for divorce, if I’ll give him another change, etc etc etc. All of this is a violation of the order, but I don’t really want him in jail/losing his job. Why not? This really sounds like you are making excuses for him, he needs to deal with reality. And he consequence of violating the order is jail.,I’ve been instructed that any further communication has to be reported… and I will do that.

I did just get a call from the daycare, he called to say he was coming to visit. She told him he couldn’t and I hope that is the end of it. I don’t believe that is a violation of the order, You should find out for certain.so there’s nothing I can do about it. I did call to warn the school just in case.