Update on DS Catholic school

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Hi Everyone!

First, thank you for dear @Dacinom and @Emilysue for their beautiful support. If we truly want to expand the culture of life, kids need to be exposed to all of God’s creatures. And it often does not take $30,000-$60,000 for an education for all these kids. However, when I see fundraisers for new sports fields, equipment, dugouts, and see the special education budget cut $250,000 in our district, there is something wrong. The sports fundraisers took place at our Catholic school.

However, a very curious series of events has happened in May (God Bless Our Virgin, ever unfailing). There was a bullying talk among the freshman during theology class. And now, each freshman has to give a bullying talk as a class assignment. Word from parents I know is that they are avoiding this school for another Archdiocese school.

And I can finally say that the worse three young girls of 15 had their seats moved and sternly talked to by the teacher over the behavior to my son. They were finally overheard making very crude sexual suggestions to my son during class and/or lunch. Oddly all 3 are on the volleyball team…one that is highly ranked.

Perhaps our extra prayers for them helped. I’ll never be sure. However, I will remove my son because it was reported that SSA teens were saying inappropriate things. Note: my son refuses to report anything anymore because his concerns are brushed aside. Sadly, I often thought he was of less worth to the school than these girls. They are a tool for sports recruiting. My son is a recruit for what? Catholic Indentity?

So, I will pray for these girls and help my son cope with the remainder of the year. I look forward to June 14. At that time we will join a home school allegiance of like-minded Catholic families.

I also pray that the school’s namesake will intervene on the school’s behalf. Such a sad year.
 
That sounds terrible. I feel bad at your son had to hear those things.
 
Based on these threads, I would reccomend you write a letter to your Arcdiocesean Superintendent concerning these issues.

Catholic Education should be better than this. I’m so sorry.
 
Thank you. They are so vulgar I dare not repeat them here. He is demoralized.
 
Maybe attempt to push it further, or even try to set up an appointment with the superintendent or archbishop.

If anything (this would require prayerful discernment) you could go to the media.
 
Actually, I called but didn’t write. There are assistant superintendents assigned to the school. Perhaps I will do that.

Besides mild Aspergers, he suffers from anxiety and ADHD. The last thing I wanted to do is drug him up on medications to make it through school. Sometimes the drugs were worse than the problem being treated. One boy called him a sissy for running back to cyberschool. My son said, “You don’t know the whole story and I don’t want to talk about it.” Never insulting, never violent. He told me he would pray quietly.

As far as contacting the media, we strive to be a drama free household. We rather pray, fast and abstain than resort to that. I truly feel sorry for our principal. Except with the death of a fellow priest, I never saw one cry. I devote an hour of Adoration every week for his intentions.
 
God bless you and thank you for the kind words and encouragement.
 
Hmm, it seems like someone in administration, or at least a theology teacher, is aware there’s a bullying problem and is trying to do something. Probably a freshman class assignment won’t do a whole lot, but maybe it will plant some seeds in kids’ hearts (I’ll pray that it does!). I agree with Monica’s comments that typical kids absolutely need to be exposed to peers who have various disabilities. After all, how can we possibly expect Catholic students to promote the culture of life if they are exposed only to high-achieving students without disabilities?

I’m praying that the rest of the school year passes calmly and quickly for your son. And I’m praying for the school, too, that they are able to turn things around for the sake of students who come after your son.
 
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At @emilysue, we offered to endow a talk about invisible disabilities. Not only ASD, but OCD, ADHD, GAD, bipolar, manic depressive, etc. nothing. They said the bullying talk will cover it. Finally his math teacher moved one of the troublesome girls’ desk. Sadly, his theology class has one of the other troublesome girls. She already mentioned walking out the door that she was going to do her presentation on my son. The girl it to was not receptive of the suggestion.

But this talk will entail all I want to point out. Sadly, I fear there will be a pre-natal test for ASD…and those babies will be aborted.
 
I think the freshman that want to transfer have the admin/teachers scared. Because now is the time to commit.
 
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I’m sorry your son is having a hard time. Just thinking out loud, but I wouldn blame Catholic education specifically too much. Teens can be cruel to one another, especially anyone who stands out as “different.” That’s going to be an issue in 98% of schools to some extent, whether Catholic or not.

Again, just thinking out loud.
 
He really doesn’t stand out as much as the other Aspie classmate…except he is know as the tall, ripped freshman. That makes his stand out and he is chaste. So, two strikes there. Education is the key. These kids are not going away.
 
And the public schools have better discipline—but more sex—than the Catholic school. At least he can talk about his faith there.
 
Please remember different is not bad…it is different. God made us different, but in His likeness and image. I see this as this not being taught at home.
 
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At @emilysue, we offered to endow a talk about invisible disabilities. Not only ASD, but OCD, ADHD, GAD, bipolar, manic depressive, etc. nothing. They said the bullying talk will cover it. Finally his math teacher moved one of the troublesome girls’ desk. Sadly, his theology class has one of the other troublesome girls. She already mentioned walking out the door that she was going to do her presentation on my son. The girl it to was not receptive of the suggestion.

But this talk will entail all I want to point out. Sadly, I fear there will be a pre-natal test for ASD…and those babies will be aborted.
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It makes me so sad for you and your son, @domer90 , that this is happening at a Catholic school. Our Catholic school has been trying more and more to open to kids with non-standard learning needs. Even the first student with Down Syndrome. That’s gone well this year, so I’m hopeful that they’ll be more open to other disabilities now.

On the subject of disabilities and abortion, two of the children on my son’s soccer team have siblings with Down Syndrome (one of those is the student I mentioned above). It really struck me this season – how many other places, other than a Catholic school, would you find 2 of the 18 kids on a team having siblings with Down Syndrome? So many babies with DS are aborted before they are born. It’s tragic. And I’m sure if there were prenatal tests for other disabilities that some people would choose to abort those babies too. The mentality of culture of death is so strong in our society… Catholic schools need to take more of a lead in this, and IMO that starts by welcoming students with disabilities (visible or invisible).
 
Different definitely isn’t bad necessarily, but teens may not be mature enough to get that yet.
 
If my REC gradeschoolers can get it, and if public school middle schoolers can get, it’s really tough for me how high school kids can’t get it.
 
@emilysue, this is so heartwarming. My son’s developmental pediatrician wanted to have us travel to Boston to draw blue for a full DNA sequence on my son to identify ASD. I said NO. The last thing I wanted was to have scientists develop a test to screen babies for ASD.

Our Archdiocese is in financial ruins because of the priest scandal. We were hit very hard because of financial payouts. Many left the Church and there are complaints that tuition is high. This is in an area where public schools are better educationally than Catholic school. Many Cafeteria Catholics go there, and it is often because of 1) the drama program and 2) the kids want to continue to play sports. I can tell you it is not for the education,because the public school are ranked higher than the Catholic school.

For some reason, the troubled/vulgar girl was moved back to her seat by my son. She was only moved when she took the test yesterday. We are totally frustrated. This year can’t end soon enough. God bless.
 
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