What about the “evidence” of “faithfilled” and loving, fruitful polygamous unions? Homosexual unions? Should they be taken to mean that these unions are good things too? Is this what they mean in the first synod report when they referred to “positive aspects” of imperfect situations? Your ideas are dangerous. And they too earily resemble the arguments Episcopalians have made to justify all manner of evil situations. It is telling that one of the german cardinals spoke of how he could not disregard a gay couple who have faithfully cared for each other for 50 years. Fruits, huh?

What a conveniently subjective test for objective truth.
2nd marriages may be better simply because the persons involved are more mature this time around or are better suited to each other in their personalities and idiosyncrasies. Marriages are friendships and a whole lot of things factor into how the friendship gets along besides its objective sinfulness or validity Your ideas follow along the lines of the modernist doctrine “If it makes me happy, it must be good!”