Was my silence grave matter?

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I was in the car today with a bunch of people from my school, and the driver (a student at my school whom I don’t know very well) had on a station playing songs with some really raunchy lyrics. I wondered at the time if it would be a mortal sin to remain silent and not ask them to change the station. Although I knew it could be mortal, I remained silent because I was too afraid to say something.
I’m wondering if this would constitute a situation in which it would be grave matter to remain silent.
 
I was in the car today with a bunch of people from my school, and the driver (a student at my school whom I don’t know very well) had on a station playing songs with some really raunchy lyrics. I wondered at the time if it would be a mortal sin to remain silent and not ask them to change the station. Although I knew it could be mortal, I remained silent because I was too afraid to say something.
I’m wondering if this would constitute a situation in which it would be grave matter to remain silent.
I’m pretty sure that this doesn’t constitute as a grave sin. The fact that you are questioning whether it was or not means that it wasn’t a mortal sin for you.
 
At worst, a venial sin…
2480 Every word or attitude is forbidden which by flattery, adulation, or complaisance encourages and confirms another in malicious acts and perverse conduct. Adulation is a grave fault if it makes one an accomplice in another’s vices or grave sins. Neither the desire to be of service nor friendship justifies duplicitous speech.** Adulation is a venial sin when it only seeks to be agreeable, to avoid evil, to meet a need, or to obtain legitimate advantages.**
Possibly no sin at all. It would depend on all the circumstances. You were the passenger in someone else’s car, which is a bit like being a guest in someone else’s house. We are not usually obliged to speak up about what other people do in their own homes.
 
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If you are worried about it, I would suggest just bringing it up to the priest next time you go to confession. That way, you can forget about it and not be stressed out about it. Ask him for advice on next time the situation happens–it can be tough sometimes with those things because you don’t want to seem “holier than thou”.

Usually if I am in the car with people wanting to play that, I just ask them to turn it off or change the radio station. They are all pretty understanding for me at least. Even when I don’t know them very well.
 
Thanks for the responses.
Edmundus, I think you might have misunderstood; I wasn’t actually talking about adulation.
I guess my thought was that this might cause scandal, because by not speaking up about this, it would seem like I was fine with the music being played–which I wasn’t.
 
While admonishing the sinner is a work of mercy,
you must remember that most people are not faithful, practicing Catholics
nor do they purport to be.

St. Paul told us that he wrote to us (the church) not to have anything to do with
The World, not meaning at all having nothing to do with those who do not practice the Faith, for, as he put it, then you would have to get off the planet , or “out of the world.”
No, he said,
I wrote to you to QUIT MIXING IN COMPANY WITH ANYONE CALLED
A “BROTHER” (in Christ!!!) WHO IS A FORNICATOR, AN ADULTERER, A THIEF, IDOLATOR, BLASPHEMER, ETC ETC ETC, NOT EVEN SO MUCH AS EATING A MEAL WITH SUCH A MAN (OR WOMAN, not to leave the ladies out!!!), FOR HE WHO EVEN SAYS SO MUCH AS A GREETING to the wicked Christian BECOMES A SHARER IN HIS WICKED WORKS (although this second half, about not even saying a greeting to the wicked Christian, is from a different apostle and refers to Christians who teach FALSE doctrines and false moral teachings).

Riding in the car with worldly people doesn’t fall under any of these above condemnations, unless these people are claiming to be faithful Catholics while blasting obscenity and immoral filth on the car radios. THEN you can call them on it, because that is scandalous.

By the way, the apostolic COMMAND (not request, but COMMAND) to have NOTHING TO DO with Evil, disobedient, false-teaching-embracing-or-promoting Catholics, should give us all pause. The Holy Spirit hasn’t changed. Are we supporting Catholics for public office who flout church teachings? Are we sending donations to fund these disobedient, heretical Catholics’s campaigns?? If so, we are (no way around it) SHARING in their wicked works and FINANCING their spreading of apostasy, for which the LORD will, most definitely, hold us accountable. We simply cannot do that and be in friendship with God.

Another thing to check, if you have any doubts, is if any religious society to which you belong is, in fact, in dissent and/or PROMOTING dissent from Catholic teachings.
I belonged to a Saint Jude League that is Claretian run, out of Chicago. But these priests and brothers, this order, also publish a magazine called U.S. Catholic.
Well, I had heard bad things about this mag and the order which publishes it, but didn’t believe it, until, for two months straight now, I have read the online editions of it. It publishes blasphemous, horrible articles, even ones wherein commentators DARE to claim that THE HOLY SPIRIT is behind the move to have men marry other men !!!
Can you imagine a Catholic magazine publishing horrific, demonic “doctrines of devils” like this trash? I wrote to the order, demanded to be removed from their Jude league, and demanded them to go thru their donations records and write me a check for EVERY LAST DIME that I have ever given them (and they HAD BETTER comply with that demand).
The reason these things make me so angry is that I came from a liberal denomination, and attended liberal protestant churches. 25 years ago, I visited an orthodox ELCA Lutheran parish, enjoyed the service, and picked up a copy of The Lutheran from their literature rack (the ELCA’s magazine then). First article was an interview with a female “priest” with (of course) a very mannish, marine-type haircut, no makeup, etc., all the trappings, you get the idea, and I said (as it turns out accurately), UH-OH, THIS denomination is Apostasizing… Well, 25 years later, the elca’s pronouncements have proved my 25 years ago fears 100% correct. The Claretians’s US Catholic magazine is doing the same things that were being done in the lutheran magazine 25 years ago: promoting homosexuality (the active lifestyle), disobedience to the magisterium, STILL shilling for the ordination of women, you name it, they publish articles in favor of it.
They are trying, thru this mag, to lead Catholics into open apostasy.

Anyway, I digress (though validly!!). But no, you did not sin by not raising cain about the bad music being played. Next time, you might say, you know guys, I find that offensive, can you change the radio channel??
 
Thanks for the responses.
Edmundus, I think you might have misunderstood; I wasn’t actually talking about adulation.
I guess my thought was that this might cause scandal, because by not speaking up about this, it would seem like I was fine with the music being played–which I wasn’t.
I understood. The word “adulation” here is used to cover " flattery, adulation, or complaisance", that is, how we respond verbally to other peoples malicious acts. Silence can be an affirmation of those acts, or it may not be. I agree that it doesn’t match exactly, however if “adulation” as defined here is a venial sin when it is done for the sake of agreeableness, then surely silence is a venial sin too (or none at all).

You mention “scandal”. The Catechism says.
2284 Scandal is an attitude or behavior which leads another to do evil. The person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense.
So, ommission (ie. silence) can also be scandal. However, as with adulation, it is only a grave offence if the intention is to deliberately cause another to sin.
 
Thanks for the responses.
Edmundus, I think you might have misunderstood; I wasn’t actually talking about adulation.
I guess my thought was that this might cause scandal, because by not speaking up about this, it would seem like I was fine with the music being played–which I wasn’t.
Trust your instinct here …you are right, in that silence is consent. I think only if they knew you were Catholic, would scandal be given by your silence.

Whether this is a mortal sin, I think best get advice from a priest - it takes full and deliberate knowledge/will to commit a grave sin, so it would seem not.

Thank you for posting this…something of a ‘wake-up call’ to all of us, to be better prepared to “fight the good fight” as it is said that ‘evil will flourish, when good men do nothing’:eek:
 
I would say you did not sin at all - pray for the courage and wisdom to speak out respectfully when in these positions - theres nothing wrong with speaking out if its done the right way - if its going to be done in a disrespectful way then its better to be quiet.
 
I think only if they knew you were Catholic, would scandal be given by your silence.
Some of them did know, though I hadn’t thought of that at the time.

I’m concerned–should I receive communion today? It wasn’t as if I did this and then later wondered whether it was mortal or not–it was at the time that I wasn’t sure about it, but I took the chance.
 
It is great that you have a very sensitive conscience, but please, don’t get too upset by this. You said at the time you were not sure, so there is nothing deliberate here, therefore, it cannot be a grave sin that you knowingly and deliberately committed.

These matters of moral judgment are always difficult and even theologians and priests differ in what they consider to be even venial sin in some matters.

Seems this area of moral conscience is something of a learning curve for each individual, and it is a very good and healthy sign that you are aware of what countless other good practising Catholics would think irrelevant. Make use of all these types of experiences to develop your moral conviction…and be kind to yourself. God loves you.

Keep praying, especially to the Holy Ghost who guides us all, if we only just ask.
 
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