What about dress code

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I was just curious about other churches besides the one I attended. The church I went to didn’t really seem to have a dress code except for no tank tops. what is the dress code like at you church? do any of you wear the hair covering?
 
No official dress code; women are asked to dress modestly, head coverings are worn by very few and are neither required nor requested; men are reminded to dress as if meeting with their boss, jeans are discouraged to no avail.
 
I go to a Traditional Chapel that offers the Tridentine Mass exclusively. The dress code is jacket and tie for men on Sundays and Holy days. For ladies; skirt or dress below knee and head covering.
 
I am saddened at our parish-folks come in jeans, shorts, tanks tops, etc. It’s extremely disrespectful to God. Wh just got a new pastor, but he seems very 70’s (touchy feely), so I don’t think anythign will change. I usher so I wear a suit, but when I am not ushering I wear dockers, etc. I hope by my example others will change their mode of dress for mass.
 
I don’t go to Mass to people-watch, so I don’t know what most other people wear. I’m either watching the priest, or have my head bowed in prayer. To my knowledge, my parish doesn’t have an official dress code.

I wear whatever is convenient–if I go to Eucharistic Adoration right after work, I’m wearing my work clothes (dress pants and a nice shirt) because I don’t have time to change. If I go on my way to/from the farm, I wear jeans and the nicest shirt I have that I don’t care if it gets ruined or torn. Sundays I usually wear dress pants, but if I’m on my way elsewhere that requires outdoorsy-type work, I might wear jeans.

I always wear a headscarf in public, not just to Mass. I keep all of my hair covered.

I see nothing disrepectful about a nice pair of jeans.

Miz
 
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I don’t go to Mass to people-watch, so I don’t know what most other people wear. I’m either watching the priest, or have my head bowed in prayer. To my knowledge, my parish doesn’t have an official dress code.

I wear whatever is convenient–if I go to Eucharistic Adoration right after work, I’m wearing my work clothes (dress pants and a nice shirt) because I don’t have time to change. If I go on my way to/from the farm, I wear jeans and the nicest shirt I have that I don’t care if it gets ruined or torn. Sundays I usually wear dress pants, but if I’m on my way elsewhere that requires outdoorsy-type work, I might wear jeans.

I always wear a headscarf in public, not just to Mass. I keep all of my hair covered.

I see nothing disrepectful about a nice pair of jeans.

Miz
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I’m sorry if I may have offended you with my comment about the jeans. My comments were specifically addressing the Sunday Liturgy and not meant for those going to or coming from work. On weekdays it is always understood that most working folks will wear their work clothes and on Sundays, when necessary, work clothes are certainly acceptable.

In suburban communities such as where I live we have a fairly large number of people attending Sunday Mass dressed like slobs. These people are hard not to notice even when I’m trying to concentrate on prayer. I don’t think there is any reason for their behavior other than a lack of respect which could possibly be mitigated by ignorance due to a lack of proper indoctrination. When I’m visiting my wife’s family who live in a rural Ranch/Farm community jeans are the norm for many parishioners.

I also am amazed at altar servers wearing Crocs and sneakers and Eucharistic Ministers and readers dressed like they were on the way to a flea market.

It used to be, up into the 1960’s, the expected practice for women to cover their heads in church, I’m not sure what purpose it served but at least in the OF the practice is pretty rare today.
 
I don’t think our parish has a dress code; I’ve never seen one or heard of one.

We see all sorts of nonsense - jeans, sneakers, t-shirts, short skirts. Thankfully, the other end of the spectrum is seen also - suits, dress shirts, slacks, polo shirts, shoes. Some people don’t seem as if they even look in a mirror before they leave, yet if they were going to a fancy restaurant I bet that wouldn’t be the case.

For some folks, there are exceptions. But, for those not coming off work or too poor to afford better, there’s no reason a nice shirt or slacks can’t be worn. Jeans and sneakers for most people is just plain lazy and shows no reverence towards the Blessed Sacrament; I can still hear the nuns warning us to keep our shirts tucked in when I was a wee lad in parochial school.
 
Very tiny church here, lots of snow birds in the winter, and no dress code.
The worse thing I ever noticed in our church was a 75 year old man in short shorts… just wrong on so many levels!
Our priest is from Ghana and he’s very relaxed. I like him, but he’s MUCH more relaxed than I was used to back east. It’s at least 35-40 miles to the next church, across desert, so I go to my parish church and sometimes cringe. 🙂
 
thanks for all the posts I was just curious because I am brand new. I am converting to catholicism. and what i ment by hair covering was head covering…hat, scarf mantilla etc I see it varies greatly and will speak with my priest as to what to do at our church
 
Bob_Aliano said:
No official dress code; women are asked to dress modestly, head coverings are worn by very few and are neither required nor requested; men are reminded to dress as if meeting with their boss, jeans are discouraged to no avail.
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Is it ok for painters to dress as if meeting with their boss? 😃

Maybe I’m just a darned ol’ hayseed, but I have never understood the proscription against jeans.
 
white_sheep said:
Is it ok for painters to dress as if meeting with their boss? 😃

Maybe I’m just a darned ol’ hayseed, but I have never understood the proscription against jeans.
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As hard as people try to portray jeans as proper attire for semi-formal functions such as church and fine dining they have not managed to overcome the role of jeans as blue-collar work clothes. I never could understand why anyone would wear faded, often torn, jeans to be in the presence of, and pay homage to, God when it costs no more nor takes any more effort to wear slacks, even chinos. Would you wear jeans to an audience with the Holy Father, the President?
 
I’m the last person you’ll see wearing a suit and tie anywhere…I’m allergic to them ;). I wear jeans to work, I don’t wear jeans on the weekends. I guess I’m old school (I’m 28) in my line of thinking that jeans are for work. For Church on Sunday I wear a dressy pair of khakis and a dressy polo shirt. If I go to weekday mass, I’m in my work attire.

I will say though, it doesn’t bother me if people wear jeans to mass. Just because I have a certain viewpoint about jeans doesn’t mean everybody else does. I’m willing to bet there are those that criticize me for what I wear to mass! Let’s not forget what’s truly important when we go to mass…
 
Bob_Aliano said:
As hard as people try to portray jeans as proper attire for semi-formal functions such as church and fine dining they have not managed to overcome the role of jeans as blue-collar work clothes. I never could understand why anyone would wear faded, often torn, jeans to be in the presence of, and pay homage to, God when it costs no more nor takes any more effort to wear slacks, even chinos. Would you wear jeans to an audience with the Holy Father, the President?
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I was not defending wearing worn out clothes to mass! It’s ok for people with white collar jobs to wear their regular attire to mass, but not people who have blue collar jobs. Next I’ll be hearing that one should never drive to mass in a pickup truck because it is too blue collar. Jesus wasn’t exactly a proponent of extravagant garb. I do think we should dress up for mass, but don’t see why that excludes jeans. I see more tacky, unbecoming slacks on people than jeans. I have no clue what a chino is.
 
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I was not defending wearing worn out clothes to mass! It’s ok for people with white collar jobs to wear their regular attire to mass, but not people who have blue collar jobs. Next I’ll be hearing that one should never drive to mass in a pickup truck because it is too blue collar. Jesus wasn’t exactly a proponent of extravagant garb. I do think we should dress up for mass, but don’t see why that excludes jeans. I see more tacky, unbecoming slacks on people than jeans. I have no clue what a chino is.
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Why did you jump to pickup trucks, you skipped right over dusty cowboy boots! If you had been paying attention you would realize I am talking about Sunday Mass attendance by those NOT on their way to or from work. I can only assume by your reply that you would indeed wear jeans to an audience with the Holy Father! Amazing!

In the time of Jesus a person was fortunate indeed to own more than one finely woven cloak and the pickup truck of the day, a donkey, was even rarer. I’m not quite old enough to remember that far back but I suspect someone trying to enter the Holy of Holies in field clothes would be shunned and probably chastised.

Chinos are casual cotton slacks that come in a variety of colors but mainly tan, olive green, black and dark blue. They are pressed, creased and are generally accepted as casual “business attire” when accompanied by an appropriate shirt and optionally, a tie.
 
white_sheep said:
I was not defending wearing worn out clothes to mass! It’s ok for people with white collar jobs to wear their regular attire to mass, but not people who have blue collar jobs. Next I’ll be hearing that one should never drive to mass in a pickup truck because it is too blue collar. Jesus wasn’t exactly a proponent of extravagant garb. I do think we should dress up for mass, but don’t see why that excludes jeans. I see more tacky, unbecoming slacks on people than jeans.
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In fact, it does not exclude jeans or any other clean, neat, presentable clothing.
white_sheep said:
I have no clue what a chino is.
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Chinos and khakis are basically the same thing.
 
Bob_Aliano said:
Why did you jump to pickup trucks, you skipped right over dusty cowboy boots! If you had been paying attention you would realize I am talking about Sunday Mass attendance by those NOT on their way to or from work. I can only assume by your reply that you would indeed wear jeans to an audience with the Holy Father! Amazing!

In the time of Jesus a person was fortunate indeed to own more than one finely woven cloak and the pickup truck of the day, a donkey, was even rarer. I’m not quite old enough to remember that far back but I suspect someone trying to enter the Holy of Holies in field clothes would be shunned and probably chastised.

Chinos are casual cotton slacks that come in a variety of colors but mainly tan, olive green, black and dark blue. They are pressed, creased and are generally accepted as casual “business attire” when accompanied by an appropriate shirt and optionally, a tie.
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I jumped to pickup trucks because I’ve known rich snobs who may own a pickup truck but never one more than a few years old and would make it known that it was not their first vehicle, they had a Lexus or Jaguar that was their primary car.

I’m glad that most people, unlike yourself, think that having an audience with the Holy Father calls for a little more reverence and attention to one’s dress than Sunday mass.
 
We have none, but there is a standard-

Men: Dress pants, or dress shorts for the boys (I don’t even live somewhere tropical–far from it, but in the summer it can get REALLY hot in the church). A collar shirt or grandfather shirt. A sweater, usually, instead of a jacket.

Women: A modest shirt and a modest dress, BELOW the knee.

TLM.
 
Bob_Aliano said:
As hard as people try to portray jeans as proper attire for semi-formal functions such as church and fine dining they have not managed to overcome the role of jeans as blue-collar work clothes. I never could understand why anyone would wear faded, often torn, jeans to be in the presence of, and pay homage to, God when it costs no more nor takes any more effort to wear slacks, even chinos. Would you wear jeans to an audience with the Holy Father, the President?
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If I were president, I wouldn’t be offended at all by people wearing jeans in my presence–because I would be wearing them too. 🙂 Maybe it’s just a “Southern thing,” but a gracious Southern hostess wants her guests to be comfortable. If I were president, or queen, or whatever, I would still be this gracious hostess.

My in-laws are very formal people–whenever they have a get-together, we eat off china plates, have a dozen different (family silver) utensils that I can never figure out what to eat with which one–you get the picture. They also dress in expensive designer clothes and heels, even for outdoor parties. I’m not comfortable there and seldom stay any longer than absolutely necessary, although I love them dearly.

My folks are far more casual–sit on the floor if you want, eat off paper plates, etc. “Dressing up” to see my folks on Christmas morning means “changing out of my PJs before I drive over.” 😉 When I visit, I can’t bear to leave.

Knowing that you are loved enough to be accepted as you are is pretty potent stuff.

Miz
 
white_sheep said:
I jumped to pickup trucks because I’ve known rich snobs who may own a pickup truck but never one more than a few years old and would make it known that it was not their first vehicle, they had a Lexus or Jaguar that was their primary car.

I’m glad that most people, unlike yourself, think that having an audience with the Holy Father calls for a little more reverence and attention to one’s dress than Sunday mass.
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Sorry you feel that way. I cannot think of anyone who deserves more respect in everything from our behavior to attire than God. The difference between us may be that I believe God is present in the church whenever He is in the Tabernacle. I also believe God is truly present in the Eucharist and must be treated with utmost respect and reverence, something that seems to have been lost since VII (can I say that or does it violate some forum prohibition?). The lack of respect for God is very evident in the behavior of parishioners who cannot be quiet in church, who come to Mass as late as the gospel and leave at communion, who read the bulletin during Mass and who dress for Mass like they were on the way to a picnic or a flea market.

For the record, the only vehicles I notice in the church parking lot are those of the misguided Catholics with Obama stickers plastered all over the rear as if there is something to be proud of in that loyalty! Now a well restored farm truck or classic pickup might catch my eye as well.
 
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