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I am a relative newcomer to these forums. I was baptised Catholic, but am a former agnostic currently coming into the faith through RCIA and will be confirmed at Easter vigil this year.

I must say, I am absolutely dismayed at much of what I see in this forum. The insinuations of heresy and apostasy, the unanswerable debates that only serve to inflame passions of Catholics against other Catholics, the barely informed accusations, and on and on.

What of Christian charity? And more importantly, why?

Why these debates? What is the point? What will be answered? Will a papal commission read these threads and put the debates to rest with more definitive statements? No. Since the Pope or the Magisterium is the only entity that can end these debates, and since those entities will or will not do without any reference to what is going on here, what positive result comes from all this?

How many here are theologians? How many are canon lawyers or church historians? Some, to be sure, but many more are not, and their half-informed or uninformed opinions on both sides of this unfortunate divide and biases only poison the well, and shock and scare less opinionated or new Catholics like myself who come to this site to learn about the Church.

I would humbly ask everyone here to read Romans 14:

*Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. 2One man’s faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accepted him. 4Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.

5One man considers one day more sacred than another; another man considers every day alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind. 6He who regards one day as special, does so to the Lord. He who eats meat, eats to the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who abstains, does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. 7For none of us lives to himself alone and none of us dies to himself alone. 8If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.

9For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living. 10You, then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. 11It is written:
" ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will confess to God.’ "[a] 12So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.

13**Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. 17For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, 18because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.

19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. 20Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. 21It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall.

22**So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God.**** Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves. 23But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin.

I would humbly and lovingly ask everyone here to ask themselves whether the time spent on this board disputing with one another about doctrine, and dogma, and the Council of Florence and Trent, and Vatican II, and on and on, whether their time might be better spent tending to their own faith and salvation and that of their families and neighbors by going out into the world and being a light to others, and praying and teaching our children and witnessing to our friends and neighbors with charity.

In the past, the Pope has condemned such rancorous debates (consider Pius X on frequent and daily communion), and has issued an instruction that debate and disputation on the matter should be ended. This was easy to do when such debate could only occur outside the view of most of the laity (at universities and in scholarly journals, newspapers, etc.). The internet makes it impossible to do such a thing today, but I wish it could be done. The internet has allowed us, the laity, to enter into these unproductive and spiritually damaging debates on issues on which most of us are not qualified to speak. And it can be done anonymously, which fosters coarse tone and rhetoric that would never be done face to face, and it is a shame.

I plan to go tend to my own faith, and don’t intend to come back here. Everyone is free to do as they wish, but please consider what I’ve written here, as I doubt I am the only one who has had the same experience.

Peace*
 
In general, I agree. When I first came on this forum, there was a general spirit of good will. Lately, the discourse has been increasingly hostile. I am guilty sometimes of losing my temper with so-called “liberal” Catholics, but I don’t go as far as some.
 
I am a relative newcomer to these forums. I was baptised Catholic, but am a former agnostic currently coming into the faith through RCIA and will be confirmed at Easter vigil this year.

I must say, I am absolutely dismayed at much of what I see in this forum. The insinuations of heresy and apostasy, the unanswerable debates that only serve to inflame passions of Catholics against other Catholics, the barely informed accusations, and on and on.

What of Christian charity? And more importantly, why?

Why these debates? What is the point? What will be answered? Will a papal commission read these threads and put the debates to rest with more definitive statements? No. Since the Pope or the Magisterium is the only entity that can end these debates, and since those entities will or will not do without any reference to what is going on here, what positive result comes from all this?

How many here are theologians? How many are canon lawyers or church historians? Some, to be sure, but many more are not, and their half-informed or uninformed opinions on both sides of this unfortunate divide and biases only poison the well, and shock and scare less opinionated or new Catholics like myself who come to this site to learn about the Church.

I would humbly ask everyone here to read Romans 14:

*Accept him whose faith is weak, without passing judgment on disputable matters. 2One man’s faith allows him to eat everything, but another man, whose faith is weak, eats only vegetables. 3The man who eats everything must not look down on him who does not, and the man who does not eat everything must not condemn the man who does, for God has accepted him. 4Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.

5One man considers one day more sacred than another; another man considers every day alike. Each one should be fully convinced in his own mind. 6He who regards one day as special, does so to the Lord. He who eats meat, eats to the Lord, for he gives thanks to God; and he who abstains, does so to the Lord and gives thanks to God. 7For none of us lives to himself alone and none of us dies to himself alone. 8If we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. So, whether we live or die, we belong to the Lord.

9For this very reason, Christ died and returned to life so that he might be the Lord of both the dead and the living. 10You, then, why do you judge your brother? Or why do you look down on your brother? For we will all stand before God’s judgment seat. 11It is written:
" ‘As surely as I live,’ says the Lord,
‘every knee will bow before me;
every tongue will confess to God.’ "[a] 12So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God.

13**Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil. 17For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, 18because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.

19Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification. 20Do not destroy the work of God for the sake of food. All food is clean, but it is wrong for a man to eat anything that causes someone else to stumble. 21It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall.

22**So whatever you believe about these things keep between yourself and God.**** Blessed is the man who does not condemn himself by what he approves. 23But the man who has doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and everything that does not come from faith is sin.

I would humbly and lovingly ask everyone here to ask themselves whether the time spent on this board disputing with one another about doctrine, and dogma, and the Council of Florence and Trent, and Vatican II, and on and on, whether their time might be better spent tending to their own faith and salvation and that of their families and neighbors by going out into the world and being a light to others, and praying and teaching our children and witnessing to our friends and neighbors with charity.

In the past, the Pope has condemned such rancorous debates (consider Pius X on frequent and daily communion), and has issued an instruction that debate and disputation on the matter should be ended. This was easy to do when such debate could only occur outside the view of most of the laity (at universities and in scholarly journals, newspapers, etc.). The internet makes it impossible to do such a thing today, but I wish it could be done. The internet has allowed us, the laity, to enter into these unproductive and spiritually damaging debates on issues on which most of us are not qualified to speak. And it can be done anonymously, which fosters coarse tone and rhetoric that would never be done face to face, and it is a shame.

I plan to go tend to my own faith, and don’t intend to come back here. Everyone is free to do as they wish, but please consider what I’ve written here, as I doubt I am the only one who has had the same experience.

Peace*​

Seems there is quite a bit of “judging” going on with this post. Kinda like a Pot trying to call the kettle black.
 
Actually, I think your response / reaction kinda bears out the OP’s observations.
 
Peace And Good,

I am new here too. A fransiscan Member In OFS for lays.
Yes I find many negative things in the forum.
And I find it too very instructive for every Human
and spiritual subject. This is a free discussion where
you discern what is right and what is wrong.
You don’t have to be so upset because the Truth
itself has two faces: The right and The Wrong.
Enjoy your presence here by cultivating yourself
and enriching your spirituality.
Hope You will be always impressed by the good opinions.👍

God Bless:grouphug:

Nohamaria
 
Way to go JPM1977! Way to go! (A popular American expression of approval, m’lud)

I wrote more or less the same, but less eloquently, on another thread [Catholic News/ V2 Catastrophe]:
"Just when - several hours ago - it looked like the ‘traditionalists’ and ‘progressives’ on this thread were moving to a synthesis that, whatever else was wrong with today’s Church, we need to teach the Catechism more effectively (or, just teach it at all) the thread morphed into a row about annulments!

Don’t want to appear sanctimonious, not at all, but this constant sniping at each other is just not a Good Thing, in my humble opinion. These are not issues wholly of this world that we are discussing, and we should, surely, deal with each other’s point of view with some measure of charity.

Perhaps it is time for this thread to begin to draw to a close? "

If by any chance, JPM1977, you do view this, please don’t let the bickering on here make you stumble in your RCIA path towards Easter. You will make an excellent disciple of Our Lord, I feel sure.

For myself, I’m not completely disillusioned with these forums yet - I’ll see how it goes. Meanwhile, perhaps we could resolve to pray for our fellow Forum members, to increase our understanding of the Faith without negativity.

I’d just like to share with you all Question 221 of “A Catechism of Christian Doctrine”, approved by the Archbishops of England and Wales, revised 1978:
“Are calumny and detraction forbidden by the eighth Commandment? Calumny and detraction are forbidden by the eighth Commandment, and also tale-bearing, and any words which injure our neighbour’s character.”
 
I will agree that the forums should be moderated better. But that is a difficult and thankless job.

One thing to remember, however, people hid under a clock of anonymity and feel that they are free to say what ever they want without censor.

When I see a particularly offensive post, I assume that the individual is actually claiming to be something that they are not in order to make the opposing position look as bad as possible.
 
Actually, I think your response / reaction kinda bears out the OP’s observations.

What it really comes down to --is the OP doing what he is accusing others of doing. The OP made a “judgement” about this forum and the people in it and did not have any qualms about posting his “opinion”.
 
Actually, I think your response / reaction kinda bears out the OP’s observations.
Actually, Walking_Home was pretty much spot on. One only need read the second paragraph, and the sentence which serves as the third. Knives rarely cut only one way.
 
I went back and read over the OP. I actually saw nothing in it hypocritical. First, he mentioned no one by name. Most of the post is either from Scripture are reporting simple facts that I do think few would dispute. It needs to be read for what it is and not defensively. Let it apply, or not apply.
 
I went back and read over the OP. I actually saw nothing in it hypocritical. First, he mentioned no one by name. Most of the post is either from Scripture are reporting simple facts that I do think few would dispute. It needs to be read for what it is and not defensively. Let it apply, or not apply.
pnewton locuto est, causa finita est! 😛
 
To the OP and others,

I think it’s nice to be able to talk with other Catholics and non-Catholic Christians who are, for the most part, serious about their faith.

I think Christian people have always enjoyed a good, deep chat about spiritual things. When I read the book, The Hiding Place, the entire ten Boom family loved to talk about the Lord, and Papa ten Boom especially enjoyed getting together with other men of faith, both Jew and Christian, and debating–in a loving, charitable way.

Where I work (a hospital), there are Catholics, but many are “lapsed” Catholics, and it’s just plain discouraging to talk to them about the Church and the things of the Lord.

Most of the time when I am with other people (either at work, the skating rink, or in some musical setting), the discussion is very trivial and light. There’s nothing wrong with that. But I love deep discussions about God.

Another problem with discussing things with people in the “non-internet world” is that we have time limitations. You know, not too many people are up and rarin’ for a chat at 5:30 in the morning! But I am!

I attend a “Why Catholic?” Bible study in my parish, and we start at 6:30 and it’s a rare night that we’re done earlier than 9:30. We love to talk about the Bible, the Church, and our experiences with God, and I think if it weren’t for those pesky jobs that we all have, we would sit up all night.

But that’s only once a week.

My husband and I talk about our beautiful Church, and the Lord Jesus, and the saints and angels, and we love those discussions.

It’s just nice to come here and talk with other Catholics. I agree, it’s not nice when people are nasty to each other, and I agree with the OP that we all should be more forebearing with each other, accepting that everyone is at a different place in their lives and that the Catholic Church is very, very big and accomodating.
 
Without reading too many of the responses, I will venture my opinion.
This is literally what it’s called: a “Catholic forum” - a place for Catholics - (and even those who aren’t) - to share views about their Faith…be it questions, opinions, problems, and so on. The heated debates are particularly found in the Traditional forum since this topic (Traditional vs. Novus Ordo in the celebration of the Mass or other Catholic practices) has been a close-to-the-heart/soul issue for Catholics everywhere - but most particularly for those who’ve lived pre- and post-Vatican II. We’ve watched the Church evolve - not over centuries but within less than a lifespan. And yes, sadly, at times we as Catholics - become almost a little less “Christian” in our debates - but I suppose it’s the fervor of our beliefs.

Catholic Forum also is a place where we join in prayer for one another or share knowledge of prayers, spiritual books, or just comraderie - amongst Catholics AND other Faiths. You’ll notice that not only Catholics post here. It’s a great place to feel welcome to air our views and discuss in detail religious topics that we can’t do in daily life. And that’s what Catholic Forum is.
 
Why people snipe at each other is easy: We care. When people talk about what they care about, a large spectrum of answers is available and, since they care, their beliefs are personal. It’s very easy for feelings to get hurt.

A lot of Traditionalists have a thick skin (sometimes we have to), so we someone calls one person a name, it bounces off. Sometimes it might even be an inside joke that a newcomer may not get.

Can it get a little too heated sometimes? Yeah, probably. Families fight, and our family is HUGE. At the same time there are always threads that are more low key. So there’s room for everyone.

If you’re questioning our unity just have someone question a doctrine of Mother Church. Sort of like when siblings bicker amongst themselves, but then an outsider picks on one and all the brothers and sisters turn on that outsider. (Not that we should all ‘pummel’ nonCatholics, I’m just saying we can stop debating and unify very quickly if we need to).
 

What it really comes down to --is the OP doing what he is accusing others of doing. The OP made a “judgement” about this forum and the people in it and did not have any qualms about posting his “opinion”.
The OP quoted a great deal of Scripture and didn’t single out anyone. But instead of responding to the points raised by the OP, you attacked him/her as hypocritical, thus illustrating the increasing nastiness that was the OP’s point. So I say again, you’ve proved the point.
 
Generally, since we are accountable for every word we say, and accountable when we mis-teach as well as teach…

If what you have to say is in any way doubtful, or if you have a bad habit of saying what you shouldn’t…

Think twice before you post. If need be, keep it aside in notepad and come back to it an hour later, to see if you think you should post it that way.

Pray before you post, and think about your motivation and what you intend to accomplish before you post. What is the goal of what you say? What good will it do for the person who reads it and the others who read it?

Do you post for the sake of the love of God or for your own passions? How do you know your passions are acceptable to God unless you at first deny them? Until your reactions are habitually rightfully formed, you must all the more …

Stop and wait before you finish what you have to say and click ‘post’. 😃
 
The OP quoted a great deal of Scripture and didn’t single out anyone. But instead of responding to the points raised by the OP, you attacked him/her as hypocritical, thus illustrating the increasing nastiness that was the OP’s point. So I say again, you’ve proved the point.

Really --didn’t signal out anyone. The OP signaled out this forum and the people in it. If this forum disturbs his/her “sensibilities” --the OP does not have to participate or even read it. And I say again --it was nothing more than a Pot trying to call a kettle black.
 
Yes, I’ve seen a definite lack of charity sometimes (towards individuals, that is) and some sniping - but nothing that I wouldn’t see at most big family functions. This forum allows for “family” support when that is very hard to find these days. Yes, the discussions can get heated, but not anything that with Our Lord’s continuing help, can not be taken (and, hopefully, we will gain some humility along with charity). We need to recognize and find within ourselves, the courage that we, as a family, have in this country/world. We need to develop the courage that can be gained here since when we’re out in the world, we’ll need even more; especially with our culture’s becoming more pagan again.
We aren’t, any of us, Saints here. We’re in process and will continue in that until Our Lord decides that we can join Him. Expecting anyone to be fully perfect on this earth is both unreasonable and uncharitable in itself.
How about we just relax and listen/converse with each other. Love and not impatience is Our Lord’s teaching.
Originally posted by Shin
Pray before you post, and think about your motivation and what you intend to accomplish before you post. What is the goal of what you say? What good will it do for the person who reads it and the others who read it?
 
We are a family but the idea that this is an excuse to hurt each other needs to be addressed.

In this very scular and often vicious world. We as Catholics need to learn how to debate and solve problems among ourselves with grace and dignity. It is important to discuss the problems that divide us, but if we can’t solve these problems with the “love that passes all understanding” how can we hope to be a force for peace in the rest of the world.
 
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