What do a girl find a attractive in a man?

[sheninje]

Well, it’s not that women desire a gob of money…but when children come, it’s nice to be married to someone who can work outside of the home so that if they quit THEIR job, things don’t fall apart! 3 really can’t live as cheaply as 2 when you factor in car seats, cribs, diapers, Pediatric visits & prescriptions for the sniffles and ear infections, and cloths they outgrow immediately. SHOES! Yikes, I almost for got SHOES!!! Good shoes for children’s growing feet! LOL

haha truth!!! But many lie that they want to live this romantic begger-lifestyle which none wants… But i totally understand why, when going for marriage, being financially stable is important! I’m working on that right now

well if you wanna be broke fast do this: buy horses or wine but easiest of all have kids!
That’s why I’m going to be a millionaire! Problems solved

 

[Regina7]

You got an awesome hubby i see!!! God bless you both!

Truth spoken! A friend in need is a friend indeed!

thx for the feedback btw!

I do have an awesome husband!

And I was one who preferred the “bad boy” but I honestly never thought of marrying the bad boy. At some point, many women outgrow that and when are looking for marriage, look at true character.

 

[sheninje]

You could try to move to Hawaii. You just have to make the leap of faith. You will never know unless you try right?

I think you will like it. You seem to have an open friendly personality which will fit right in. As for good Catholic girls you can surely find them there.

Well then im moving! Right now we have 10 inches of snow and 5 degrees… God why was i born here???

Well Hawaii sounds like heaven! be right there!!!

 

[sheninje]

I do have an awesome husband!

And I was one who preferred the “bad boy” but I honestly never thought of marrying the bad boy. At some point, many women outgrow that and when are looking for marriage, look at true character.

Well the guys who masters the “bad-boy” skill is some true masters of the game! (joke)

True! same goes for most guys! Duno why they waste time to begin with!? Maybe cus i was the dumb-kind guy all my life

 

[Deltadeliquent]

They also want a man who is interested in making changes when things aren’t going well. Don’t swear at her, don’t be comtemptous or dismissive of her wants or needs- ever! Sacrcasam kills. Always treat her like you did when you first met. Don’t be a liar and change after things aren’t as hot.

Men tend to make the woman in charge of nothing, yet responsible for everything. And we accept this without even thinking. Bad policy for both.

They say the success of a marriage is measured by the number of bite marks in the wife’s tongue. Make sure you have at least as many as she does.

If it’s not good for both of you, it’s not good for either of you. Change it.

Make a mistake? Own up to it, fix it and move on. Don’t blame the victim, and NEVER equate her well being with money. She doesn’t want a big fancy house, she wants emotional intimacy with you and wants to be able to trust and rely on you to have her back when things are hurtful, or tiring, or boring, or just plain wrong. Don’t stonewall her, talk. Feel, listen. Then act, now, not whenever.

The problem, whatever it is, still exists even if you are not talking about it right this second. Don’t assume things are OK after you’ve talked, unless you actually DO something about it.
Women like to talk, but we also want a problem resolved. Talk and no action will only breed resentment.

Don’t walk away when she cries, take her in your arms like a child and comfort her. If it’s something you’ve done or not done, don’t be defensive, apologize and fix it. And don’t do it again. Big or small.

Lots of small mistakes ignored will ruin a relationship as easily as a big one. Think of the relationship as a beautiful and fragile art object. Each time it gets dinged, or chipped, the beauty and value go down, and it becomes even more fragile and liable to destruction. Don’t go around denting or chipping it. Polish it with a soft cloth, keep the dust off of it, and display it proudly.
Run to catch it before it hits the floor when it’s been jostled. Don’t just stand there, opened mouthed in amazement , and watch it shatter, irretrievable.

Be a man who is always courting her, always solicitous, always put her first. When money, work, whatever becomes more importtant than her…you’ve lost her, whether she still lives with you or not.

All of this goes both ways, but in my experience it’s the man who needs the tutoring. Most divorces are filed by the woman. It’s not that we are a greedy bunch, it’s that we have no reason to stay. When it hurts, you want to get away from it. Human nature, that.

Oh, and pay attention to movies and TV shows, especially the ones she likes. That’s how she wants to be treated. I swear, I’ll never understand why men are generally so clueless about women. The instructions are in every movie you attend.

Honestly, they should teach this stuff from the get go…
Oh wait He did… Do unto others, and all that.
It’s not magic, or voodoo or even rocket science.

 

[white_sheep]

Maybe I am just having a pessimistic moment, but here are the first two things that came to mind. Modern women want to be independent and not get bossed around. Like ever. Don’t even get close to telling one what to do. They’ll head for the hills. Second, they want someone who truly accepts them and loves them for who they are because deep down they know that they are super special.

Other than those two qualifiers, I would say in general that for most women the answer is nothing. They seem to routinely break out of their prescribed preferences when they just get “that connection” with someone.

 

[sheninje]

They also want a man who is interested in making changes when things aren’t going well. Don’t swear at her, don’t be comtemptous or dismissive of her wants or needs- ever! Sacrcasam kills. Always treat her like you did when you first met. Don’t be a liar and change after things aren’t as hot.

Men tend to make the woman in charge of nothing, yet responsible for everything. And we accept this without even thinking. Bad policy for both.

They say the success of a marriage is measured by the number of bite marks in the wife’s tongue. Make sure you have at least as many as she does.

If it’s not good for both of you, it’s not good for either of you. Change it.

Make a mistake? Own up to it, fix it and move on. Don’t blame the victim, and NEVER equate her well being with money. She doesn’t want a big fancy house, she wants emotional intimacy with you and wants to be able to trust and rely on you to have her back when things are hurtful, or tiring, or boring, or just plain wrong. Don’t stonewall her, talk. Feel, listen. Then act, now, not whenever.

The problem, whatever it is, still exists even if you are not talking about it right this second. Don’t assume things are OK after you’ve talked, unless you actually DO something about it.
Women like to talk, but we also want a problem resolved. Talk and no action will only breed resentment.

Don’t walk away when she cries, take her in your arms like a child and comfort her. If it’s something you’ve done or not done, don’t be defensive, apologize and fix it. And don’t do it again. Big or small.

Lots of small mistakes ignored will ruin a relationship as easily as a big one. Think of the relationship as a beautiful and fragile art object. Each time it gets dinged, or chipped, the beauty and value go down, and it becomes even more fragile and liable to destruction. Don’t go around denting or chipping it. Polish it with a soft cloth, keep the dust off of it, and display it proudly.
Run to catch it before it hits the floor when it’s been jostled. Don’t just stand there, opened mouthed in amazement , and watch it shatter, irretrievable.

Be a man who is always courting her, always solicitous, always put her first. When money, work, whatever becomes more importtant than her…you’ve lost her, whether she still lives with you or not.

All of this goes both ways, but in my experience it’s the man who needs the tutoring. Most divorces are filed by the woman. It’s not that we are a greedy bunch, it’s that we have no reason to stay. When it hurts, you want to get away from it. Human nature, that.

Oh, and pay attention to movies and TV shows, especially the ones she likes. That’s how she wants to be treated. I swear, I’ll never understand why men are generally so clueless about women. The instructions are in every movie you attend.

Honestly, they should teach this stuff from the get go…
Oh wait He did… Do unto others, and all that.
It’s not magic, or voodoo or even rocket science.

Now that was a big answer! The response rly hade some meat on the bones so to say!

You are right on the money that a relationship is between two persons and you are one of them. And your duty is to give all to the other in trust that the other do the same to you. A sad thing which i se to many time in relationships its they do the opposite… its sad.
thx for the feedback

 

[sheninje]

Maybe I am just having a pessimistic moment, but here are the first two things that came to mind. Modern women want to be independent and not get bossed around. Like ever. Don’t even get close to telling one what to do. They’ll head for the hills. Second, they want someone who truly accepts them and loves them for who they are because deep down they know that they are super special.

Other than those two qualifiers, I would say in general that for most women the answer is nothing. They seem to routinely break out of their prescribed preferences when they just get “that connection” with someone.

Im in sweden so basically 80% of the girls is like the first you said… But i would say its kinda a girl thing, sadly. The women is a bit nicer but still…

And to some degree i can understand them. I would never want a boss for a spouse. More a brother in arms. But some girls just goes to far… Now the last thing in sweden is that its the White heterosexual men who drivers SUVs and eat meat that is the problem in this world… and im a guy, white, drives an SUV and eats meat… I’m kinda in the wrong country!! hahaha

these are the politicians of sweden… nice right!? U get why im leaving this country!!

 

[Polluted]

Have some snus and Just try not to stress about it.

 

[sheninje]

Have some snus and Just try not to stress about it.

noooo no no no!!! man that’s disgusting

swed or murican?

 

[Polluted]

Women of the 21st century want the same thing women wanted back in the old old OLD days. For a man to take control of them. Regardless of what the modern female thinks she wants. She’s secretly looking for a man capable of leading her.

 

[Polluted]

noooo no no no!!! man that’s disgusting

swed or murican?

Haha! I’m American but sadly a tad addicted to your guys tobacco. I’m among the few people who buy General at the gas station here.

 

[tuffsmurf]

thx for the feedback!

se man på det finns andra svenskar här kämpa på! God bless ya!

Gud välsigne dig också!

 

[sheninje]

Women of the 21st century want the same thing women wanted back in the old old OLD days. For a man to take control of them. Regardless of what the modern female thinks she wants. She’s secretly looking for a man capable of leading her.

Don’t we all seek a leader!? Man or woman for that matters.

Haha! I’m American but sadly a tad addicted to your guys tobacco. I’m among the few people who buy General at the gas station here.

haha well! if you come to sweden you would se fridges like 2-3 of them tall ones filled with “snus”

 

[sheninje]

Gud välsigne dig också!

thx

 

[Polluted]

Here in America we have 1 TINY fridge in a few gas stations that is sometimes unplugged with expired snus Most people use American Dip.

If you want to find a girl be assertive. You need to put yourself out there and lead them to you. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are or anything of the sort. Be aggressive in your persuit. You will get rejected. Lots of times! But get used to it. This is what girls find attractive. A man who is willing to (heaven forbid by 21st century standards) BE A MAN. Don’t wait for a girl to find you. Don’t make her do what you should be doing. Peruse her, where ever she might be

 

[sheninje]

Here in America we have 1 TINY fridge in a few gas stations that is sometimes unplugged with expired snus Most people use American Dip.

If you want to find a girl be assertive. You need to put yourself out there and lead them to you. It doesn’t matter how attractive they are or anything of the sort. Be aggressive in your persuit. You will get rejected. Lots of times! But get used to it. This is what girls find attractive. A man who is willing to (heaven forbid by 21st century standards) BE A MAN. Don’t wait for a girl to find you. Don’t make her do what you should be doing. Peruse her, where ever she might be

well lets trade places ^^ here you could fill a buss with swe dip if ya want ^^

True! If one want a thing then get out there and get it! That is kinda my motto in life nothing gets handed to you and what iv got in my life have i worked for, with help of course! But yea! The thing is i don’t see any girls near me that i want to get any serious with. So that’s my problem I have no horses to bet on, so to say!
But i think or know that usa is one different place compared to swe. So I wait for Gods suggestion and move to usa That’s at least the plan

 

[Polluted]

well lets trade places ^^ here you could fill a buss with swe dip if ya want ^^

True! If one want a thing then get out there and get it! That is kinda my motto in life nothing gets handed to you and what iv got in my life have i worked for, with help of course! But yea! The thing is i don’t see any girls near me that i want to get any serious with. So that’s my problem I have no horses to bet on, so to say!
But i think or know that usa is one different place compared to swe. So I wait for Gods suggestion and move to usa That’s at least the plan

I get ya. You feel there might not be a girl worth chasing where you are at. I promise you my friend, at least here in California the problem isn’t any better. The vast bulk of society (at least the younger generations) are preaching and following a lifestyle that is not one of a morally sound Catholic faith.

Especially at your age bracket you are gonna be hard pressed to find a girl who’s morals and faith life mirror that of your own. My suggestion is not to limit yourself. You might be suprised how some of these girls actually are. In reality many MANY folks don’t embrace God’s law or Christianity until later in life. If you only chase girls who you THINK will be on the same moral outlook you are gonna be single for another 25 years. Once these girls get slapped around by a life of sin, and are actually faced with their own mortality.

I suggest you give it a shot. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do sex wise and make sure you make your beliefs known. But there is no problem starting your persuit.

 

[sheninje]

I get ya. You feel there might not be a girl worth chasing where you are at. I promise you my friend, at least here in California the problem isn’t any better. The vast bulk of society (at least the younger generations) are preaching and following a lifestyle that is not one of a morally sound Catholic faith.

Especially at your age bracket you are gonna be hard pressed to find a girl who’s morals and faith life mirror that of your own. My suggestion is not to limit yourself. You might be suprised how some of these girls actually are. In reality many MANY folks don’t embrace God’s law or Christianity until later in life. If you only chase girls who you THINK will be on the same moral outlook you are gonna be single for another 25 years. Once these girls get slapped around by a life of sin, and are actually faced with their own mortality.

I suggest you give it a shot. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do sex wise and make sure you make your beliefs known. But there is no problem starting your persuit.

sadly there is no heaven on earth! But its more people so the chance of finding that 0.1% is higher than here. Im mostly waiting for a girl that i like. Quite simple as that.

And if i have to stay single all life then well il do that. But iv seen enough of miserable marriages to stretch on my future one. But your right! The flock of girls one can date is pretty smal. But i trust God that he will make a miracle Just gotta fight on and pray.

Isnt cally abit of a worse place in usa if one thinks about ardent catholics?

 

[AnneElizabeth]

Just to note here- what she finds handsome in a man is not necessarily what society or the world (worldly) finds handsome. This is also true for the opposite sex. No one gets together with someone they don’t find attraction to… men or women. Expecting anything else is kinda harsh to blame the other for, and people can fall for people whom they don’t initially have physical attraction. “Good Looking” comes in many different packages. Confidence is key, not looks.