What do you say to someone despairing over not finding a date?

[Xantippe]

What I’m worried about is that now that he knows this is possible, next time he’s not going to talk to anyone. Next time he’s just going to kill himself without talking to anyone.

But now his parents know and will hopefully be keeping an eye on him.

It’s easy to avoid friends–family is a lot harder to dodge. Obviously, it can be done, but it requires a lot more effort.

 

[HelenRose]

I think I’d want to know about my kid expressing suicidal ideation, no matter his/her age. Wouldn’t you?

My daughter once told me that a boy wanted to date her had threatened suicide if she did not go with him…

I, of course told her no way is she going with him. If he commits suicide I didn’t want him to take her with him.

This threat of suicide is something parents must know about. Not, only the parents of the boy or girl thinking about suicide but the parents of any girl or boy that may date them.

One reason this boy is having trouble getting dates could very well be the girls he asks out have their danger radars is good working order.

This spells danger to me.

 

[DarkLight]

But now his parents know and will hopefully be keeping an eye on him.

It’s easy to avoid friends–family is a lot harder to dodge. Obviously, it can be done, but it requires a lot more effort.

His family lives all the way across the country though, and I know he dodges calls from them.

 

[Xantippe]

His family lives all the way across the country though, and I know he dodges calls from them.

I bet they have more resources than you do, though.

 

[HollyDolly]

I think you have gone above and beyond for your friend.And you did right to speak to his parents if he is having suicidal thoughts. All we here can do is pray for your friend that he doesn’t do something drastic. I guess sometimes people see others paired up, and wonder why am I not with someone? I am I too picky, too fat, a freak, boring etc.
I know you have tried to help. I once said to my late mother that no body would want me, and she said i don’t give anybody a chance. But often you feel like others don’t or won’t give you a chance, and maybe that’s what he felt.Maybe he came on as too desperate or needy to these ladies.
Is there say a church that he would go to? If you know which one, perhasp you could speak to the pastor, about the situation. Maybe, not saying it will happen, but maybe he will actually talk and listen to the reverend and heed his advice since he doesn’t want to listen to you or family.