Don’t bother looking up NOW. Personally, I dislike most of what they say. To me feminism or masculinism either one means each of us having the opportunity to actualize our potential given to us by God. This means, no unaccepted role by any individual, which both men and women have been subject to for centuries. For instance many women consider raising a family a career, but when is the first time you have heard a man saying raising a family is a career? I really feel the male half of society has the greater opportunity to develop skills, gifts, perceptions etc. than the female half. Women are in a conundrum. We want to be mothers, wives, companions to our husbands etc., but it is also frustrating to be limited by societal roles if we want to experience other forms of personal growth outside the family circle. Sometimes in having to make a choice, full attention to family, or full attention to career outside the home, we feel pulled apart, dissatisfied in both arenas. To me this is a no win situation. By nature women are meant to be mothers and care givers. This deals with the emotional part of our nature. But then comes another drive, to be more than what nature intends. Since I am not a man, I can’t see that a man has to fight his nature to be successful in business or career. Emotionally, I am not sure where the male species stands. Enlighten me. Thanks.
Unfortunately, so-called modern feminism is selling a product with different names. They want to “empower” you. Well, what does that mean? They want to give you “choices.” Uh, OK.
If you are Catholic, you should study what the Church has to say. There are plenty of online resources. But let’s review:
Here are your choices:
You can stay single and celibate.
Or you can go the heavily promoted single and fornicating, especially with cohabitating.
Or you can get married, and have or not have children.
Then there is single motherhood, the leading cause of poverty for women in the US.
The Church teaches that single men and women should have nonfornicating relationships. Then, if you find someone you like, there should be courtship where the two of you get to know each other. Then, if you really want to explore the possibility of marriage with this person - talk. Talk about your plans, talk about kids, talk about your career ideas and so on. If both of you are agreeable, then you move on to engagement. You meet each other’s parents and siblings. Duing this time, you begin to finalize how the two of you, in partnership, will now conduct your lives. The Church views marriage as a sacred vocation, a sacrament, a gift from God and not to be entered into lightly.
Sadly. Very sadly. The most commonly advertised method for conducting a relationship today is to have sex first and ask questions afterward. It pains me to hear actresses say the following, “It’s just sex.” What? It’s like going to the bathroom? I use you and you use me?
I met a strikingly beautiful young lady recently. She told me she was divorced. I asked how long she had been married. The reply? 9 months. What happened? I asked. “I had to kick my husband out of the house because I found out he was a nut.”
God bless,
Ed