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KingAlfred
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Thank you for your thoughtful advice and insights. Indeed, I suspect that once my son enters the work-force after college, and undergoes the continuous merger of his ideals, education and real-life experiences in the formation of his beliefs and personality, he will return to his Catholic roots. As you said, once he realizes that life without Christ is empty and meaningless, the path back to the Church should become even better illuminated.KingAlfred:
Sorry to hear this. Maybe the influence will get much worse. Its possible that your son, once he tries the non-religion tact, will see how hopeless it is. You may have to watch painfully your son for a few years go through a bad spell trying this out. Hopefully the good influence you had in his youth will make better sense to him after he goes through this.
Nagging is rarely effective [not saying you do this but just an observation]. Sometimes kids will do rotten things just for the “payoff” of knowing they get us riled. I learned the hard way not to respond emotionally but hide my emotions behind statements like, ‘really, then what happened?’, 'what makes you say that?" etc. A poker face is very disarming! And then I learn more about what’s really up.
Also, the eventual wife and kids can have a wonderful effect on one’s views of God. Many parents have returned to the Faith when they have kids to raise.
Prayer, fasting and penance won’t hurt.
I have a similar situation with my grown son - not as severe as yours but frightening in the same way. Throughout the day I pray for him and offer up little things. I ask God for humility both for him and myself. I too am frightened for his soul and discouraged.