I certainly don’t disagree with that. However, to put it in terms of “Don’t come back” is not only stark and harsh, but seems to go against God’s willingness to forgive repentant sinners, those who have fallen away but choose to come back. The door that slams shut in -]their /-] our faces should be, I think, death and death only, not a priest’s pronouncement this side of it.
And, you know, as I think about it, the Church IS (or can be seen as) a “revolving door” in the sense that every time we sin and fall away from it (well, from God, really), we are welcomed back through repentance and confession–over and over and over and over again.
I don’t think we are essentially disagreeing with one another here, just looking at it a little differently.