What if she won't listen?

[schwanhall]

Matt22:

Thanks again to all of you. I appreciate any other advice, especially from people with mixed marriages.
Peace of Christ,
Matt

Matt,

I am married to a Baptist man for almost 2 years now. We have a wonderful marriage, and any struggles that our different denominations may have caused has only made our marriage stronger. Being married to a Baptist has led me to a fuller understanding of the Catholic faith. My husband is fully supportive of me, attends mass, and has shown interest in my faith. While he has problems with some Catholic doctrines (purgatory, Mary’s perpetual virginity) as a general rule, through his own exploration, he has found he agrees with the church on most of the issues.

My best advice to you is to openly communicate with your fiancée. The most important thing you can to is to support each other in your journey for closeness with the Lord. It might be helpful to find out more about each others faith as well. While you may not agree, you can understand where the other is coming from. Go to church with each other too, and emphasis the similarities.

Before I had a distinct impression about what “Baptists” believed, and how they had no basis in history or tradition. Boy was I surprised when I met a Baptist Preacher who read St. Augustine!

Communication is the key! Most important LOVE EACH OTHER!! “And remember the truth that once was spoken…To love another person is to see the face of God!”

 

[ms_cilantro]

Your title question says it all. How can you build a marriage where you are supposed to be helping each other become the people God wants you to be if one of you is refusing to listen? I am not saying anything about changing the other person I am saying each of you needs to be each others biggest advocate. What is she willing to do to help you become the best Catholic you can be? What are you going to do to help her in her faith walk?
You are going to become one with this person. The idea that there are areas that can’t be discussed is a huge problem to this idea of oneness.

Are there any other topics that can’t be discussed? I am not prying I am trying to point out that there are going to be all sorts of challenges ahead and in my humble opinion you have to be able to discuss everything together.

Have you guys talked about what marriage is? What your vision is for your marriage? If you don’t come to a meeting of the minds now it won’t get better with time. You owe it to yourselves to have a common understanding of what your marriage will be based on.
Good luck,
Ms. Cilantro

 

[Matt22]

Hi everyone,

I would like to thank all of you for your replies. Especially familyof8, whom I misunderstood… perhaps I was moody that night, who knows? Anyhow, you make a good point: She would certainly benefit to see the tears roll from my face as I receive the Blessed Sacrament.

Again, I cannot thank you all enough.
God bless you all,

Matt

 

[michaelk]

God Bless you Matt. I will pray for you & your fiancee when I visit the adoration chapel Sunday morning before mass.

Mike