Or, are you saying that by dying unforgiven my choice was made in this earthly life and God is judging me condemned ? Which does kind of look like He is sending me to Hell. Any help or would you prefer a new topic? Thanks.
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For clarity
Where a soul goes at death is always the result of God’s judgement. We don’t judge ourselves.
So
Once a person has come to the knowledge of this truth, about sin & forgiveness, and still dies in grave (mortal ) sin, then while it’s God who judges that, the person knows the consequences are there already for mortal sins on the soul…
Scripture identifies grave sins,
as well as, the consequences for one’s soul who dies in any of those sins.
They won’t inherit heaven., IOW they go to hell. Once a person knows this, they should avoid mortal sin like the plague. If one falls into mortal sin, then the remedy has ALSO been provided by God,. it’s sacramental confession, established by Jesus.
Because
all sin is a choice,
that we choose to commit, using free will which God gave all of us,
THEN it could also be said if one goes to Hell, they went there by
choices they made and in the end,
didn’t repent for any of it right up to death…
God offers Forgiveness
till our last breath…f
or EVERYONE.
If someone doesn’t take advantage of that grace, and doesn’t repent of their sin(s) , then that’s a choice one makes on this side of eternity where asking for forgiveness is possible and forgiveness takes place…
Re: sorrow (repentance) for our sins
There is a distinction between sorrow for light weight sins, not mortal sin, called (venial) sin vs grave (mortal ) sin.
John the apostle makes that distinction between the 2 sins
HERE
AND (again, all emphasis in text is mine)
1492 Repentance (also called contrition) must be inspired by motives that arise from faith.
If repentance arises from love of charity for God, it is called “perfect” contrition; if it is founded on other motives, it is called “imperfect.”
"Other motives" e.g. As in fear of hell.
1453 The contrition called
"imperfect" (or “attrition”) is also a gift of God, a prompting of the Holy Spirit. It is born of the consideration of sin’s ugliness
or the fear of eternal damnation and the other penalties threatening the sinner (contrition of fear). Such a stirring of conscience can initiate an interior process which, under the prompting of grace, will be brought to completion by sacramental absolution.
By itself however, imperfect contrition cannot obtain the forgiveness of grave sins, but it disposes one to obtain forgiveness in the sacrament of Penance.
Therefore
imperfect contrition is fine for forgiveness of minor sins
Perfect contrition, OTOH, is required for mortal sin + a firm resolve to get to confession ( a sacrament Jesus established) ASAP