What is home to you?

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Seemed like an appropriate question to ask during Thanksgiving, when a lot of people are going home for the holidays. What is your definition of home?

For me, I still think of my parents’ place as home. I’ve moved out a long time ago, and I’ve moved around quite a bit and lived in quite a few places, but I’m not married, so it still feels like homecoming when I fly back.

What about you? What are some of the qualities that make a place a “home” to you?
 
Right now, my dorm room is home. I live on campus year round because if my job in the housing department.

Right now, I’m at my parents house but it really isn’t what I consider home anymore. My life , my work and my school are no longer in this area so neither is home. I’m very attached to where I live now.

Home is my dorm room.
 
My parents have since moved out of my childhood home.

Even though my husband and I have only been living in our house for the past 6 months…because he and my daughter are here…this is home forever.
 
kmuestwin said:
Right now, my dorm room is home. I live on campus year round because if my job in the housing department.

Right now, I’m at my parents house but it really isn’t what I consider home anymore. My life , my work and my school are no longer in this area so neither is home. I’m very attached to where I live now.

Home is my dorm room.
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If you don’t mind my asking, how long have you been living in the same dorm? I recently graduated from grad school, and I had my own apartment during school. It never really felt like home, though. I lived about 6 hours from my parents at that time, and it always felt like going home when I drove back. If anything, my apartment felt more like a hotel room than anything. Granted, it still felt like “home” when I was coming from school or whatever, but it didn’t have that home feeling to it, you know? What are some of the things that you did to make it feel more like home? Thanks.
 
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If you don’t mind my asking, how long have you been living in the same dorm? I recently graduated from grad school, and I had my own apartment during school. It never really felt like home, though. I lived about 6 hours from my parents at that time, and it always felt like going home when I drove back. If anything, my apartment felt more like a hotel room than anything. Granted, it still felt like “home” when I was coming from school or whatever, but it didn’t have that home feeling to it, you know? What are some of the things that you did to make it feel more like home? Thanks.
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I agree…I couldn’t stand my dorm room and always looked forward to coming home…which was my childhood home.

Even when I was living in apartments…they never felt like “home” either.

I finally feel like I’m at home. In my opinion, home is where your family is. My parents and my sister were my family until I got married and started a family of my own. Now my husband and my daughter are my family.
 
Well, my husband and I haven’t gotten to go “home” for any holiday for three and soon to be four years. He just can’t get time off during that time and it is too expensive to fly out more than once a year to visit family. Honestly where ever my husband happens to be is home for me. The two of us are our own little family and our family is home for us.
 
robotsarecool said:
Well, my husband and I haven’t gotten to go “home” for any holiday for three and soon to be four years. He just can’t get time off during that time and it is too expensive to fly out more than once a year to visit family. Honestly where ever my husband happens to be is home for me. The two of us are our own little family and our family is home for us.
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Yea, I think that’s usually the case for married couples. It’s a little different for single people, though, especially single guys.
 
I can’t say that I would consider any place on earth as “Home”. I am looking forward to my true Home in Heaven - I hope God has a nice forest for me to explore surrounded by towering mountains.: angel1:
 
To me, home is where my family is. At least, my home in the exile. True home is the house of the Father.
 
AllSeasons said:
If you don’t mind my asking, how long have you been living in the same dorm? I recently graduated from grad school, and I had my own apartment during school. It never really felt like home, though. I lived about 6 hours from my parents at that time, and it always felt like going home when I drove back. If anything, my apartment felt more like a hotel room than anything. Granted, it still felt like “home” when I was coming from school or whatever, but it didn’t have that home feeling to it, you know? What are some of the things that you did to make it feel more like home? Thanks.
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I am very active on campus. I’ve actually only lived in the same room for one semester but I lived in my other room for over a year.

I work in the housing office and in my Residence hall as an RA. I’m in charge of a floor of my building.

I think it feels most like home because I am very active at my local Parish. I have made friends who I feel I can call whenever I need them. I’m very dialed in to my routine with my work, school, and parish life. I feel very grounded there.

A major difference between myself and many people is that I am a military brat. Having lived many different places during my childhood, it doesn’t take long for me to become accustomed to a place I’m living. I’m taking the 5 year route to my 4 year degree 😃 so I’ve been here for a while.
 
With me it’s rather odd. I have never had any emotional attachment to any house I’ve lived in. But there are two places I have felt at home, the feeling that “I could happily stay here and never leave”. That is in the deep forest and in a cathedral. The calm and quiet, the pervasive sense of peace deeply moves me.
 
San Jose, California.

I lived there for the first 42 years of my life. My mother still lives there in the same house in which I was raised. People I’ve known since kindergarten still live there. When we go visit, I still think of businesses by what they were. You know - we’ll ask Mom where there’s a store that sells X, and she’ll say there’s one in the mall, and I’ll ask her which end, and she’ll say something like, “It’s where Woolworth’s used to be,” and i will know exactly where I’m going. Same thing with the streets. I know which lane I want to be in, and which streets go through, and which intersections to avoid.

I’ve learned my way around locally here in SoCal, I have a mental map of the freeways and so on, but it’s not the same. Someone will name a town, and I will have a vague idea of where it is, but not exactly.
 
Glomung said:
With me it’s rather odd. I have never had any emotional attachment to any house I’ve lived in. But there are two places I have felt at home, the feeling that “I could happily stay here and never leave”. That is in the deep forest and in a cathedral. The calm and quiet, the pervasive sense of peace deeply moves me.
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Dude!! Same!! 👍
 
Home is wherever you are relaxed and at peace. That will vary for everyone. Generally it’s who you’re with, not where you are, that makes you peaceful and comfortable. There likely is a deeper feeling of peace and contentment if your family has not moved from your youthful environment.
 
To me, where ever I am permanently living is HOME. My parents house was their home and I lived there for 18 years and then moved out and made my own home.
Perhaps the town where I was raised feels a little like home, and it is my home town, but I really feel best where I currently live, where ever that might be. 🙂
 
Home is where my darling husband is. We have lived in four places in our fifteen years of marriage, and each place has been home. Home is where the heart is, a true cliche, and my husband carries my heart in his breast.
 
Well, if you go by my cell phone, my mom’s house is “home”. However, in conversation, when I say “home”, I’m referring to my own home where I live with my husband. When my husband says “home”, he’s referring to the entire state of Wisconsin. I don’t know why I haven’t ever changed my cell phone, but it’s probably for the best since I don’t currently have a “home phone”. If someone found my phone or I was lying in a ditch and the cops needed to find my family quick, they could get my mom on the phone. I guess I could change my the name on my husband’s cell phone number to “husband” in order to get the same effect.
 
Right now, I don’t feel like I have a home. But home would be a safe, peaceful place where I would live with the man I love and my children. Right now, I have a house not a home.
 
Sillara said:
Home is where my darling husband is. We have lived in four places in our fifteen years of marriage, and each place has been home. Home is where the heart is, a true cliche, and my husband carries my heart in his breast.
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I can hear you on that one. My husband and I have been married a little over three years and we have lived so far in two parts of the country. We are from the West Coast and after we got married we moved to the East Coast for his job and then ago about 5 months ago to the South and we will move again in 4 years. Where ever my husband is, is my home.
 
kmuestwin said:
I think it feels most like home because I am very active at my local Parish. I have made friends who I feel I can call whenever I need them. I’m very dialed in to my routine with my work, school, and parish life. I feel very grounded there.
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That’s interesting. I suppose I don’t always build ties to the community, because I’ve been moving around so much. I didn’t feel like the investment would be worth it, since I’d be moving away in a year or two. Now that I’m more settled, I think perhaps that’s one area on which I can improve.
kmuestwin said:
A major difference between myself and many people is that I am a military brat. Having lived many different places during my childhood, it doesn’t take long for me to become accustomed to a place I’m living. I’m taking the 5 year route to my 4 year degree 😃 so I’ve been here for a while.
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You know, I would’ve thought that being a military brat growing up would have the opposite effect. Since you were moving around so much, having ties severed so often, it’d be more difficult to build lasting friendships. To me, I think adaptation is one thing, while being truly attached to a place is quite another. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
 
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