Also, I know some on here have complained about not being invited to the Saturday night masses, and about there being certain steps that are secretive, etc.
I’ll explain why that is if you want. The main reason why it is preferred you go to the “catechesis” first is because, as many of you on here have stated, compared to the usual Sunday Mass, there are some drastic differences, and for the average person to walk in on one of our Masses on the altar it might be one huge “What the hell is this?” if they don’t understand what the purpose of the Neocatechumenate is to begin with.
That said, occassionally ppl will come who are not in the Way, and it’s not like they’re kicked out, it’s just that if you are not walking in one of the communities to begin w/ then you might feel a little lost and won’t know anybody. Also, because we are given a brief time to speak about how the word applies to our life it might be more difficult for some to speak about real problems they are having if a stranger is there, or someone they know who is not in the community, because there is a lack of intimacy.
As for the steps, well I have been through 2, and my parents even more but I will say the reason that those who have been through the steps are told not to tell what they are doing in it is because, for those who are still at the beginning of the way, it might be a little overwhelming and they’d be like “I could never do that”.
I’ll give you an example, several years ago when I first started walking in the Way, hypothetically

if you had told me I would be going door to door announcing Christ has risen, and visiting nursing homes etc. announcing the faith I would have been like “To hell with this. That’s crazy. I could never have the courage to do that. I quit.” etc. But over time, it’s a process and gradually you find the courage and trust in God to do things you would never have thought possible before. So that’s why.