A prime example of creative continence would be for the couple to add some S.P.I.C.E. to their monthly abstaining. S.P.I.C.E. is an acronym for Spiritual, Physical, Intellectual, Creative and Emotional means of intimate communication.
Spiritual communication stands for the spiritual commitment you share with each other through the Sacrament of Matrimony. Pray together during those sometimes long periods of abstinence that are difficult. Remember that marriage is not just two people living together. It is a husband, wife and God. Periodic abstinence is a wonderful time to develop a strong spiritual relationship with one’s spouse.
Physical communication means employing non-sexual activity during times of abstaining. Use this time to ‘get to know each other better’, and discover things that you both enjoy together. Some examples would be mastering the technique of giving a good massage or back rub, dancing to some romantic music, preparing a late night gourmet dinner after the little ones are tucked in, enjoying a fun game of Monopoly together, or just falling asleep in each other’s arms. Be sure to throw in plenty of good ol’ platonic hugging.
Intellectual communication involves sharing the intellectual areas you have in common with each other. This could be reading poetry to each other, working on a joint research project, doing some Bible study together, watching and old movie, sharing some intimate hopes and dreams, or tenderly recalling the first days of your courtship.
Creative communication involves sharing creative aspects with each other during times of required abstinence. Think of fun, interesting things for the whole family to share. For example, try an unplanned day trip to a nearby attraction that you’ve never visited. Pack the kids in the car and go for a picnic or, organize and have your own family yard sale. Many couples find these times of the month to be favorable for entertaining. You can use the extra energy during this time of month of abstaining to do things you ordinarily would not do.
Emotional communication involves sharing your emotions during times of abstinence. Try to communicate often with your spouse and don’t be shy in utilizing more verbal expressions of love. This is also the area that usually gets strengthened through the use of Natural Family Planning.
