What is the value of a wife?

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jmjZelie said:
I think I disagree with you somewhat. There have been times where I was forced to not do anything but stay in bed, for medical reasons, until I healed. Was I a bad wife then? I certainly felt like a bad wife. But intellectually, I reminded myself I wasn’t.

There are crippled or disabled or severely ill spouses. They are not bad spouses if they are unable to perform the typical duties of a spouse.

These might be exceptions that prove the rule. OR, they might be examples that prove the value of a spouse is not tied to the functions they perform.

One last example: suppose a couple does not need to work for pay because one of them had an inheritance, and they also could afford a cook, maid, chauffeur, laundry services, the whole shebang. In such a circumstance, we can see that function does not provide true value or worth.
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Let’s consider the contrary then.

If you are perfectly healthy and capable of your duties as a wife and mother, but choose not to perform them, are you a good wife? Of course not.

Naturally, what I said comes with the proviso that one is able to perform their duties. And one could easily construct scenarios in which companionship is limited and that would equally reflect on your perceived values.

As for your rich people, they will still have marital and parental duties to perform. One cannot outsource everything.
 
underacloud said:
Let’s consider the contrary then.

If you are perfectly healthy and capable of your duties as a wife and mother, but choose not to perform them, are you a good wife? Of course not.

Naturally, what I said comes with the proviso that one is able to perform their duties. And one could easily construct scenarios in which companionship is limited and that would equally reflect on your perceived values.

As for your rich people, they will still have marital and parental duties to perform. One cannot outsource everything.
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I notice you cut off my last two paragraphs in order to continue to make your point. That is telling to me. Are you determined to make me agree with you? Why? Does it bother you that another man told his own wife that her value to him is not dependent upon the duties that she performs? Why do you keep trying to make me accept your point?

I am not looking for a battle here. I am not asking for approval of my husband’s answer to this question. I have read and understood the point you are trying to make.
 
jmjZelie said:
I notice you cut off my last two paragraphs in order to continue to make your point. That is telling to me. Are you determined to make me agree with you? Why? Does it bother you that another man told his own wife that her value to him is not dependent upon the duties that she performs? Why do you keep trying to make me accept your point?

I am not looking for a battle here. I am not asking for approval of my husband’s answer to this question. I have read and understood the point you are trying to make.
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I quoted the sections that I thought were relevant to our conversation, as is common on any internet forum. It should tell you nothing more than that.

I have posted a somewhat different perspective in this thread, in response to your question. You chose to disagree and I have posted further to address that, to hopefully explain myself better, in what was an ongoing conversation. I am no more determined to make my point than you seem to be, so I’ll ask that you refrain from trying to read some sort of motives into my participation in this thread. I’m happy to discuss the topic if conversation remains cordial, which I thought it was.
 
underacloud said:
Let’s consider the contrary then.

If you are perfectly healthy and capable of your duties as a wife and mother, but choose not to perform them, are you a good wife? Of course not.

Naturally, what I said comes with the proviso that one is able to perform their duties. And one could easily construct scenarios in which companionship is limited and that would equally reflect on your perceived values.

As for your rich people, they will still have marital and parental duties to perform. One cannot outsource everything.
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What are those duties?

What should Prince Phillip expect from Queen Elizabeth, for example?
 
Right. As usual CAF overthinks.
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No one can purchase a wife or put her “value” on a tax return.
I assume it was a rhetorical question, and only should be considered as such.
Unless someone wants to sell me PhiloMed for $1.87 😉

I could really sue some help around here. :hmmm:
 
My answer would be how can we assign value to a human being?

You are a child of God, whom He loves immensely. He loves us always, even in our imperfections He does not stop loving us.

I remember seeing a program on EWTN where one of the speakers said that if any of us were the only person in the world, Jesus would still suffer and die for us.

I would say that the value of a wife (or husband, or child) is not quantifiable.
 
pianistclare said:
Right. As usual CAF overthinks.
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No one can purchase a wife or put her “value” on a tax return.
I assume it was a rhetorical question, and only should be considered as such.
Unless someone wants to sell me PhiloMed for $1.87 😉

I could really sue some help around here. :hmmm:
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Me tooooo! And not only would she be another set of hands, she’d be another DOCTOR set of hands! Think about it! Toddler shrieking inconsolably at 3 AM? “Hey, Philo, would you mind looking at DD’s ears and calling in any necessary prescriptions?” Newborn being weird (i.e., being a newborn)? “Hey Philo, is it normal for the baby to be making this noise?”

Heck, for the medical stuff plus the housewife stuff, I’ll double the bid to $3.74! You can’t do better than that! 😃 😛
 
UbiCaritas said:
Me tooooo! And not only would she be another set of hands, she’d be another DOCTOR set of hands! Think about it! Toddler shrieking inconsolably at 3 AM? “Hey, Philo, would you mind looking at DD’s ears and calling in any necessary prescriptions?” Newborn being weird (i.e., being a newborn)? “Hey Philo, is it normal for the baby to be making this noise?”

Heck, for the medical stuff plus the housewife stuff, I’ll double the bid to $3.74! You can’t do better than that! 😃 😛
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You two are hysterical.

With the chaos at my house lately I might be willing to give YOU $5 to let me move in!
 
PhiloMed said:
You two are hysterical.

With the chaos at my house lately I might be willing to give YOU $5 to let me move in!
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Now that you guys have snapped up PhiloMed, can I start the bidding on pensmama87? Just the couponing alone makes pensmama87 an excellent value.
 
Also, not to be greedy, but I’d also like one of the CAF music teachers.

Plus, we can all help each other do our buns in the morning.

(Note to self: need to grow out hair for a bun.)
 
I want to buy MsClare. 😃 She would make for a great emotional and spiritual cheerleader. 👍
 
On reflection, I don’t have a lot to offer any hypothetical sister wives on our hypothetical compound.

But just in case, here are some of my skills:

–persuading small children that the white meat I am presenting might actually be chicken
–toddler fashion consultant (leopard skin print and sparkly twirl skirts are big this season!)
–understanding the nuances of “I don’t have any homework tonight”
–drawing clownfish
–finding socks
 
Xantippe said:
On reflection, I don’t have a lot to offer any hypothetical sister wives on our hypothetical compound.

But just in case, here are some of my skills:

–persuading small children that the white meat I am presenting might actually be chicken
–toddler fashion consultant (leopard skin print and sparkly twirl skirts are big this season!)
–understanding the nuances of “I don’t have any homework tonight”
–drawing clownfish
–finding socks
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:rotfl: I love the fashion consultant! 😃
 
underacloud said:
I quoted the sections that I thought were relevant to our conversation, as is common on any internet forum. It should tell you nothing more than that.

I have posted a somewhat different perspective in this thread, in response to your question. You chose to disagree and I have posted further to address that, to hopefully explain myself better, in what was an ongoing conversation. I am no more determined to make my point than you seem to be, so I’ll ask that you refrain from trying to read some sort of motives into my participation in this thread. I’m happy to discuss the topic if conversation remains cordial, which I thought it was.
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I am not determined to make MY point. I asked a question. I have read the responses. I shared my husband’s answer after he got home. You disagreed. That is fine. I am not being rude, and I am not angry, so I don’t need to be reminded to remain cordial. I simply don’t know what you were trying to do with continuing to debate me about my husband’s answer. I have read and understood each of your posts. I am not trying to push you out of the conversation, I just didn’t understand why you were leaving out the most important paragraphs of my post and responding to the rest of it.

Edited to add: to be very clear, I am only expressing my confusion here, and my lack of ability to know what response you are hoping for to your posts, not any anger or dislike of you as a poster at CAF.
 
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