Thoughtfulone, your approach appears to be one where you decide how things work, rather than one that goes to the precedent of God’s Revelation through His Church throughout history and submissive towards whatever that may be however hard it may be on the heart.
The ages in which children may go to Confession demonstrates the understanding of the Church of such matters. Which reveals God’s work.
Conversion is correction of the heart and how we feel, in very many ways, not just how we think. Having the grace of supernatural faith and growth in this grace helps this.
With supernatural faith we submit to whatever God’s design is, regardless of our preferences, and this is what is absolutely necessary in the spiritual life.
So that if God tells us something very unpleasant to us personally, we are ready to accept it entirely because it is God’s will. This is the secret to true peace and happiness, dependence on Him rather than ourselves. When we cannot understand, if we submit with faith, sometimes then God allows us to understand.
And we all have to face some very unpleasant things that we do not want to hear 100% from God in our lives, sooner or later.
Overcoming our passions and putting them in the service of God is how we make progress.
Nowadays especially people are raised from a young way to always be immature emotionally, in the sense that they are more slaves to their passions and emotions than possessing of various virtues, logic, and character.
But that does not mean that from a very young age this cannot and should not exist. I suggest reading
the biography of Ven. Anne to see this.
She demonstrates intelligence, holiness, and virtue from the youngest of ages…
Even before a child reaches the age of reason, a child can be prepared to be virtuous.
The natural law of God is written in each human beings heart… So mortal sin can be committed against this law.
"When she began to prepare Anne for her first Confession, Mother St. Raymond was again surprised, for she found that the child not only knew her faults, but analyzed them with a judgement as correct as it was careful. Not that Anne was scrupulous – there was never a sign of foolish scrupulosity in her either then or later – but she made her examination of conscience with a gravity and care that impressed all those who had to deal with her. Nor was she frightened about her first Confession. “Afraid of the priest!” she said to Mother St. Raymond, looking up at her with innocent amazement. “Why should I be? You said he would be acting as Our Lord!”
“As early as June 1915, when she was only four and a half, Anne had spoken of her first Communion. . . To her, catechism was not just “a lesson” she truly cared about it.”
