What is your reaction to woman wearing a mantilla?

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I wear a Chapel Cap whenever I attend Mass, even during weekdays. Sometimes I am the only one with a head covering, sometimes there are others. I just got a lace infinity scarf that I can pull up over my head when I enter church on windy days. LOL, Chapel Caps do get mussed in the wind.
 
Why are the only choices neutral and negative? Where are the positive poll options?
 
I wear a veil to every Mass. Most times I am the only one. Other times maybe one or two others. I wear it for God, not for anyone else. I must say that not one person has ever said anything to me about my veiling. I pray that more women veil again.
 
Depends.

Is this inside a church or out in public? 🤷

Is there a funeral nearby? 🤷

Is she cute? 😛
 
Your poll is ill-formed because it is not mutually exclusive: I don’t have a problem with them even while I find them distracting.

They are distracting because they are rare, but they are not a problem because they seem to suggest piety (respect before God, recognition of being in a sacred space, etc).
 
ethereality said:
They are distracting because they are rare, but they are not a problem because they seem to suggest piety (respect before God, recognition of being in a sacred space, etc).
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Even though there’s a possibility that you’re looking at a superstitious hypocrite? (Not saying all mantilla wearers are but it does happen. 🤷)
 
I don’t know if you gals know it but this is becoming a banned topic here at CAF and after the above “superstitious hypocrite” comment, I think you understand why it is banned.

Glenda
 
I wear one when I’m not serving in some capacity. Then I wear a wide headband and put my hair up. Partly for practical reasons. I like my hair out of my way. And I don’t have to blow-dry if it’s up. A plus in the middle of a southern Arizona summer:D.
I started wearing a crocheted head covering when I received my Scapular and entered the OCDS Novitiate. There are several women in our community who cover their heads. My reasoning was two-fold: I am entering the presence of my Bridegroom. A bride wears a veil when she enters the presence of the bridegroom. The other reason is because, at Mass, all the Sacred Vessels that hold what is, or will become, the Body and Blood, Soul and Divinity of Christ, in other words, the Bread of Life, are covered. A priest can even cover his chalice with a cloth, that, interestingly enough, is called a veil. Yet, when in the presence of the consecrated Host, which really, truly, is the Bread of Life, even the Pope has to uncover his head. The only people allowed to be in the presence of the Most Blessed Sacrament when it is exposed with their head covered are women. Why? In my personal opinion, because that consecrated host, that humble bit of bread, is now the Bread of Life. The wheat and water now house life. They bear life. They are life. The wheat and water that is a Host, is now the vessel of Life, bearing that Life to each of us. A woman also can bear life. Therefore, just as the Host is hidden, veiled, if you will, when it is consecrated but not yet consumed because it houses, holds, is our source of Life, so a woman also can choose to be hidden because she, also, carries life. Or can. Men can’t, therefore their heads are uncovered. Maybe the ability to wear a veil at Mass is actually an honor given by God to women in celebration of our female-ness and our ability to do what a male cannot: carry life in our womb.
Just a thought.
Kris

The way Jesus shows you is not easy. Rather, it is like a path winding up a mountain. Do not lose heart! The steeper the road the faster it rises towards ever wider horizons. -St. John Paul the Great
 
In my experience the only people who make an issue of it are the women who wear them.

Honestly I have never heard anyone else make a big deal out of it. They might notice someone wears one and comment on it, then they get on with their lives.

It may come up in conversation such as “Do you know Ms Smith, she usually sits on the left side, wears a white lace over her head…”

It may distract someone for 5 minutes when they first see it , then, again, they get on with their lives.

Truly, the hours of prayer over it, the hand wringing, the worry over it being a distraction, the endless strife over pride vs humility, are in the heads of the veil wearers.

Seriously, NEVER heard anyone else give a darn.

I hope this brings some peace of mind to those who like to wear head coverings.
 
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In my experience the only people who make an issue of it are the women who wear them.

Honestly I have never heard anyone else make a big deal out of it. They might notice someone wears one and comment on it, then they get on with their lives.

It may come up in conversation such as “Do you know Ms Smith, she usually sits on the left side, wears a white lace over her head…”

It may distract someone for 5 minutes when they first see it , then, again, they get on with their lives.

Truly, the hours of prayer over it, the hand wringing, the worry over it being a distraction, the endless strife over pride vs humility, are in the heads of the veil wearers.

Seriously, NEVER heard anyone else give a darn.

I hope this brings some peace of mind to those who like to wear head coverings.
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This. The only people I’ve ever heard discuss this or make an issue of it are those who wear head coverings. It never bothers me one way or the other – I would only take issue when someone implies it is more pious or devout to wear one than not. And when people refer to wearing a head covering as “veiling” – which is not a term the Church has used for this practice.
 
MtnDwellar said:
Movie stars and the queen may care about my appearance. Luckily, they aren’t present at Mass. While Jesus is present and we are participating in His sacrifice of Himself to His own Father, I think He probably only cares about our interior condition rather than exterior appearance.

Just my thoughts.
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schaeffer said:
In my experience the only people who make an issue of it are the women who wear them.

Honestly I have never heard anyone else make a big deal out of it. They might notice someone wears one and comment on it, then they get on with their lives.

It may come up in conversation such as “Do you know Ms Smith, she usually sits on the left side, wears a white lace over her head…”

It may distract someone for 5 minutes when they first see it , then, again, they get on with their lives.

Truly, the hours of prayer over it, the hand wringing, the worry over it being a distraction, the endless strife over pride vs humility, are in the heads of the veil wearers.

Seriously, NEVER heard anyone else give a darn.

I hope this brings some peace of mind to those who like to wear head coverings.
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AnnArbor said:
This. The only people I’ve ever heard discuss this or make an issue of it are those who wear head coverings. It never bothers me one way or the other – I would only take issue when someone implies it is more pious or devout to wear one than not. And when people refer to wearing a head covering as “veiling” – which is not a term the Church has used for this practice.
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Brooklyn said:
I am purposely not posting this in the Traditional forum because I would like the opinion of Catholics who don’t normally attend the Extraordinary Form of the Mass. I know that outside of the TLM, most women do not wear anything on their heads when they are in church, so it is definitely out of the norm. How do you feel when you see a woman wearing a mantilla in Church? Do you find it somehow offensive and/or distracting, or is it no big deal to you?

Thanks.
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I would think out as no big deal.

A lot of women, mostly elderly, wear it in the novus ordo mass I attend.
 
Hopefully I’m not in the “elderly” category, though to a teen, being in my 50’s might qualify me for that state:D. Seriously, though, I hope my original post didn’t come off as me trying to “guilt” someone into covering their head. If I used any terms that were improper, I apologize. For me, it became a matter of something I felt the Lord was asking me to do, which made it a personal matter of obedience. Other than a few close friends, most don’t know my “whys” or “wherefores” and I certainly don’t think I am more holy than those who choose not to cover their heads. I know many of those dear ladies well and hopefully someday I will be half as holy as they are.
I think covering or not covering, if it’s thought of at all, is a very personal decision these days. Unless you are at an EF Mass, where, as I understand it, it’s kind of required of the women. I can’t say for sure, because I’ve never been to an EF Mass, but after speaking to someone who had a few times, that was my understanding.
In my parish, some women cover, some don’t and they pretty much cover all ages. It’s a personal thing, which is maybe how it should be. If a woman feels the Lord leading her to cover her head, then she should out of obedience to Him. But no one should just because everyone else is! Or because So-and-So does. Or because it’s pretty. And mantillas are pretty.
Kris
 
klm120861 said:
For me, it became a matter of something I felt the Lord was asking me to do, which made it a personal matter of obedience.
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Hey if that’s your cake ma’am, feel free to enjoy eating it. 🙂 I think everyone else is sincerely giving their observation/experience.

In my case, my brother was unlucky to meet one who fit the superstitious hypocrite type (several of them actually, according to his account of my hometown church).

And yeah, I have to agree. It’s usually those who wear one who make an issue out of it… as well as what other things women wear instead of it. 🤷
 
AnnArbor said:
This. The only people I’ve ever heard discuss this or make an issue of it are those who wear head coverings. It never bothers me one way or the other – I would only take issue when someone implies it is more pious or devout to wear one than not. And when people refer to wearing a head covering as “veiling” – which is not a term the Church has used for this practice.
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I think you have a point there. I have been covering my head for Mass since before I converted and I’ve only ever had one comment - a priest who informed me it was no longer required, which I took as negative at first, but I think was just meant to be informative. I have seen a handful of people get very upset about it online and in forum and discussion board comments, but not in person.

OTOH, I think it becomes easy to embrace as an identity, with all the blogs and groups dedicated to “veiling”, and than can easily slip over into pride and feeling like part of an exclusive group. I’m also not a huge fan of the term veiling, because the point is covering the head, not wearing a veil or mantilla specifically, and because it sounds too close to the term “taking the veil” which some use for a woman entering religious life and could cause confusion.
 
I have one in black cream white pale blue pale pink beige and navy I wear the one that most closely matches what I am wearing I also have one that is purple and one that is gray.
 
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