This is sound counsel, I think: It reminds me of what a previous guest on “Catholic Answers Live” has said about dating, that often it’s stepping outside our zone of familiarity that enables us to meet new people and potential spouses. This point reinforces the apparent need for me to move to a different city, given the lack of social venues here.
Sounds like you are making some good moves, ie. seeking opportunities to form more friendships, socialise, date, etc.
I’m hoping to come up with something. I’m in a lot of debt from school (and other things) as well and my current job just kind of gets me by so I don’t see my financial situation improving anytime soon. I honestly have no idea what I could realistically do to improve my situation.
I’m not sure we can say “calculated” … Rather, I was promised it was a good field with a good salary and good job prospects, only to find $120,000 later a bottleneck (lots of demand for physicists with five years of experience or having completed a residency, with a shortage of residencies) and a government attempting to take over the industry. … but, one day at a time, and we must start from where we’re currently at.
It’s not clear if they’re including pumping+bottles with that data, e.g. if the mother pumps, refrigerates milk, and has a nanny feed her baby while the mother’s stuck in an office.
Ironically, the article you link here actually is arguing that breastfeeding is irrelevant (that “the benefits are trivial”), furthering my point about the view society takes on the matter; but jn.nutrition.org/content/131/2/421S.short does establish your point that breastfeeding is on the rise (so perhaps this woman is in the minority) – but again, it’s not clear how much bonding is going on, i.e. how often they’re actually the ones feeding their child.
Fair enough – it’s just mostly doom and gloom, at least for me. I hope I can get a job soon, and move to a place with more social opportunities.
“We’re on the same page regarding the doctorate … The high debt is supposed to correspond to a high salary, but thanks (I suppose) to incompetent governing of the USA since c. 2008, people are not hiring like they used to, and there are more hurdles to my obtaining employment (such as a two-year residency or PhD). I would be a scientist in the medical field – some would say “a professional” – so the salary has historically been higher, perhaps more than twice that of a traditional scientist. However, given the federal government attempting to take control of healthcare, these salaries may start dropping …”
So, it’s an MD/PhD thing or similar? That explains why it takes so long.
There are always booms and busts–in the employment world, nothing good goes on forever. You took a huge, calculated risk and it may or may not pay off./QUOTI
I don’t see how this post has anything to do with the topic.
morality is morality married or single.
Marrying to cure a sex addiction (or anything else, like loneliness, depression, etc) is a terrible idea. You’ll just be a married person with a sex addiction, and probably an unhappy one when you discover marriage not only didn’t help, but also brought with it additional responsibilities and problems. Bottom line is you can’t solve the problem by satiating the symptoms, and trying to do it through marriage is just plain foolish. You wouldn’t tell a drug addict to marry a pharmacist.
Hi ethereality,
Maybe that’s part of my problem because I don’t date.Exercise the body and also exercise the mind and also exercise the heart. Try to find some fulfilling intellectual and charitable pursuits that you didn’t have before. Mortification of the spirit must be simultaneous with expanding yourself. Sex is sort of the automatic fall-back desire whenever there’s nothing else to focus your desires on. It’s very unusual for a person to be lazy / bored a lot and not also engaged to some extent in sexual sin, whether its social sexual sin or personal sin.
Depending on your circumstances, starting to date people is also very helpful for this. I think it can be beneficial for a person to give themselves a cool-off period when first breaking away from sexual sin, to let its grip over them lessen, but if people waited until they had an absolutely pure heart before finding a spouse, then the human race would have went extinct with the first couple. Of course, once in a relationship, a couple might likewise struggle with keeping themselves pure, in which case they may have to regulate when and where they spend time together, but this is also further motivation until marriage.
On the subject of prayer: devotion and adoration of Mary has been very helpful for me in this regard. In my anecdotal experience, women seem to be more Marian, but I feel like she’s actually the most beneficial to us guys, and we just miss out on using her motherly carePray for her intercession and have her guide you along in purity and contentment. I never prayed to a maternal figure before in my life up until a few months ago, and my prayer time has been greatly enriched from it.