My father is much like this. He considers himself a ‘rational theist’ (his term). He actually considered joining the Friends for a time.
In all of this, you have very little in common with your Wiccan friends.
I believe in the supernatural, because I have experienced it directly for both positive and negative. When I was pagan, I never felt comfortable with magic. The very idea made me feel like I was meddling with the universe in an unnatural way.
As far as visiting a Wiccan circle, unless a person accepts the basic premise that magic and the supernatural is real, there will never really be any understanding of what it is that they do and what they believe. Neo-paganism is built on the idea of neutralizing and romanticizing the distant pagan past, but because it arose long after authentic ancient religions died out, it is inescapably a reaction against Christian thought with little real connection to the ancients. Hence the fear and mistrust, which is largely mutual.
They must “put on a good show”…I find our discussions stimulating and informative. We have much more in common than I realized. They seek to answer the Light Within. They seek to live in that Light. They may be unique “Wiccans”.
I believe in the “supernatural”…but evidently very differently than you. I do not hold a "magic world view’…I don’t believe in magic…I believe God is present in this world seeking to make Himself known through those who respond to Him and see His face in those around us…we don’t need to look any furthrer than the person in the pew next to us to see His face, the person we meet on the street or who comes to our door wears the face of Christ.
I believe in the “Sacred Ordinary” of life…I do not believe that burning incense or lighting candles make a space sacred…it may calm the mind and set the mood but the very fact I am present with the Light Within makes the “space sacred”. The Wiccan circles I have attended hold much in common with the Catholic services I’ve attended…there is a “priest/ess” who enters the sacred space and “cleanses” it with sacred specially prepared water and incense. Chants are recited calling forth their understanding of the Light to attend the proceedings. Hand gestures and responses from the people are employed.
A sacred meal is shared, for the Wiccan the blood and flesh of the God and Goddess through the bountiful fruit of the vine and the sacred grains of wheat which feed Earth’s children by the Priestess.
For the Catholic the flesh and blood of Christ are “transubstanitated”(sp) by the words of the priest and offered to the people.
Each are distributed to those in attendence and gestures and prayers made again to end the sacred ceremony.
I see very little between a “circle” and some “churches” I have attended…“magical gestures” and “prayers/incantations” have similar “rings”. Both are asking the Diety to attend…which is strange to me as the Light Within is present already…the Seed of God is Overall now in this present world and this Light doesn’t need invocation to be present. We live in the Sacred Present.
Neo-paganism might romanticize the past to find continuity with the present…but for the most part Christianity has done the same, I really don’t see a lot of difference except that Christianity has had much longer to work out their sacred myth and institutionalize it.
I have just re-read my above post…and perhaps “rational theist” is as good a term as any. I do believe one of the tenets of Wicca…that “light calls to light and darkness calls to darkness”…if we do not live in the Light we become blind to His working in our lives and His work in others…when we do not see Him in the Sacred Ordinary of daily life, we look for Him in extraordinary means…as in “outward forms” and “creaturly activity” of ritual. When wew do not live in the Light…we see darkness in the most unlikly of places…we see malevolence where Light resides. When His Voice is silenced in those we come in contact with whom “we have seen” and only see “error” in others beliefs, we see darkness breaking through.
Perhaps this is is a good a reason as any I am a Friend rather than a Catholic as I’ve considered before.
This is not an indictment on anything you have stated…it is the ramblings of a Friend.