What to do when you hit a stumbling block?

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My stumbling block was when I had tried for two years to complete my schooling, to no avail. There are too many questions on this forum without thinking, which shows that people like to e told what to do, instead of doing things for themselves. It’s a kind of motivation problem. So I have been thinking to myself about all my failures, why me, why me?

Why did I have to get drugged to the point of being temporarily not able to function? Why do people shun me? Curse this, curse that, curse the day I was born!

While this forum has taught me, and others the burning questions of the faith, how much is too much?

I would pray the Rosary everyday with intense concerntration, to the point of not being able to function. This is NOT what God or our lady wants.

Worship should be centred on the Eucharist.

I have been thinking like a child that needs comfort and attention. This is no longer working–do something about it, take a different approach, explore other options.

I kind of wrote this loosely, like a poem.

I plan on going to Adoration to seek healing and counsel. I hope it will do me good and heal my bonds with those around me.

I shall pray also for the people reading this.
 
The Rosary does have a Eucharistic aspect to it.
Is the Rosary part of the stumbling block?
 
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My stumbling block was
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First, had you tried to get a simple 9 to 5 job (with no complications beyond that) you probably would have succeeded.
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to complete my schooling
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This takes an athlete, in tip-top shape. If you are somehow out of shape, or trying to get “back into it”, odds are you’re facing an “up hill” struggle.
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about all my failures
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Man, pope Benedict XVI wrote in his autobiography (“la mi vita”) how he almost failed his PhD (and would consequently “loose everything”) because of some “detail” on his final thesis - with all factors, for the most part, out of his control. And he spoke of being “a failure”. He only barely made it, fulfilling the minimum of minimums.
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why me, why me?
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A complex question. Reduced only to academics, you gave a part of the answer yourself and it went beyond academics.
 
Failure either ruins or strengthens.

Rather than “Why me” (self pity), ask “Why not me?” (selflessness). Humility creates a spiritual vacuum into which grace cannot help but flow.

Because you found favor with the Lord, it was necessary that your faith be tested. (Tobit 12:13).

Favor with the Lord. You are in good company.
 
I know what is in your mind. Thank you for your prayers. I absolutely need them.

I sympathize with you. I sometimes think on the same lines like you do.
But then I reflect the conditions of some other people, like people who are born without legs and arms, blind, deaf etc…before I have to curse here and there.

May God bless you.
 
I don’t see it as a stumbling block you’re going through - but a stage of your development.
And this stage - sounds like it could be somewhat new to you - lol
Faith it -
And
Stop trying so hard too -
“I would pray the Rosary everyday with intense concentration, to the point of not being able to function”
Stop blaming yourself -
“So I have been thinking to myself about all my failures, why me, why me?”
 
After this - opened Job his mouth, and cursed his day !
And Job spake, and said,
Let the day perish wherein I was born,
and the night in which it was said, There is a man child conceived.
Let that day be darkness;
let not God regard it from above,
neither let the light shine upon it.

Let darkness and the shadow of death stain it;
let a cloud dwell upon it;
let the blackness of the day terrify it.
As for that night, let darkness seize upon it;
let it not be joined unto the days of the year,
let it not come into the number of the months.

Lo, let that night be solitary,
let no joyful voice come therein.
Let them curse it - that curse the day,
who are ready to raise up their mourning.
Let the stars of the twilight thereof be dark;
let it look for light, but have none;
neither let it see the dawning of the day:

Because it shut not up the doors of my mother’s womb,
nor hid sorrow from mine eyes.
Why died I not from the womb?
why did I not give up the ghost
when I came out of the belly?
 
Praying for your intentions Zerg,God bless you and thank you for your offer of prayers 🙂
 
Lately I find that chimes help me. I am not sure if these are compositions or the result of breeze. But when I hear chimes they make me think of nature playing music, God through nature communicati
In with me.

 
Zerg,

I suffer from terminal perfectionism, which leads me to severe anxiety. depression, avoidance and very low self-esteem. Thankfully, I have a terrific therapist who is helping me counter this problem, so I can relate to your situation.

Have you considered seeking professional help?
 
Just keep plugging away. Don’t expect any expect things to be exciting or wonderful, just keep plugging away. I think that too often we expect unrealistic fulfillment from our spiritual lives. We should count our blessings and just carry on.
 
Hello.

I like what St. Mother Teresa said about God calling us to be “faithful, not successful.”

Helps me to hear that.
 
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