What To Say To People Who Laugh At Us?

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Alot of people will make me and my family a joke.
I have 7 kids and i am 28 and people freak out when they see us.
Not at church or anything, but at the store in public ect…
What can i say to make them shut up with out being rude.
Know they did not just POP! out and yes i love itand i probley will have more!
I am so tierd of being in the spotlight.

Blessed are they who are persecuted all because of me.
Matthew
 
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imfourkids:
Alot of people will make me and my family a joke.
I have 7 kids and i am 28 and people freak out when they see us.
Not at church or anything, but at the store in public ect…
What can i say to make them shut up with out being rude.
Know they did not just POP! out and yes i love itand i probley will have more!
I am so tierd of being in the spotlight.

Blessed are they who are persecuted all because of me.
Matthew
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Don’t say anything, just smile and use this as an opportunity to gain grace, when we are accused of something that is not true and we do not correct the person, but instead just smile and take it. We can offer it to God for the good of souls, even our own. Continue this and you’ll be on your way to heaven.
 
Well…if they’re being rude, you could always politely ask them “So which ones were a mistake?”

Puts 'em right on the spot without being nasty. And of course there’s always “Are they healthy? Yes. Are they clothed? Yes. Are they bothering you? No. End of story.”

God bless you. You’ll never regret your large family, especially when you’re older and surrounded by loads of grandchildren. 🙂
 
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imfourkids:
Alot of people will make me and my family a joke.
I have 7 kids and i am 28 and people freak out when they see us.
Matthew
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There are 7 in my family. We are all older now, and we are the best of friends. We have a 13 yr age span. So my mom had all of us by the time she was 35. She also had 2 miscarriages. We live all over the country but get together as often as possible. I remember my mom telling us what is was like to raise 7 kids, and how often we weren’t invited. She held a special place in her heart for those who treated us kindly. We knew we were a spectacle at times, but I tell you we got over it as the years went on.

For the times that were harder when we were young, there have been many times that have been made easier by the size of my family as we got older. Caring for my parents as they aged was a group effort, and a blessing for my parents. I miss them terribly, but I admire how they raised us. We are as close as can be, and we all help each other out in time of need. We were all together this Thanksgiving for a family event and it was special. Many times we thank God that we have each other.

Your family will thank you and you wil be the envy of many in years to come. Don’t worry about the people who don’t understand now. Your children will be prepared to share rooms in college. They will know how to cook and clean, becuase they will learn by necessity. They will become resourceful with jobs and they will always know the importance of work. Pray with them every day and they will learn they are a blessing from God.

We had some times we struggled financially, but I will tell you I appreciate everything I have now, and I owe so much to my parents and their selflessness. God Bless your family!
 
There’s nothing you can really do to stop people from saying these things. I would try to not be upset, because you may go off on somebody who doesn’t mean any harm. It may be someone who actually thinks 12 kids are wonderful for those who want them, but they’re so surprised at the sight that they say something and you’ll take it too personally.

Another thing that might work: “You know, people make comments like that all the time, and it my family and I really get tired of it.” Just say that, plain and simple. The average person will probably apologize and realize that, duh, they were being rude.

I have a friend who has adopted a little girl from China. While she was waiting for all the paperwork to go through, she had months to notice lots of other families with obviously adopted Chinese girls. Now, those people get tired of hearing “Is that your real daughter?” and “Is she adopted?” but my friend is very outgoing and was sooo excited about her own adoption that she naturally wanted to aproach these families and talk about the subject! But, she knew that she had to try and be tactful AND be prepared for an irritated response. She’d often say “Excuse me, but I’m in the process of adopting my daughter in China… is that your own adopted daughter?” 95% of the time, the people would light up like a Christmas tree and want to talk about it. A few people, however, said things like “No, this isn’t my daughter and she’s NOT adopted!” in an irritated tone. Anyway, my friend meant well and she wasn’t about to let that stop her from talking to the next adoptive family she saw!

So, the next time you hear “Are they ALL YOURS?” don’t necessarily assume that you know where they’re coming from! They may be about to tell you that THEY have 14 siblings and they just love to see another big family!
 
We got the “glad that isn’t me” just for having twins!
I liked a disbelieving “I beg your pardon?” In the (very few) cases when they didn’t have the good sense to cut it out, but continued to put their feet in their mouths, I’d shake my head, look as if I were truly surprised that someone would say something that appalling, and say, “What a terrible thing to say to a child. They do have feelings, you know.” I didn’t have any that kept it up after that, although you might. If someone is that rude, a polite person may very pointedly end the conversation at any time without being rude themselves in doing so.

The main thing is to say something your children can be pleased to have heard you saying. They’re the only ones who are likely to remember.
 
I have lots of friends with big families. They all have the same problem. I understand that some people can’t have large families, but for those that do I say the following.

The reason why many people make rude remarks is because you are challenging them. you are the light in the midst of this culture of death. You are witnessing to Christ everytime you are gathered together, and are seen by these ignorant people. Try to bear the insults patiently, and use this as a major part of your efforts to spread Gods Kingdom.http://forums.catholic-questions.org/images/icons/icon14.gif
 
Do not worry about it at all, dont let it bother you. Just be happy that you have such a wonderful family. I would love to have a big family too when the time comes. ( i am only a teen so that might be awhile)
 
Ignore them or smile and say, “God bless you”. Remember, Jesus told us that we have to turn the other cheek.
 
You asked ,“What should I say?”

You do not owe rude people a thing, show your grace, just ignore them.

Only ignorant rude people would ever think of making a comment about a large family. Consider yourself lucky, God entrusted you with all those little people- show them that you follow Jesus’ teachings.

Bless your heart.
 
Start slowly backing away, push the kids ahead of you to get a start, then turn around again to face the person, hold your hands out and wiggle your fingers in an almost taunting “come hither” gesture as you shuffle backwards, say “Well, what are YOU waiting for? Come, on! Catch up with us… if you can!”, then turn around and run away with the children while cackling histerically.
 
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imfourkids:
Alot of people will make me and my family a joke.
I have 7 kids and i am 28 and people freak out when they see us.
Not at church or anything, but at the store in public ect…
What can i say to make them shut up with out being rude.
Know they did not just POP! out and yes i love itand i probley will have more!
I am so tierd of being in the spotlight.

Blessed are they who are persecuted all because of me.
Matthew
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Don’t let people who are ignorant (such is the same case with bigots) and maybe jealous because you are blessed with a large family, as if THEY support them. Blessings dear, don’t let them bother you, wow I wish I had a large family.
P.S. If they really continue to stare just ask them: “do you have a problem”? smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/26/26_20_3.gif smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/26/26_17_3.gif
 
Wow! You’re 28 and have SEVEN children! May every one of them be a blessing and reward to you every minute of your life. Congratulations.
 
If you can learn to laugh at yourself, the world can only laugh with you.
 
I used to be one of those ignorant people who thought it was ludicrious to have more than 3 children in this day and time. What a fool I was!!! My DD is the joy of my life and my unborn baby is my hope for the future. God bless and hold your head up high. You are doing God’s will…
 
My wife and I have 8 children and she has received these snid comments for a number of years. Here are some of her best replies. She has never received a reply to any of these.

Hey, I married to a stallion, not a gelding!

Sure, we know what causes it and it is great!

My husband is just great in the sack!
 
I’ve gotten strange comments just for wanting to have more than one child! People are soo rediculous.
 
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Christian4life:
I’ve gotten strange comments just for wanting to have more than one child! People are soo rediculous.
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Sheesh, I have four and counting.
 
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imfourkids:
Alot of people will make me and my family a joke.
I have 7 kids and i am 28 and people freak out when they see us.
Not at church or anything, but at the store in public ect…
What can i say to make them shut up with out being rude.
Know they did not just POP! out and yes i love itand i probley will have more!
I am so tierd of being in the spotlight.

Blessed are they who are persecuted all because of me.
Matthew
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It’s okay…My Grandmother (A devout Catholic as was my grandfather) had 9 children…one was my dear Mom. Glory Be To God!
 
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