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estesbob
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“race you to the car”
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Cara_Serrano
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" Betcha I can get to hell faster than you can!"
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LeroyCRHP
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It is difficult to say something and have that change the person…however, if you ask your Priest to say something I bet that will help. I go to 12:30 (commonly called the 12:45 mass) and many leave early. Our priest stopped just before consecrecration couple weeks ago and delivered a beautiful message that I’ll summarize as “do not walk out the door before me, the mass is not over until I walk out the door”. That mass was very different, and since then much fewer 12:45 people and fewer people leaving. Sometimes people just need to be told the rules! 
As an aside, the day our priest delivered that message a good friend gets up to leave just before the priest. Afterward he explains he had commited to handing out grocery bags for the poor and needed to be at the door, but felt like a dog as perhaps the only one to walk out early that day!
As an aside, the day our priest delivered that message a good friend gets up to leave just before the priest. Afterward he explains he had commited to handing out grocery bags for the poor and needed to be at the door, but felt like a dog as perhaps the only one to walk out early that day!
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jc-servant
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Why are people watching who leaves instead of kneeling with their eyes closed in prayer? I could not begin to tell you who left mass because I’m not focused on the other people in the pews during mass.
I can say that I would not bring it up to anyone because it is not my place. If it came up in conversation with them naturally a general comment could be made that might change a mind. However, I know people who have medical issues that they don’t choose to spread around which require them to make a quick exit to the restroom regularly either right after communion or sometimes even before. One of these people always sits in the rear near the restroom, but the other sits next to an aisle where people may be noting her frequent early exit and making assumptions instead of attending to their own prayers and their own families. I would hate for anyone to cause embarrassment to either of these dear people (one who is young and fit looking) by bringing up their exits.
It is not our mission to lead the parish, so some things are best left to the pastor who does have that mission and hopefully the training to handle things in an appropriate manner.
I can say that I would not bring it up to anyone because it is not my place. If it came up in conversation with them naturally a general comment could be made that might change a mind. However, I know people who have medical issues that they don’t choose to spread around which require them to make a quick exit to the restroom regularly either right after communion or sometimes even before. One of these people always sits in the rear near the restroom, but the other sits next to an aisle where people may be noting her frequent early exit and making assumptions instead of attending to their own prayers and their own families. I would hate for anyone to cause embarrassment to either of these dear people (one who is young and fit looking) by bringing up their exits.
It is not our mission to lead the parish, so some things are best left to the pastor who does have that mission and hopefully the training to handle things in an appropriate manner.
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Methodi
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Last Sunday, Our Pastor addressed the problem of people exiting mass before it was over, He told them they dont realize how powerful that last blessing is that the priest gives. I believe that
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Cara_Serrano
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Highwayhound
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Good point
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Cider
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I can’t imagine ever approaching someone ask then why they are leaving early. I’d be grateful she is bringing her grandson to mass at all, and mind my own business.
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Junebug999
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I think it is people just wanting to get outta there as fast as they can – like they want the minimum from the Mass – or they think they filled their obligation to God. I think what they do is wrong – and it’s between them and God. If the priest chose to address it, I would hope and pray they would listen. My 18 year old son went to Mass with me first time Sunday at 5:30 p.m. – he was very surprised how many people left early. We had to sit in the back row since DH is a slave to a cell phone if called (he puts it on vibrate – but it’s a public health and safety thing so on the back row we are). Who knows why a “person” leaves, but seeing from HOW MANY I see leave I can’t believe they all have an emergency to get to. I told my DH and DS that "this family stays until the last song and the priest, etc., has filed out. I’m trying to start out my DH and DS in the Church RIGHT! 
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Cara_Serrano
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I’m not sure a vibrating cell phone during Mas is any different than leaving Mass early. Both cause you to take your focus away from the Lord. Giving God our undivided attention for an hour a week shouldn’t be too much to ask even of a teenager.I think it is people just wanting to get outta there as fast as they can – like they want the minimum from the Mass – or they think they filled their obligation to God. I think what they do is wrong – and it’s between them and God. If the priest chose to address it, I would hope and pray they would listen. My 18 year old son went to Mass with me first time Sunday at 5:30 p.m. – he was very surprised how many people left early. We had to sit in the back row since DH is a slave to a cell phone if called (he puts it on vibrate – but it’s a public health and safety thing so on the back row we are). Who knows why a “person” leaves, but seeing from HOW MANY I see leave I can’t believe they all have an emergency to get to. I told my DH and DS that "this family stays until the last song and the priest, etc., has filed out. I’m trying to start out my DH and DS in the Church RIGHT!
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ultraswamy
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If you say that the person in question occupies a fairly important position in school then perhaps they will have a email-ID available on the public domain, to which you could always send an email.
For sure, it is a cheeky way of doing things, but it would allow you to articulate your feelings without any embarassment to either you or her, and without any awkward physical interaction too. They could totally choose not to/to respond to it, either in their future actions in church itself;or by replying to your mail, should you choose to introduce yourself.
I’m sure you could word the letter in a friendly way, mentioning your concerns regarding the bad precedent youre worried it might set amongst others. It is up to you to be as charitable as you feel in drafting your mail, and up to them to be as charitable as they want to, in responding to it.
There are even websites like NiceCritic but i think anonymity can be misused and is pushing an already cheeky idea into even more questionable territory.
For sure, it is a cheeky way of doing things, but it would allow you to articulate your feelings without any embarassment to either you or her, and without any awkward physical interaction too. They could totally choose not to/to respond to it, either in their future actions in church itself;or by replying to your mail, should you choose to introduce yourself.
I’m sure you could word the letter in a friendly way, mentioning your concerns regarding the bad precedent youre worried it might set amongst others. It is up to you to be as charitable as you feel in drafting your mail, and up to them to be as charitable as they want to, in responding to it.
There are even websites like NiceCritic but i think anonymity can be misused and is pushing an already cheeky idea
into even more questionable territory.
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Manny_Gonzales
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If someone leaves before the last blessing she/he have not gone to mass.It’s not for anyone to advise that individual. The priests should make general annoucements right before the last blessing to remind everybody.Exception: Emergencies…bacolod1125
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Cara_Serrano
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What is this information based on? I was taught by Jesuits and Dominicans that if you were present from the Readings tthrough Holy Communion. you had been to Mass. Of course it’s wrong to arrive late or leave early, but technically you haven’t “missed” Mass.
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Highwayhound
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The only case I can think of where a cell phone/pager interrupting one’s attendance at mass would be if the person is a volunteer fire fighter. Most fire departments are volunteer (especially in the small towns). In our department we each have a pager. I choose to leave mine at home when I attend mass because I know enough of the pagans are at home on the weekend. (I am just kidding about the other men being pagans, they are good men.)
When an alarm happens it could be a person trapped in a car wreck needing the jaws of life or a house fire where a family could lose the comfort and safety of their home. It is imperative that men respond quickly. In this case a man is being his brother’s keeper and living the gospel.
Other than something along this line I cannot see a reason to leave early.
One last thought - the word ‘catholic’ means universal. This means we welcome to mass the sinners as well as the saints.
God bless
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Junebug999
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Cara – the son’s cell phone is out in the car. The DH (dear hub) is responsible for some matters in the city related to public health and safety, and there are some calls he has to step outside and take care of – it doesn’t happen very often, but when it does it is not something that can wait an hour. I’m sure God understands, such as God understands when I have to work weekends or Holy Days because of my job in emergency services.
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LJN21
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There are many professions (doctor, firefighter ect.) I think of right of that it would be imprudent and a risk to others very lives if they completely turned off their pagers or cell phones.
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Frances_Clark
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I have always been puzzled as to why people are in a rush to leave Mass before the final blessing. A convert to the Catholic Church told me one should always arrive at least 20 minutes before Mass. He likened it to arriving at someone’s home for a meal, saying you wouldn’t come to the table late and you would never leave before dessert is served which he said was the final blessing. As to the news celebrity that wanted to leave so as not to be ‘bothered’ by people, I met the Governor of CA, Arnold, and his wife, Marie and their children after Mass in Santa Monica. He didn’t leave early. Also, the Church, the Body of Christ, is a family and it is good to bond with your family and get to know them, show concern for them and interact with them. Get to know those at Mass and be friendly to new faces.
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Cara_Serrano
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How did all these people get through a Sunday Mass before there were cell phones? I think it is a bit of pride on the part of any “professional” who thinks the world can’t live without him for an hour. Give the hour to God and I’m sure He’ll find some one else to handle any emergencies that arise.
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LJN21
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They didn’t get the oportuinity to go because they had to be at the hospital instead of just on call. If God wanted people to just ingore the emergencies it wouldn’t be an valid reason to be excused from your Sunday obligation entirely.
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Deacon_Ed_B
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If only saints could go to mass, the church would truly be empty. This includes me also.
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