What to tell my child of my gay sister and her so called wife

[Birdpreacher]

as a person who has had clerical abuse effect his family, i would unfortunately think twice before letting my kid be alone with a priest

 

[phil19034]

I do not know any one who has suffered from clerical abuse, but I think is sad how “one bad apple spoils a bunch.”

Of course, there are some places where it would not be approprate for a child to spend time with any adult who is not family, but to keep a child from Confession, etc is sad.

It really is sad that a small number of bad apples has hurt the Church this much.

God Bless.

 

[tjones80]

Would you advise the OP also against leaving her child alone with a priest? Those stories “is (sic) legion” also.

There is no reputable scientific data to support the claim that homosexuals are more likely to assault children than heterosexuals.

There will never be a “independent” scientific study regarding the link between homosexuality and child sex abuse because if any person suggested such a study they would be labeled homophobic and would lose their standing in the science community.

 

[Book_Worm]

There will never be a “independent” scientific study regarding the link between homosexuality and child sex abuse because if any person suggested such a study they would be labeled homophobic and would lose their standing in the science community.

So you’re suggesting that the studies that have been done to discern whether your premise is true or not are all fraudulent?

 

[EasterJoy]

Seriously? You are *that *distrustful of priests?

If the state of our Church is such that the people are afraid of the priests, we may as well give it up.

I’ve read some extreme statements on CAF, but this cuts right to the heart.

How’s that a way to teach our children? "Junior, look to the priest for the salvation of your eternal soul, but…don’t be caught alone with him or else…

There are no priests (or any staff members of any Catholic parish, diocese or other organization) that are going to let you leave your child alone with them, unless that child is a relative. It is not about being afraid of priests. It is about priests not allowing the trust placed in them to give an opportunity to those who would use it in a predatory manner. If the good priests won’t put themselves in a situation where they could abuse a child, then no one is going to become a priest in order to gain that position of trust.

 

[EasterJoy]

There will never be a “independent” scientific study regarding the link between homosexuality and child sex abuse because if any person suggested such a study they would be labeled homophobic and would lose their standing in the science community.

It does not matter. If a link were found, it would not be so strong that you could conclude whether or not a particular person was likely to be a predator, based on their marital status, sexual orientation, role in the Church, bank account, grades, presence or lack of a criminal history or history of drug abuse, or any of the rest.

Predators stay out of jail and find their victims by gaining trust they do not deserve, which is to say that the ones who do not get caught are very good liars. If more gays were predators than not, be very sure that the gay predators would not let on to *anyone *that they were gay! Why would they? It is not as if they’re looking for adults! Likewise, if gays were “safe”, then predators would pretend to be gay. That is how predators operate.

 

[on_the_hill]

There are no priests (or any staff members of any Catholic parish, diocese or other organization) that are going to let you leave your child alone with them, unless that child is a relative. It is not about being afraid of priests. It is about priests not allowing the trust placed in them to give an opportunity to those who would use it in a predatory manner. If the good priests won’t put themselves in a situation where they could abuse a child, then no one is going to become a priest in order to gain that position of trust.

Right, but in that case the initiative to separate is coming from the priest. I’m referring to when the parents initiate the separation.

 

[SurlyMermaid]

There were no Catholic priests in my town. There were plenty of Protestant youth ministers and school teachers. You know, people drawn to working with children in positions of authority for nefarious reasons. Colleagues of mine in the mental health profession as well, people I know, listed on the state licensure website for sexual breaches of ethics. There’s that older kid in the neighborhood who only plays with the younger ones.

My grandfather’s sister has lived with a woman, in separate bedrooms and as devout Catholics, for 40 years. It didn’t occur to me and my sister they were anything but “old spinster roommates” until just a few years ago. My grandmother laughed at my realization. They just kept things low-key.

We do have us open sinners in the family. I’ve committed adultery, shacked up, been married 3 times, had two kids out of wedlock. Some folks in my family kept me away from their kids.

Just sayin’.

Peace.

:hug1:

SM

 

[EasterJoy]

Right, but in that case the initiative to separate is coming from the priest. I’m referring to when the parents initiate the separation.

Join the 21st century. Leaving your young child alone with a priest or any other Church minister who is not a member of your family exposes him to allegations. It is simply not done any more.

 

[EasterJoy]

We do have us open sinners in the family. I’ve committed adultery, shacked up, been married 3 times, had two kids out of wedlock. Some folks in my family kept me away from their kids.

Just sayin’.

Sorry, but you have to draw me a picture. What are you just sayin’?