What would it take for catholics to Attend Mass Weekly?

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This is petty but you did ask for thoughts. Growing up (in the 70’s) I know most masses were between 45 - 50 minutes on the weekends. Today with all the added singing and people due to fewer masses they are 60 - 70 minutes. Growing up you did not feel like a sardine in church. Maybe if a church is over 80% full most weekends another mass time should be offered. (Of course we are talking about cutting masses due to lack of priests.) Please pray for vocations to religious life.
This kind of goes with post #12.

I’m a claustrophic myself but human behavior sometimes is funny. Megachurches are popular because, well they have lots of attraction and are popular. The Chicago Cubs draw millions of people every year not because they’re a winning team but because people are naturally drawn to crowds. The bandwagon effect. The chances of bumping into others you know is higher there as well. Thus the need to consolidate parishes and Masses. That’s my theory anyway.
 
I started attending mass again about 10 weeks ago after many years of being lapsed. My background is irish catholic, and while I felt a strong relationship with God as a child, as I grew into a teenager and student, I fell away. I think a lot now about why. I think it was a mix of things; I felt as a young person I disagreed with a lot of teaching and couldnt understand or accept it, or i didnt want to: why cant you have sex before marriage, why is it wrong for me to use contraception, why is homosexuality condemned, why is masturbation a sin, how can so many of our priests (including one from my parish when I was a child) have abused children. I felt like Catholicism was a big list of rules - you cant do this, you cant do that…somehow I got the idea that, given how i felt and thought and my poor understanding, ā€œGod doesnt want meā€ and eventually I doubted Gods existence at all. I turned my back and I didnt think too hard about it. I had learned again and again about the life of Jesus, but the message didnt really seem to click with me. I knew it but I didnt truly ā€œgetā€ it. I didnt think about mass as a sacrifice for our salvation.

Meanwhile, I lived my life. I had ups and downs - I enjoyed great success in my studies and career, pouring myself into it. I also intermittently suffered depression and increasingly found life was a weary, circular trek to find something that i couldnt define, but desperately longed for. I felt disillusioned with the life of money and success…it felt empty, cold and I realised I was ashamed of how I was living my life - extremely selfishly.

I came back because I felt called. I literally woke up one day and felt the compulsion to know God. I reached out and found Gods love, his message of hope and mercy. I felt called back and I realised I wanted a relationship with God: to understand Him, to understand His message and what He wants of me. I found my place. More of my Catholic faith was there inside me than I’d realised or acknowledged for many years.

I’m not sure how we can help people hear that call back from God. I think that one is only in His hands, but of course we can always pray to know how to do better and to reach out!

What helped me on the way back?

The priest in my church was welcoming and things he did like waiting outside the church and shaking hands with the parishioners after mass, giving excellent meaningful relevant homilies and encouraging work in the community.
I have always been very wary of ā€œbible-bashersā€ (think loudspeaker, tube station entrance) - but I have rarely ever talked about religion with my friends. If one of them spoke to me about religion, I would be surprised but intrigued. Maybe it has to start there - a conversation between trusted friends? That could have helped me sooner perhaps. Although somehow, when I look back now, the timing was perfect. I was ready to listen when God called me back.

If we are asking this question, or feel compelled to talk about it, I guess God is working again in another way šŸ™‚

On the Latin Mass front, I really dont think that would have helped me, or indeed many from my background / demographic. If the first mass I had gone to was a Latin Mass, I would have felt even more discouraged about how little I understood. There is something wonderful about going to mass and hearing words that speak to you: the psalm on the first mass I attended ten weeks ago was Psalm 63, where David speaks of his soul thirsting for the Lord. Now thats timing!

The reverence of mass is so important - that had a huge impact on me. I don’t agree with any ā€œsimplifyingā€ of the mass - but education about it I agree is important. I am seeking some education now to study scripture and different topics and it’s a challenge to find something but I’m lucky enough to live in a big city. I would love if there was a small group in my parish I could study with. An inclusive group like that could possibly have been a draw for me - it definitely would be now as I work on building it.

Looking forward to hearing more ideas!
 
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church ***when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them? *** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. *ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ * For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
 
Thank you for your testimony.
I started attending mass again about 10 weeks ago after many years of being lapsed. My background is irish catholic, and while I felt a strong relationship with God as a child, as I grew into a teenager and student, I fell away. I think a lot now about why. I think it was a mix of things; I felt as a young person I disagreed with a lot of teaching and couldnt understand or accept it, or i didnt want to: why cant you have sex before marriage, why is it wrong for me to use contraception, why is homosexuality condemned, why is masturbation a sin, how can so many of our priests (including one from my parish when I was a child) have abused children. I felt like Catholicism was a big list of rules - you cant do this, you cant do that…somehow I got the idea that, given how i felt and thought and my poor understanding, ā€œGod doesnt want meā€ and eventually I doubted Gods existence at all. I turned my back and I didnt think too hard about it. I had learned again and again about the life of Jesus, but the message didnt really seem to click with me. I knew it but I didnt truly ā€œgetā€ it. I didnt think about mass as a sacrifice for our salvation.

Meanwhile, I lived my life. I had ups and downs - I enjoyed great success in my studies and career, pouring myself into it. I also intermittently suffered depression and increasingly found life was a weary, circular trek to find something that i couldnt define, but desperately longed for. I felt disillusioned with the life of money and success…it felt empty, cold and I realised I was ashamed of how I was living my life - extremely selfishly.

I came back because I felt called. I literally woke up one day and felt the compulsion to know God. I reached out and found Gods love, his message of hope and mercy. I felt called back and I realised I wanted a relationship with God: to understand Him, to understand His message and what He wants of me. I found my place. More of my Catholic faith was there inside me than I’d realised or acknowledged for many years.

I’m not sure how we can help people hear that call back from God. I think that one is only in His hands, but of course we can always pray to know how to do better and to reach out!

What helped me on the way back?

The priest in my church was welcoming and things he did like waiting outside the church and shaking hands with the parishioners after mass, giving excellent meaningful relevant homilies and encouraging work in the community.
I have always been very wary of ā€œbible-bashersā€ (think loudspeaker, tube station entrance) - but I have rarely ever talked about religion with my friends. If one of them spoke to me about religion, I would be surprised but intrigued. Maybe it has to start there - a conversation between trusted friends? That could have helped me sooner perhaps. Although somehow, when I look back now, the timing was perfect. I was ready to listen when God called me back.

If we are asking this question, or feel compelled to talk about it, I guess God is working again in another way šŸ™‚

On the Latin Mass front, I really dont think that would have helped me, or indeed many from my background / demographic. If the first mass I had gone to was a Latin Mass, I would have felt even more discouraged about how little I understood. There is something wonderful about going to mass and hearing words that speak to you: the psalm on the first mass I attended ten weeks ago was Psalm 63, where David speaks of his soul thirsting for the Lord. Now thats timing!

The reverence of mass is so important - that had a huge impact on me. I don’t agree with any ā€œsimplifyingā€ of the mass - but education about it I agree is important. I am seeking some education now to study scripture and different topics and it’s a challenge to find something but I’m lucky enough to live in a big city. I would love if there was a small group in my parish I could study with. An inclusive group like that could possibly have been a draw for me - it definitely would be now as I work on building it.

Looking forward to hearing more ideas!
 
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church ***when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them? *** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. *ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ * For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
cause they receive the Bread of Life there?
 
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church ***when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them? *** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. *ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ * For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
I guess the Latin rite was disrespectful for hundreds of years.

Let me recommend a book for you. It’s called "The Latin Mass Explained, by George J. Moorman and Michael Schmitz.
 
I guess the Latin rite was disrespectful for hundreds of years.

Let me recommend a book for you. It’s called "The Latin Mass Explained, by George J. Moorman and Michael Schmitz.
That’s not what I understood him to mean - rather, I think he was asking, in an era when every outing has to be ā€œan experience,ā€ and where if it doesn’t make you money then it better entertain you, how is the TLM going to improve their attendance? We are not talking about educated Catholics; we are talking about people who think Transformers is great art.
 
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church ***when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them? *** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. *ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ * For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
Disrespectful? Are you kidding me?
 
For all of you advocating the return of the TLM -

How many devout, faithful Catholics do you know who stay away from mass because of the lack of Latin in the mass?
None.
Tradition is fine, but don’t get lost in Nostalgia, thinking that if we only went back to holding the mass in a language nobody understood, we would be just fine. Thats not going to work. Period. The Latin mass would attract some people, certainly, but it would also turn off others. People like a religious service in which they can participate, and which they can clearly understand. Neither of these elements is particularly strong in the TLM.
Please don’t paint a picture of the Latin Mass as a priest blubbering on in gibberish at the altar with the faithful sitting there indifferent due to not understanding a thing that is being said. That is not the case at all. The faithful mostly have missals, and in some Latin Mass parishes, including the one I go to, they have ā€˜mini-missals’ that you can borrow at the front door. If you have just a little understanding of what the Mass is, then you have no problem understanding what is going on. I would find it quite surprising if a faithful Catholic didn’t understand what was happening at the Traditional Latin Mass. Pope Benedict has said before that participation means being there in prayer and solemn reverence and reflection. Participation in the Mass does not mean simply running about being an EMHC or a door greeter, etc, even though those things are good to do if required.

God Bless.
 
That’s not what I understood him to mean - rather, I think he was asking, in an era when every outing has to be ā€œan experience,ā€ and where if it doesn’t make you money then it better entertain you, how is the TLM going to improve their attendance? We are not talking about educated Catholics; we are talking about people who think Transformers is great art.
I had to take a look back at the post to see if I read wrong, because when I replied I was using my iPhone. But this is what the poster said:
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them?**** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
For those who say some have disdain for the OF, is this not disdain for the EF?
 
For those who say some have disdain for the OF, is this not disdain for the EF?
I think he was putting himself in their shoes, and writing what he thought they (meaning people who haven’t been to Mass recently, and who orient their lives around entertainment and work) might say, if they just walk in with no understanding of what is going on, or that it is not supposed to be a form of entertainment - I don’t think he really thinks this.
 
Maybe I’m naive, but if the issue is lowered attendance, why would already-busy and already-stressed people make a weekly effort to go church ***when the priest and altar boys have their backs turned to them? *** I know I would take that as disrespectful, and I think most other singles would take umbrage as well - and not return. *ā€œThe priest can’t even look at us?ā€ * For the people you’d like to return to church, TLM is probably not the best idea.
The issue is ways to increase the attendence at Mass. That means increase the worship to God, not to themselves. Where are their priorities?
 
I think he was putting himself in their shoes, and writing what he thought they (meaning people who haven’t been to Mass recently, and who orient their lives around entertainment and work) might say, if they just walk in with no understanding of what is going on, or that it is not supposed to be a form of entertainment - I don’t think he really thinks this.
Okay. Havana is this true? You have a worthy defender! 😃
 
I had to take a look back at the post to see if I read wrong, because when I replied I was using my iPhone. But this is what the poster said:

For those who say some have disdain for the OF, is this not disdain for the EF?
I don’t think that is disdain. Disdain in the dictionary:
disĀ·dain (ds-dn)
tr.v. disĀ·dained, disĀ·dainĀ·ing, disĀ·dains
  1. To regard or treat with haughty contempt; despise. See Synonyms at despise.
  2. To consider or reject as beneath oneself.
    n.
    A feeling or show of contempt and aloofness; scorn.
 
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