What would you do in this situation?

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Well, he did say to tell him to stop if he made any unwanted advances. Tell him that. Say that you enjoy his correspondences as a friend, but the flirty undertones are making you uncomfortable. Say that if he cannot stop the “sexy” talk, than it would probably be best for both of you if you end things. And then, if he does it again, do end things.
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Be straight with him in telling him its making you feel uneasy and give him a chance to prove himself. And as said, just stop otherwise. It may be nothing but if its making you uncomfortable and he hasn’t heard then its upto to you naturally, may be reduce the number of emails etc if you don’t want to actually stop. If you did want to stop then you wouldn’t be writing here I take it because you would have just stopped? You may well be torn between the attention of it all etc but if you getting uncomfortable then the enjoyment has gone has it not?
 
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Be straight with him in telling him its making you feel uneasy and give him a chance to prove himself. And as said, just stop otherwise. It may be nothing but if its making you uncomfortable and he hasn’t heard then its upto to you naturally, may be reduce the number of emails etc if you don’t want to actually stop. If you did want to stop then you wouldn’t be writing here I take it because you would have just stopped? You may well be torn between the attention of it all etc but if you getting uncomfortable then the enjoyment has gone has it not?
Actually, I posted here for a few reasons: I’ve never really had anyone talk to me like that online, and I wasn’t sure if it was something I should be concerned about. The fact that he says he is married really throws me off and confuses me. And also, I don’t want to be rude. I don’t like just ending contact with people without a word, even if my reasons are justified. People have done that to me in the past, and it can be hurtful especially if they’re considered friends. I don’t want to cause anyone hurt.

There was never any enjoyment for me in any of his flirtatious language. I just don’t appreciate or like that sort of attention - from anyone, really. It makes me feel awkward and attacks my morals a bit. The fact that he’s married adds a new level of discomfort. In his last message to me, he made another statement about how sexy girls are, and I just didn’t respond to it. I think he may have realised that I didn’t like it, because he dropped the subject and didn’t do the “x” thing again.
 
(Not sure that this is in the right place)

I recently met this Christian guy (he’s a Mennonite) online, and we’ve started communicating over email. I’m not by any means interested in him romantically. We live in completely different countries, he’s a bit older than me and is married with children.

We haven’t been talking for a long time, but his words have begun to become quite flirtatious. He keeps talking about how “sexy” I am (even though I’ve never shown him any photos of myself) and included “xx” at the end of one of his messages. He even told me he was a “terrible flirt” and to tell him to stop if he made any unwanted advances.

He seems like a nice person with good intentions, but I’m feeling a little uncomfortable. Looking back over the conversations I’ve had with him, I don’t believe anything I said encouraged him.
It just seems odd that he would do these things, A) when he doesn’t know me in person and has never seen my picture, and B) when he’s a married guy with a family.

Is there anything I should do? Or do you reckon this is just harmless fun and I’m taking it too far? I don’t want to engage in something like this and be made to feel like I’m acting immorally or sinfully. My morals tell me that it’s wrong to participate in that sort of conversation with anyone you’re not associated with intimately or interested in romantically - and especially not with a married person.

Any comments or advice would be helpful. God bless!
A married man is flirting with you. This is not harmless fun. End it.

Luna
 
Sparrowhawk–Whenever an inner voice or your gut warns you of anything–listen! Above all else, listen! Back off. Extricate yourself as quickly and as unobtrusively as you can, but get out of the situation. Immediately! I don’t know whether it’s been God, my guardian angel, my conscience, a shred of common sense, or an amalgamation of them all, but EVERY time I’ve failed to heed them, I’ve had need for regrets. Whenever you find yourself in a situation “where there’s a strange electricity feeling” in the air–get out! Take heed that you’re being warned that you’re in danger and remove yourself, whether it’s a place, such as a building or street or at an event such as a gathering in the home of an acquaintance, or whether it’s the company you’re with, even if the person or people aren’t strangers. Somehow God has granted these early warnng sensations and we need to listen. (I think of it as God’s protective internal radar.) In every instance that I can recall when I didn’t listen to my inner warning system, it was because I was trying to be polite and didn’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Please don’t make the same mistake.

This guy could be of any religion, or none. He could be from another country, or across the street. He might even be a jailbird who will get around to asking you for money. Investment “advisors” and bookkeepers who steal money, philandering spouses, child molestors, bigamists, and the Ted Bundy’s of the world are all successful because they’re con artists who’ve wormed their way into the trust of other people. This man needs no explanation! If you sever all contact and cut off his access to you, as others have explained, THAT will BE his explanation. Absolutely, do NOT, under any circumstance, “give him a chance to prove himself!” If he sends you any more e-mails, mark them as spam, unread, and get them out of your computer. Please! I shall pray for you, Little Bird!
 
You don’t have to suddenly cut him dead as you say.

You can write a formal or friendly email just saying that this is the last one you will be sending. Whether you want to give him a reason that is your personal choice but I do recommend what the others have said. That you do need to end it. Everyone is right when they say that.

Otherwise next he will have your mobile number - harmless? What next?

It may be nothing but you are uncomfortable so just end it like you started it or with that final good by email. Of which he may well continue to email but send them to your junk box and delete without opening. Good luck to you
 
If you lived in America, I’d recommend turning this over to a vice squad. Let them deal with him and take him out of circulation. I don’t know if your law enforcement tries to reel in guys like this, or not, but this has all the earmarks of, “What fantastic luck I’m having! My company is sending me to Suchandsuch City, and since that’s only 50 miles from where you live, I really want to meet you. Blah, blah, blah.” You could wind up as another “missing” person.

Please let us know what happens. I’m praying for you and others in similar situations.
 
Thank you everyone 🙂

Earlier this week he sent me another email talking about everyday things, but a couple of times he spoke about me being “sexy”. So I just didn’t reply and planned to cut off or limit contact.

This morning I got a new email from him, asking: “Does it bother you when I call you sexy?” I told him yes. Maybe by being honest with him, he will realise that he needs to stop using that sort of language.
 
This morning I got a new email from him, asking: “Does it bother you when I call you sexy?” I told him yes. Maybe by being honest with him, he will realise that he needs to stop using that sort of language.
Sparrowhawk, I really think that it’s not just his calling you "sexy’ which is problematic, but the very fact that he’s married yet having conversations with a single woman over the internet at all. Really, truly, end this now.
 
Sparrowhawk, I really think that it’s not just his calling you "sexy’ which is problematic, but the very fact that he’s married yet having conversations with a single woman over the internet at all. Really, truly, end this now.
Thanks - you’re right. I will end it.

Do you think I should send him a message telling him so? Or just not reply if he emails me?
 
Thanks - you’re right. I will end it.

Do you think I should send him a message telling him so? Or just not reply if he emails me?
You can choose to just ignore him from here on out (and really, you met this guy on the internet and have only been talking about a week; it’s not rude and it won’t devestate him). Or you can send him a one or two sentence e-mail max saying something like, "Hi Bob. My circumstances have changed and so this needs to be my last e-mail to you. Best of luck with your marriage/family/life/whatever. -Sparrow. If you spend too much time explaining you just give him more fodder for convincing you why the online friendship should continue. Personally, I like option 1 better.

I definitely agree with the previous posters that you ought to filter all future messages immediately to your spam folder so you’re not tempted to read them.
 
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