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Bill_7154
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I don’t see this changing any time soon. And it’s my understanding that kids are having sex (actual intercourse) at younger and younger ages and see this as normal. They refer to it as ‘hooking up’ which separates the seriousness of it from what is actually happenng.
As anecdote: A young high shool kid told me of a girl (nothing against girls, this is just an example) who would engage in oral sex with males, whereas she would only have intercourse with her boyfriend. Her reasoning/thought pattern “I can only give you oral, we can’t have sex, because I have a boyfriend”. Things like that I don’t think happened when I was in high school in the early 80’s (and if they did they were rare). This young kid lead me to believe that this typle of thinking and behaving is pretty commonplace. ‘hooking up’ is look at casually as if it’s along the same lines of ‘going ot the mall’ or ‘hanging out’, etc… There seems to be little to no negative stigma for young teenagers to engage in sex (although it is my understanding that some might be labelled as the SL** word if they go from guy to guy to guy to guy. But if they have a boyfriend and regularly have sex, then break up and ‘hook up’ with some guy that same night this woud be seen as normal and socially acceptable.
This ‘hooking up’ thing takes things to a whole different level than when I was in high school. Also, very few kids would have sex in jr high. Now I think this is much more common. I don’t see it slowing down. Fear of HIV or AiDS or getting pregnant isn’t slowing it down.
Sorry to present such a bleak outlook but I see no reason to expect any diferent in the next couple of decades at least…
Good solid parenting will, I believe, have an impact, and a potenatilly very strong one. But this is within individual families and not representative of society in general.
Also, keep in mind that things have been headed in this direction for generations and generations, at least as far as what is seen as acceptable dress for females in society. And with testosterone fueled males in their teen years, it’s got to be like holding back a pack of wolves wanting to march off on one of those dog sleds. If said male has the tacit or overt approval of their father/uncles/older brothers…they are going to be wanting to be having free for all’s with as many girls as possible.
So it comes back to the parents, as it always does. What % of parents actively teach abstinance from a very young age to both their male and female children? And of those, how many do it well enough to overcome the teens desires mixed with the influence of other teens their age. I think it will take strong parental influence from an early age coupled with close parental supervision throughout their teenage years…and of course an open relationship where the teen actually feels comfortable and confident discussing such matters with their parents… and this needs to be built into the relationship long before puberty hits…
God Bless,
Bill
