What's the big deal with rings?

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Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?

As far as I’m concerned my marriage is not a physical object, nor does wearing or not wearing the ring signify the state of my marriage. Frankly, the various theories wrt men not wedding rings sounds down right silly. Some of us just never liked wearing jewelry before and find it uncomfortable, even watches.
 
HerCrazierHalf said:
Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?

As far as I’m concerned my marriage is not a physical object, nor does wearing or not wearing the ring signify the state of my marriage. Frankly, the various theories wrt men not wedding rings sounds down right silly. Some of us just never liked wearing jewelry before and find it uncomfortable, even watches.
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My husband hates wearing his too. I finally gave up pestering him to wear it. :rolleyes:

Speaking from a wife’s point of view:

We are very competitive with other women. We like them to know that you are taken and committed so don’t even think about it.

It’s also a personal reminder to the wearer of that same commitment.

It’s not a necessity, but it is very important to us. Please wear it for her sake. :o
 
Think about what your wife said when she put it on your finger at your wedding:
My Crazier Half, take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.

Your wedding ring is a constant reminder from your wife that she loves you and is faithfully committed to you, and that she asked for the grace of God on that particular gift of jewelry. That’s what the big deal is about. The custom of the finger selected is based in an old belief that the circulation from that finger goes straight back to the wearer’s heart.

Talk to your wife about it. It may be the wrong ring for you–wrong size, wrong width, or wrong for your profession. I know many loggers, for instance, who wear theirs on a breakable chain around their necks. There were too many logging accidents where a man lost his finger because equipment caught hold of his wedding ring and pulled his finger (or all the skin and flesh on the outside of the bone, anyway) right off. I know other people who only wear their fancy wedding bands for special occasions, wearing a very plain and a very thin replacement band on a daily basis because it is more practical.
 
A wedding ring, particularly in the Catholic faith, is a covenant. I think it is good for married people to wear their wedding rings/bands. I believe it is a reminder as well as an outward sign that one is committed to another for life.

I love wearing my wedding ring.
 
It’s a symbol, and if its important to your spouse than wearing it is a nice gift to them. Depending on where you live, not wearing it could be sending signals you don’t intend to send.

Was never a jewelry person and I’m still not. When I was in the Navy, the risk of degloving my finger while either moving around the ship or climbing around the aircraft meant I wore it on my dog-tag chain around my neck instead, which I liked better. I only had to wear it when in-port ashore on liberty.
 
Graceful_Lamb said:
A wedding ring, particularly in the Catholic faith, is a covenant. I think it is good for married people to wear their wedding rings/bands. I believe it is a reminder as well as an outward sign that one is committed to another for life.

I love wearing my wedding ring.
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It’s a SIGN of that covenant. Not the covenant itself. But I think you meant that. 😉

I only wear the wedding band. The engagement ring was always catching on stuff and made the ring less comfortable. Recently I had to buy a new inexpensive ring from Target. My hands have swollen up. Think it’s my medicine. 🤷
 
HerCrazierHalf said:
Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?

As far as I’m concerned my marriage is not a physical object, nor does wearing or not wearing the ring signify the state of my marriage. Frankly, the various theories wrt men not wedding rings sounds down right silly. Some of us just never liked wearing jewelry before and find it uncomfortable, even watches.
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A wedding ring is symbol of love and commitment. I understand that some men are not jewelry people…however, if your wife is the sentimental type, or asks you to wear one, it is important to her that u do.
You can save your original ring, and get a thinner one, say 2mm one, or do what electricians do, and wear a black rubber one.
So no excuses…🙂
 
Convert_in_99 said:
It’s a SIGN of that covenant. Not the covenant itself. But I think you meant that. 😉

I only wear the wedding band. The engagement ring was always catching on stuff and made the ring less comfortable. Recently I had to buy a new inexpensive ring from Target. My hands have swollen up. Think it’s my medicine. 🤷
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Thanks for the correction, because I thought it was part of the covenant. Now I know. 😉

I don’t wear my engagement ring for similar reasons.
 
HerCrazierHalf said:
Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?
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It’s the meaning behind it, that’s why. And also the sign that one is already “reserved”.
 
Joe won’t wear his.
Says he’s afraid of losing it.
All I can say is, it hurts my feelings.
I wear HIS ring.
🤷
 
HerCrazierHalf said:
Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?

As far as I’m concerned my marriage is not a physical object, nor does wearing or not wearing the ring signify the state of my marriage. Frankly, the various theories wrt men not wedding rings sounds down right silly. Some of us just never liked wearing jewelry before and find it uncomfortable, even watches.
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It’s an outward sign of your commitment. I find rings uncomfortable to wear as well. But I can honestly say I’m looking forward to wearing my wedding ring after I get married in October. You could view it as a mortification and offer it up for the sins of you and your wife. Saints throughout the years have practiced physical mortification in various degrees of severity. From hair-shirts to flagellation. You could view it as a small inconvenience that you are willing to bear for your soul and the soul of your wife.
 
I just noticed your signature quote. – is your wearing a ring important to your wife?
 
mommy_k said:
I just noticed your signature quote. – is your wearing a ring important to your wife?
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Yes, which is why I wear it this far, more or less. But it really really bugs me.

Well that and the logic of “to warn women know I’m off limits” or “as a reminder” seems like a rather troubling reason in some respects.
 
Its also blessed at the wedding. Every time I look at mine, or it spins and is uncomfortable (which is often because I play piano and it gets in my way), I’m reminded to pray for my husband.
 
HerCrazierHalf said:
Happily married for 2 years tomorrow and I can honestly say I hate wearing my ring. Why is it so important for men to wear wedding bands?

As far as I’m concerned my marriage is not a physical object, nor does wearing or not wearing the ring signify the state of my marriage. Frankly, the various theories wrt men not wedding rings sounds down right silly. Some of us just never liked wearing jewelry before and find it uncomfortable, even watches.
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Do as you please, my husband and I have been married 11 years and neither of us wears a ring.
 
After more than 10 years of marriage, my husband took his ring off and only wore it once more when we attended a public event. Twenty-plus years later I am still hurt that he won’t wear it. But then I don’t think he loves me much, either. Marriage is hard enough without making it harder. Wear your ring. :sad_bye:
 
My husband and I both have Claddagh rings as our wedding bands. We both liked that idea. I always wear mine. He wears his on special occasions and when he goes away for work or to visit family. It bothers his fingers. I knew before we were married that he wasn’t a ring kind of guy. As a wedding gift, I gave him a crucifix that he has not taken off except once, to get it fixed. And he bugged me about taking it to the jeweler’s for him so he could wear it again. I can live with that.

It is becoming common (in the Marines at least) for married guys to get tattooed bands because while they want to wear a ring, and they do when home, they can’t wear it in the field. Now that is love! 👍

Just throwing it out there for all you electricians, guys afraid of losing rings and guys that don’t like wearing them. 😃
 
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