When do Catholic girls start seriously contemplating marriage?

[Mamselle_Duroc]

I started really considering marriage as a vocation when I was 12. There followed six years of really wrestling with discernment. It helped that two of my girlfriends and I made a pact not to date until we were 18. Then my 18th birthday came round and there was just…peace. It’s hard to describe, but I felt suddenly utterly sure that God was going to work things out for me to be married.

Wow, that sounds a lot like me… though I haven’t found the Fellow yet.

I really, really wanted marriage all through my early and mid teen years. One of my dearest friends was married quite young, on the verge of eighteen, and I wanted to follow in her footsteps. Unlike her, however, when my fifteenth birthday came along I wasn’t engaged (I never regretted, though, turning down that little boy who proposed to me when we were both six years old! ). So, as I was a bit inclined to melodrama and whatnot, I decided that it must be a sign that marriage wasn’t my vocation… but I still wanted to be a wife and mother.

When I hit eighteen, I got the same peaceful feeling. It was actually one of the most difficult years of my life, so perhaps the realization that there’s so much beauty and love today that I might not have tomorrow stopped me from obsessing too much over the future. Now I’m living day-by-day, trying to serve God in the moment, and trusting that He has the future in hand.

So my answer is the same as many others… I’ll seriously contemplate marriage when I meet Mr. Right. Today I’m learning to contemplate on God.

 

[SomeCatholicGuy]

Hey - if anyone knows any nice Catholic boys in the vicinity of Tennessee/Kentucky (and there aren’t many Catholics here to begin with!) - send 'em my way!

Where’s the application?

 

[seafoamgreen]

Hey SomeCatholicGuy - there is not yet an official application - but I’m always willing to make new friends.

 

[Marie_Duffy]

When they meet the right guy.

Yes, that was my experience, too!