No that’s not what I said. He is welcomed and has been since his arrival. However, it’s many of us elderly parishioners who no longer feel like it’s our parish.
Jim
I totally understand what you mean. When you said, “
To tell you the truth, I’d rather see my parish closed and merged with another larger parish, than what we have now,” though, I think you see how that sounds.
I belonged to a parish that had a priest who came in and changed things radically. He wasn’t foreign-born; he just had a very different way of doing things than any previous pastor and he was very energetic about changing things very quickly. A lot of parishioners did change over to a nearby parish, because in that case there were several parishes within a ten-mile radius. It was very hard on the oldest parishioners; literally, there were a lot of tears, especially when there were funerals for friends that were nothing like these parishioners had always imagined these funerals would be. It was extremely hard.
The parish I grew up in has a parish administrator who is in residence at at neighboring larger parish. That doesn’t necessarily mean you get an English-speaking jubilarian priest who’s being a hero for you instead of retiring. Sometimes, it means you get the young priest who is straight out of seminary…that is, the pastor you have now, only less experienced than he is now. That is what happens when your parish is absorbed by another parish and not closed.
The parishes who really have it hard are the ones who get a radical change very quickly and have no alternative within an hours’ drive. They have no choice. If you have a choice, make the best choice for you. It is hard, but this is the reality of living in a part of the world that has not had enough vocations from its own people to meet their needs. It isn’t easy on the priests, because they can’t be what they’re not. They’re willing to be what they can, and what else can you ask? The priest you want simply did not go to seminary. He wasn’t ordained, he’s not available. That’s one reality of the shortage of priestly vocations. Within that reality, we are fortunate that there are priests willing to come and serve where they are needed, even if it requires adjustments.