But why don’t they think attending Mass is necessary? Because they weren’t taught that it is necessary. The milk toast kind of teachings these parents received isn’t sufficient to stand up against the onslaught of the secular culture in which we live. So, of course all they care about is their children exceling in some secular pursuit–that’s where the money and the glory are, as far as they’re concerned. I don’t fault the lay people who taught them nothing but love, love, love (whatever that was supposed to mean), but those who were in charge of RE at the time and the priests and religious who ran RE instruction, who themselves thought all people needed to hear was to love one another, forgetting that they had a good theological background on which to draw, but those they were teaching did not.
As late as the 90’s I was given material to teach junior high students that was pure nonsense and didn’t have a scrap of real Church teaching in it–nothing that would stand them in good stead as adults–something they could remember when needed.
Good RE has to start early and it has to be solid teaching, not just “be nice” to one another kind of stuff. As an RE person you know this. But the damage has been done. The parents cannot give their kids what they don’t have themselves–neither the proper teaching, nor the desire to know it, cherish, and live it. We have a lot of catching up to do. It could take several generations before people will once again take teaching their kids actual Church teachings/precepts as important/necessary.