loveCatholic, I think I will join your support group at Yahoo.
I indeed am married to a semi-fallen away Catholic. My story is much too long here, but sufficed to say, we married at a courthouse when we both were fallen away, and since then I came back to the Church in full, then we married in the Church, but he says he only did that to please me, not to become some holier than person, like he says I am.
I admit I am a judgmental person, it is one of my biggest flaws, and coming back to the Church has probably made me be more sensitive to sin, kinda scrupulous, and it is just very hard to explain. But I guess I have an excuse to not being more active in the Church than I am now, or was even last year. When I pick at his flaws and failings, and he ignores or retreats from the “teaching” I have given him, I feel like maybe I am not a good CAtholic, so if not so good, then why bother doing any more in the Church? It is stupid, but I feel stuck, and I hate feeling stuck. I would love for both of us to join some groups at Church and get involved and do things with other Catholics, but he has no desire to do that, and doing things by myself seems like the opposite of what a family should do to get closer. So I don’t know, I am stuck and unhappy, bigtime.
I also have fallen away siblings, and MANY fallen away friends and coworkers. It is sad. Divorce and the secular society have destroyed many cradle Catholic’s ideas of what is God’s will…and I am a living example of what not to do when your spouse is not interested in religion, spirituality, or even prayer. Don’t nag them, it doesn’t work, and often makes things worse.
Sue
our oldest girl,40 now and stuggling with cancer, became mormon 20 years ago, and has 3 little girls… then as a result our oldest son, 38, rejected all religion and I really can’t blame him what with all the arguements that were flying around at the time of his sisters conversion. His teens boys weren’t raised in any faith. The last is our youngest son who is basically just lazy about his faith and doesn’t think it’s very cool. At 28 he’s too old for that attitude. He needs a good Catholic woman to influence him. We have 2 daughters, 36 and 35, who are active Catholics…they both work for our Catholic school here and the one’s 4 kids go to or have graduated from it. Unfortunately her husband…sort of mormon…left her recently after 18 years of marriage. It’s a really tough situation. 
The other’s kids are still too young and she’s considering Catholic homeschooling. Her husband is a non-practicing Catholic.
