Who needs a friend?

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Actually, this post is for anyone who wants to develop new Catholic friendships. People who are likewise minded who believes in the Church, in the Gospel and strives to live a holy life (although it is a lifetime struggle).

So, I guess the best question is what kind of friends are you looking for? Most of all, what kind of friend are you?
 
I try to befriend everyone. We are all children of God.

However, if I really had to pick and choose, I’d be friends with more Catholics who take their faith very seriously. Sadly, there’s a shortage of young serious Catholics in my parish, let alone young Catholic adults in general.
 
That’s true… Being Catholic and actually having a spiritual life are two completely different things, unfortunately…
 
I am looking for friends who will help in effort to bring about the triumph of the Immaculate Heart of Mary in the world spoken of by Our Lady of Fatima.

Please join me in prayer, friend:

"Lord Jesus Christ, who suffered agony in the Garden of Gethsemane on behalf of sinful mankind, through the infinite merits of Your Sacred Heart and the Immaculate Heart of Mary, and for sake of your most holy mother’s tears, please pray to your Father presently to send more than twelve Legions of angels to defend us, to bring about the triumph of the Immaculate Heart of Mary in the world, and to imprison in Hell Satan and all the evil spirits who prowl about the world seeking the ruin of souls. Amen.”

Jesus asked Peter during His agony in the Garden of Gethsemane, “thinkest thou that I cannot now pray to my Father, and he shall presently give me more than twelve legions of angels?” (Matthew 26:53).
 
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what kind of friends are you looking for?
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What I’m looking in a friendship is genuinety

Someone who doesn’t pretend or act. Someone who doesn’t act as if they’re perfect and never struggle with their faith. Someone who doesn’t try to smile all the time even when they’re sad. Someone who’s not afraid to open up. Someone who wants to get to know me and wants me to get to know them. Someone who doesn’t have hidden motives for being my friend

So when you ask what “kind” of friend I want, I would say the best description would be human, without masks ☺️
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That depends. I have friends who I talk to about faith and religion. A friend that I talk to about theology. A friend that I talk to about my love life and hers to me. A friend that just tells jokes and laugh together. A friend who I talk to about my struggles on sin. Etc.

I can be someone who listens and tries to help, but I can also be someone who speaks and asks for your advice. I’m someone who tries his best to follow the Lord, but sometimes I stray away and try to come back. I can be strict and hard, or fun and casual. I can try and comfort you when you’re sad, but sometimes I’m the one who breaks down and cry.

I think friendship as a 2 way street. We both decide what kind of friends we want to be. So… what kind of friend am I? My answer would be the same… with all of my weakness, sinful, fallen nature, I’m human ☺️

Just my opinion
 
Interesting answer… Having different friends for different aspects of your life that both share more in common. It does make sense when you think that we should not “waste our time” speaking of spiritual things with someone who has little if any spirituality. Or maybe the opposite, sharing trivial things of “down to earth” people with those who are too scrupulous to follow up without judging you…
 
I am who I am. Can message me if ya feel like talking. No interest in providing a resume to make a friend.
 
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This topic of friendship is something that I treasure very much. I believe a good friendship is a safe tool to help us grow in holiness. That is why I posted the question… To see different perspectives on the subject…
 
Well It’s not really like that.

Most of my friends are Catholic, so to speak. We met from our catholic high school, but of course sometimes we vary in our devotion and faith.

I have 2 friends that we often time talk to each other about our love life. One is very active at her church choir and a talented pianist and singer. The other is active at charismatic. Both have beautiful faith and relation with God. My friend who just jokes around and laugh together is also very active at his parish choir.

It’s not that we never talked about our faith. It’s more of what started out our friendship and kept the ship sailing up till now. Of course, having the same faith does allow us to connect even further
 
I’ve been pretty much solo my whole life. Moved a lot during school years, and then again on my own after school. Has good and bad points.

I’m able to make friends with people no matter where I’m at, but at same time I don’t have any close friends.

I’m OK with that, it’s all I know.
 
Someone positive and virtuous, who will remain by my side until the very end.
 
I moved my whole life from city to city, country to country… It’s always hard to let go, uproot and let the roots grow deeper again till the next time. You kind of need to learn to be on your own sometimes.
 
what a lovely topic. I was just discussing friendship in Christ with a new friend today. Its so nice to be able to sit and chat about God, pray together and discuss the Bible and our Charism.
 
True… It always reminds me of that verse “How very good and pleasant it is when kindred live together in unity…” (Psalm 133:1)
 
It must be reality because any friend of mine can expect that from me.
 
My infj personality type makes it sooo hard to be friends with genuinely nice people (I usually don’t care about stuff like that but the description is way too accurate, it scares me).

I would like a friend who respects my boundaries and isn’t overly emotional (ie not loud and too excitable). It would be nice if they are practicing Catholics who aren’t either super conservative or liberal. People who are aware of why they have their views, instead of just believing whatever the popular opinion is. Values logic over emotion, but doesn’t put aside valuing emotions as well. Someone who can spend a long time discussing politics or religion. Someone who is a better Catholic than me but someone who has a similar personality and likes/dislikes. Someone who’s nurturing and cares about me enough to call me out.

What kind of friend am I? A horrible one :confused: I’m the friend that stays at home and makes all kind of excuses not to leave the house, or to leave early if I actually hang out with others. I don’t talk about personal problems and I stick to events (which really, really bores my friends). I do know how to lighten the mood, though. For some reason, people are drawn to me when they have a huge problem, so I guess that’s a good thing.

It’s weird tbh. In my mind I know what kind of friendships and intimacy I want, but in real life, I’d rather scoop out my eyes than to open up or be the person I want to be.
 
I would like a friend who lives nearby as all my close friends are long distance. I know this will sound negative but it seems the older you get the more superficial your new relationships get and it makes me a lot less enthusiastic about getting ‘out there’ whatever that means and making the effort to meet people if the results are so poor.

I also wouldn’t mind a Catholic friend or two.
 
Maybe this is a deficiency in me, but I never picked friends based on whether they were Catholic. Of course, anyone who disrespected my faith or was overly concerned with pushing their own on me was off the friend list fast, but I’ve actually enjoyed having friends from many different religions or no religion and hearing different points of view. I generally pick friends based on whether we have shared interests and get along and have fun together. If someone happens to be Catholic, maybe that’s something we can both enjoy together as friends.

Because there are a lot of Catholics out there and some enjoy what I do, a percentage of my friends are Catholic and a subset of that percentage are pretty good Catholics. I don’t talk about Catholicism with them all day, but if I mention Fatima or St. Anthony, I know I won’t get a blank stare in return.
 
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