Yes, that is the standard assertion by Christians, but does it really make sense? I mean, I’m guessing that probably no one goes to hell because they actively thought, “I hate God and his goodness! I want to go to hell and suffer forever!” I can’t imagine that any sane person, regardless of their attachment to the pleasures of sin, would choose eternal hell over eternal bliss if they were fully aware of the reality of both.
The fact of the matter is, probably no one on this side of the grave can really appreciate the gravity of their actions and their consequences. It’s only after people have died that we hear testimonials like “I realized how incredibly sinful and guilty I was! Oh, if I only had been a better person, but my damnation is the obvious consequence now!” Yes, once we actually stand before God our disposition becomes obvious, but why not make us more aware of that now? Why does the terrible torment of hell only become obvious once it’s too late to choose otherwise?
Maybe God could drop the “damned” person into hell for a day, and then ask him if that’s what he really wants?