I am reverent towards the Lord Jesus.
I find this mindset very disturbing. I usually enjoy your posts, and normally agree with you, but on this I disagree. I believe that if the people are not allowed to urge the clergy to follow their own rules, we create a dangerous divide between the clergy and the laity. A divide where the clergy don’t have to follow their own published rules because “they know better” or 'there are other circumstances" , but we, the laity, are told that if we do that we are being “relativists”.
I can not tell a priest, “This is not a sin for me. You don’t understand the complexity of my life and the tradeoffs that I have to make”, so they should not tell me, “The GIRM is just a guideline, I do not follow it because I know better.” That creates confusion among the laity.
And I agree with you on this.
But I don’t think most priests are saying, “The GIRM is just a guideline, I don’t follow it because I know better.”
I think that there is a lot more to Canon Law and the rubrics than what the average layman can keep up with, and that most of us are not in full possession of all the knowledge that a priest and bishop have acquired through literal years of study.
There are a lot of church documents, and even though many laypeople have read through the documents, most of us have not enjoyed the advantage of sitting in classes and having these documents explained to us by great teachers and priests who know all of background, theology, and interpretations of these documents, and then being tested on written and oral examinations about what we have learned.
Our bishop emeritus is in his 70s and has spent his entire life specializing in Canon Law. I would not even begin to suggest that I know something he doesn’t know, or that I have an understanding of church rubrics that he doesn’t have!
I think there is a “pastoral” angle to this that we, as non-pastors, can’t appreciate. I think that the priests and bishops have a better understanding than we do of how to properly, without disobedience to the Church, balance “rubrics” and “taking care of their sheep.”
I also think that the Holy Spirit has given each of us spiritual gifts, and we each need to use our own gifts and not try to use gifts that we don’t have, or tell others with different gifts than us how to use those gifts. I don’t have the "gift of pastoring/shepherding (see Ephesians 4:11, and in fact, the entire chapter). So why should I try to tell someone with the gift of pastoring/shepherding how to pastor/shepherd?
I think that priests and bishops don’t speak up about issues like this and tell us their reasons behind their actions because they know that we are speaking out of ignorance, and out of their love for us, they choose to allow us to chitter chatter like little children rather than telling us straight out that we don’t know what we’re talking about. They have so much to do, so many important issues of faith and morals to deal with on a daily basis, and so many human tragedies to face in their flock–it’s no wonder they choose to leave the little squabbles alone.