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Lokabrenna
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I can speak to this. I don’t really care for children, and I don’t plan on ever being a mother. Of my two brothers, one became a father to an adorable baby boy in March and the other has chosen not to have children. Instead, he takes care of a bunch of furry and scaly babies (his cats are all rescue animals) and him and his wife seem to be doing well with their little zoo.I’ve never had any interest whatsoever in generating a new life. I find other people’s children mostly adorable and charming, and I spend my working life in a place that is all about children-but I’m glad to live a life without them. I used to think that was part of being gay, but then I started meeting gay people who had children and really loved everything to do with parenting. I’ve also got straight friends who have no interest whatsoever in becoming parents, so in my experience sexual orientation doesn’t come with or without a biological clock. Most of my straight friends have kids though and are terrific parents as far as I can see.
I don’t understand the whole new life thing and would never claim to, but at the same time you can’t understand what it was like to live my life before or what it’s like to live it now that I’ve made a commitment to live without a partner. I’ve lived almost as long without one as I did with one now, and it’s gotten easier. There are still many things I miss, but sex is actually the least of them.